Mallory Chan

Denver, CO, United States

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Mallory Chan
Posted almost 4 years ago
Why don't people look into each others eyes anymore, it makes it hard to say hello and creates a less friendly community.
I agree that eye contact is incredibly important for communication. However, like Mr Kebabsoup mentioned, eye contact can be a truly difficult thing for some people to do, especially when they are not emotionally well or do not have much self esteem. I think those that find eye contact easy should feel lucky that they have the confidence to open themselves up in this way so effortlessly. It is something that I have to make a conscious effort to do, and I wish I didn't have to work so hard at it. Please be patient with people like me ;)
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Mallory Chan
Posted almost 4 years ago
Why don't people look into each others eyes anymore, it makes it hard to say hello and creates a less friendly community.
Debra, I've been on TED for only a couple hours and I've already seen half a dozen of your comments and have enjoyed them immensely! Your kindness for other people and of different perspectives is admirable :) Your replies are fun and light, and you challenge others' comments and questions in a way that is nonjudgmental and provokes real thought about the way we think about life and the people we live with. You are so encouraging and I had to tell you how refreshing that was.
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Mallory Chan
Posted almost 4 years ago
Reduce all the elements in your life that give you comfort to a minimum, and see how much you get done in a day, week, month, year.
I love this idea and that you've presented our problems with inaction from a different perspective - not that action is hard, but that inaction is so easy. I think one way we could cull excess luxury from our lives is to ask the question, "Do I need it or do I want it?" There will certainly be a wide range in how strict people define the word "need," but I think asking the question in the first place is a good start. Definitely something I need to do more often.