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Randy Speck

Superintendent , Madison District Public Schools

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Why is it sometimes difficult to admit mistakes and say "I'm sorry"?

Admitting a mistake and then taking responsibility for it is not always easy and is sometimes not found in leadership. Why is that?

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    Feb 24 2012: Hi Randy.
    I think it depends on the person. From my experience I'd say some don't want to say they are sorry due to ego. Underneath the ego is the core issue though. Is it fear of looking stupid? Fear of not being respected? Fear of not being accepted?

    Depending on the situation it could also mean fear of losing your job, relationship or position...or power/control. I think on a very simple, basic level people want to feel heard, appreciated and if they admit a mistake then they are somehow flawed, 'wrong', or 'bad'.

    I believe 'mistakes' are only mistakes if you don't learn from them...if you learn something then they are lessons, examples, opportunities, chances, and gifts. Perhaps not the most comfortable kind, but they are a path to learning and growing.

    If you are being true and authentic to yourSELF, then you will know what is best...saying sorry doesn't necessarily mean you lost and they won or you are wrong and they are right...it just means you are making yourself accountable for the actions that you deem worthy of an apology. That takes courage and insight.

    That's my humble answer to your great question!
    With a smile,
    Tina

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