Jun 13 2012: I have been saying this for about four years, I once believed that I was a misfortune, that by some flaw I was deserving of the ill effects of people, of things and of circumstance. I have turned my life around by 360 degrees. Just by changing the way I want to see things. I lost my family, I rebuilt, lost my house in a flood and I rebuilt, I walked away from a bad marriage and lost everything and that is when I knew that Perception is Everything, I am happy, working and put myself in a place that makes me happy. My next line is Don't tell me I can't, only I can say that to me.
Jun 12 2012: I lived with a narcissistic psychopath for 25 years, not for choice. But I will say this. When I first realized that there was never new things with this person, meaning he never ever changed. He didn't adapt to anything to cause change in himself. He used everything to his own advantage. In all the research I found, time and time again I would read that this behavior is learned at a relevantly young age, between 5-9 yrs old. What happens is the emotional or frontal grey portion of the brain enlarges and grows abnormally. Most narcissistic people will have higher rates of illness as it associated with
the stress to play people to get what they want.
I believe there is a distinct difference when an individual strives for success, he won't be wasting his time with you or I if that is the single minded goal , I believe also, that how we are taught to deal with gain and loss will also provide and accurate maintenance to achieve success, or it can cripple the ability and to any degree all the way to narcissism.
Jun 12 2012: With my children, instead of waiting for them to be curious and asking questions, I started conversations like this.... Did you know the sky really isn't blue. and go on and on and on...with everything from under a rock to the universe...Then when they got older to keep the interest alive, I played, "What if" and I would give a scenario of a person riding a bike up hill and the wind blowing thirty miles an hour, how would you find out how fast he was going, and what if you wanted to know how much muscle he was using...This would teach my children that all problems can be solved, you must first look in the right direction to find answers. All three of my children are smart and I am thankful. Only one put himself through college.
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the stress to play people to get what they want.
I believe there is a distinct difference when an individual strives for success, he won't be wasting his time with you or I if that is the single minded goal , I believe also, that how we are taught to deal with gain and loss will also provide and accurate maintenance to achieve success, or it can cripple the ability and to any degree all the way to narcissism.
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