Dec 7 2011: Objectification definitely come with a form of power and adulation. The same can be said with living up to societal expectations: we also glorify the 3.5 kid nuclear family with white picket fences. But it's not the only way to live. It's important that we showcase that.
Dec 7 2011: But then again when you watch an action movie or a police drama, you don't really think life works like that. Fiction is fiction. So why is there assumption that porn is any different?
Dec 7 2011: Oh, the answer starts here with us, don't sell the whole system short. Soon the baby boomers will have died out and their outdated morality with them (hopefully) then our generation will have more of a voice and lead the world to a more open curious and accepting future. Voluntary extinction is not the answer. :P
Dec 7 2011: Color me unconvinced. Your link seems more like a knee jerk reaction to social conditioning that sex is supposed to be something. Sex is always and has always been what you make of it. trying to put reins and blinders on it only drives it underground which is what got us in this mess with the kids in the first place. Drag it out into daylight and talk about it with an open mind. The answer is non-judgmental dialogue.
Dec 7 2011: All I'm going to answer to that is "perhaps to you." There is no cut and dried definition of what sex is. Maybe my girl likes to have her hair pulled and likes a little bit of extra thrill to give her goosebumps. It's not always about sweet wet and silky, sometimes a rougher edge that takes your breath away is also good. Limiting your definition narrows possibilities.
Dec 7 2011: One thing I find that is harmful to sexuality is the all or nothing approach when dealing with sex. The reason why so much pornography deals with more violence and degradation seems to be: "you stepped into this pond, you might as well get in over your head." If porn was more "mainstream" I think we would see a lot less of sexual violence in pornography. As it is because of the hard 18+ years or older boundary, which if you'll forgive me is a pipe dream now, sexuality in the media comes in two flavors: kissing and hand holding with chaste side view lovemaking set to flute music or full on semen drenched porn with some generic hard rock in the back ground. There is NOTHING out there that looks even remotely like the sex normal people are having. Children are watching porn, we need to take our heads out of the sand and deal with it in a responsible manner by showing what real sex is like as opposed to awkward leg positioning.
Dec 7 2011: But they really kinda should. We never went into specifics but there was always an understanding with my parents that all choices were there and it was ultimately up to the individual. There were some taboos of course as everyone is biased for or against things especially back in the early 80's. There was always a feeling that experimenting was okay as long as it was consentual but as in every other human endeavor not everyone likes everything. The important part is to be informed and respectful when trying out some more elaborate kinks, be it bondage or oxygen play. In the hands of a novice these games can turn dangerous or even deadly.
Dec 7 2011: I agree with Kelly, My parent never freaked out when they saw that I had found the porn stash. They simply were not judgmental and kept tabs on my state of mind making sure that I understood that porn is fiction.
Dec 7 2011: I think it's about taking more responsibility for our children's education all around. If you don't teach them about sex, someone else will be more than happy to do so and make money doing it. My concern with porn is how phallocentric it is. The woman is the center of attention but yet the pleasure is very male centric. Of course it's catered to males because of market demands and I think that biased view might be the most dangerous part. In pornography female pleasure comes second (if at all) and girls who receive a pornography education might see this as the norm thinking her pleasure as secondary.
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