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Sunny Qureshi

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Can we get "Unconditional Love" from people not related? (other than siblings, parents or wife)

I was wondering why dont we get unconditional love from people not related. Siblings or parents are in fact spiritually connected while friends and acquaintances will love you for ECONOMICAL or Conditional reasons even in the most advanced nations, why is that?? Or Is it sometimes the opposite?


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    Mar 6 2012: For unconditional acceptance it is necessary to spend time with that person! as was mentioned below by one of the members.
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      Mar 10 2012: Dear Sunny,
      I do not feel it is wise to measure the time spent with someone to determine the depth of unconditional love and acceptance. There are so many different levels of relationship, which all may have very different dynamics. To me, the quality of time spent with anyone is more important than quantity of time spent.

      When we know ourselves (respect, have compassion, empathy and acceptance for ourselves), we seem to connect faster with ALL people...in my experience:>) We project to the world what we have in our hearts, and with that projection, we often encourage others to connect in the same way. Of course, there are relationships in which we spend a lot of time...family, roommates, partners, special friends, etc. I believe we can connect very deeply with people we do not spend a lot of time with, and I have done that on many occasions.

      One beautiful relationship comes to mind:
      I was sitting next to a women in an airport...both our planes were delayed and we started chatting...for a couple hours...until our planes were taking off. We both connected immediately, enjoyed the interaction, exchanged address/phone numbers...I was going home to Vermont...she was going home to Texas.

      We exchanged several cards and letters in the next few weeks, then I sustained a near fatal head/brain injury. When I regained consciousness, there were several letters of encouragement and support from this person, as well as from many others....thankfully for me:>)

      She continued to call and send many inspiriational messages throughout my recovery. About a year later, she was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and was given only a couple months to live. She asked if I would be with her at the end, and I was...I spent one of her last weeks with her. I felt incredibly close to this person...she reminded me a lot of my mother, as she was an older women. The time we spent was precious, although technically not a lot of time.

      I am grateful to have many relationships like that:>)
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        Mar 17 2012: Dear colleen, just excellent, you really have a beautiful way of explaining things, i'm addin you to my list of favorite members
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          Mar 17 2012: Thank you so much for that feedback Sunny. I am honored:>)

          Words, thoughts, feelings, ideas, opinions and beliefs, like everything in life, are to be shared with kindness and respect...in my humble perception:>)

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