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Sunny Qureshi

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Can we get "Unconditional Love" from people not related? (other than siblings, parents or wife)

I was wondering why dont we get unconditional love from people not related. Siblings or parents are in fact spiritually connected while friends and acquaintances will love you for ECONOMICAL or Conditional reasons even in the most advanced nations, why is that?? Or Is it sometimes the opposite?


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    Mar 5 2012: I agree with you, Linda, that we are talking about two or more types of love. There are different words to indicate the extent of this emotion such as affection, passion, empathy, compassion and many other but no one of them are quite love. In the same way, you may agree that pleasure; happiness and joy are not the same.

    Let us look at these emotions very attentively. Pleasure can be derived from anything that would satisfy our sense organs, such as food, sights, sounds and other stimulations. Happiness is of the mind. Good relationships, success in life and anything that satisfies our mind and ego will bring happiness. But joy is rare and unique. It is of our self, our being, our divinity. It has to be reached.
    Pleasures are of fleeting nature. They are soon replaced by their opposite pain. Happiness turns to unhappiness. Joy exists alone. Once reached it remains forever.

    I hope you will agree with me that to reach such joy we will have to overcome (transcend) mind. The ego will have to be dropped. Can you imagine the effort that is needed in such a spiritual practice?

    I am talking about that kind of unconditional LOVE that can exist along with JOY and not the love that surfaces and submerges in day to day living.

    Let us not be concerned about the source of love. Let us go ahead with the hypothesis the science document upholds. I am certain that that love cannot remain and flourish in the mind. Mind is an equipment for survival. Mind is logical and one of its constant function is comparison. The love that is created by mind is an illusion. An illusion that feeds the ego. Love has to be an experience.

    I shall continue as this space is a concern-
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      Mar 6 2012: I think you really understand CK. I posted above to Franz that the relationship never entered the physical and I almost put down it stayed in the spiritual realm but thought it might be pushing hoakey. Your analogy of joy transcending mind and ego compared to happiness is spot on. Very good description. What I was able to experience in one single relationship was something forever. And if you have something like it, it remains forever.

      Fascinating conversation.

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