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I'm passionate about

Fun as therapy, neuroscience, behaviour, evolutionary psychology -oh yeah and art, Im an artist - I forgot.

An idea worth spreading

An idea worth spreading is the knowledge just like dogs bite when they are in pain so too do humans.

Talk to me about

Anti social behaviours, neurobiological determinism. evolutionary psychology and art.

People don't know that I'm good at

yo-yoing. Shhhh....

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• A comment on Conversation: Are there any Handsome women out there?

  Mar 13 2012: Yep handsome doesnt cut it any more. Women want to be beautiful , men handsome. I'd rather think that if you called a woman that you fancied handsome your chances would be dramatically reduced. And if you thought she was handsome you probably wouldnt fancy her.
  Of course to think yourself handsome is perfectly OK.

• A comment on Conversation: Killing love by antidepressants to bring a desperate lover back to life. (Is extreme love a disease ?)

  Mar 2 2012: Oh and is love a disease? No, quite the opposite.

• A comment on Conversation: Killing love by antidepressants to bring a desperate lover back to life. (Is extreme love a disease ?)

  Mar 2 2012: Great question Sina. I had recently read about antidepressants making it hard for people to fall in love. Of course there are drugs that stimulate love as well... I did not consider however that not being able to fall inlove was a good idea. My instinctive reaction was "How horrible - not being able to fall in love."
  
  I understand your concern re. the extremities of love, but start taking love away and you start taking life away. Yes there are plenty of casualties in love and It does make for the great stories in history both tragic and otherwise.
  
  No, dont take love away.

• A comment on Conversation: What is happiness?

  Feb 28 2012: Its the chemicals jumping around. The more the merrier. Just a matter of what gets them flowing.

• A comment on Conversation: What is the most important or impressionable thing when you meet a new person for the first time?

  Feb 28 2012: Lauren, be wary, we can be fooled by the senses. If we are seeking a mate we might look for different things than say if we were looking to make a sale or diagnose an Aspie. How do we filter our individual worlds/
  Hmmm. I havent time right now .Its late. I like your questions. They make me think .Thankyou.

• A comment on Conversation: What questions do you wish people would ask you?

  Feb 28 2012: It would be beneficial if they asked me questions that i mgiht have some hope of answering - If an answer is what they are seeking.
  Given this, they might like to ask me a question about love.

• A reply on Conversation: When should you , if at all tell a work colleague, he an Aspie?

  Feb 27 2012: You're right Kris, If i may? Tomorrow I shall go with great news . Hey man you're an Aspie , how cool. Reality is I do think its cool. But that's my facination with the novelty and interesting processing and behaviour. For him i believe it has been difficult, has led to anxiety, depression and isolation. It has probably led to huge cover ups and I know it has led to failed relationships. I dont see him as some poor guy and i'm not sure why you suggest that i think Aspies are someone to disdain? I am acting as i would with any other friend who i thought needed help. He just happens to have Aspergers. Whole point is Krisz, I actually feel compelled to bring about change that will firstly benefit him, the clients and the team. and will ensure that everyone is safe.By the way it was remiss of me not to respond to your recommendations. (You're not an Aspie are you?) I will view the talk you suggested and i am hearing what you are saying. I cant locate the gene and the diagnosis has not been made. Geeeze Krisz, there's no problem at all! Take care.

• A comment on Conversation: When should you , if at all tell a work colleague, he an Aspie?

  Feb 27 2012: Thanks Allan and Robin and Daniel for your thoughts.
  I must get back to my original plea, that I truly respect the man in question. I consider him a friend as well as colleague and I am acting, I hope, with his best interests at heart. I wish for him well being as i do for most.
  I hear your words about being straightforward , sensitive and honest. I hear your criticisms re. judgement and labelling. And i hear the words about friendship. In the end i will decide my way forward from the perspective of a friend. I'm not so worried about being sued, only that i take the right approach to benefit him and the clients. I'm not particularly happy about broaching this subject online but i needed some guidance and further food for thought. I appreciate all your comments. I am particularly agreeable to the suggestion of providing supervision but the money is not there to provide this all of the time. It would be the best answer.
  
  With regard to the suing, I might also be sued for trying to save a drowning man or hugging a participant at graduation but I'll always take that risk if i think its the right thing to do. The alternative is that I might not take any responsibility at all. Let it go. Let someone higher up take responsibility. Simply address the various behaviours in performance review and if he doesnt meet them, then what?????????
  
  This issue is so hard for me not because he is a work colleague but because he is a friend. I need to take some action and i want to get it right.
  
  Thanks again and i really wish i could speak to an Aspie who has been in a similar position. Perhaps this is the advice that i would cherish most. I'm guessing none of you are? Do any of you have Aspie friends?

• A reply on Conversation: When should you , if at all tell a work colleague, he an Aspie?

  Feb 27 2012: Thanks for that Daniel.

• A reply on Conversation: When should you , if at all tell a work colleague, he an Aspie?

  Feb 27 2012: Thanks Allan, I am back and forth with this topic and people's views here in this forum are taking me back and forth again. working with at risk young people where he is unsupervised, poses a few risks. On the social side of the job there are obvious shortcomings but he has over time learned to listen and pass on info that he hears. This is useful. His job is to work with young people and panel beat and spray paint cars. He is brilliant at doing this and providing tasks for the yp. His knowledge of cars and their parts and when they were made is amazing. at team meetings he zones out and misses a lot. he does not do very well at remembering stuff said in conversation , probablypartly because of the anxiety such situations create and possibly because he simply has difficulty processing social interaction from the typical perspective. I am thinking that if he actually had literature to work with and the problems (and they are problems) were out in the open then we could better manage the situation.