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Love and Compatibility does this include your immediate family?

So you are compatible with the person you have fallen in love with on so many levels, spiritually, physically and emotionally.

The only thing that is not compatible is your ethnic race for example; you are from Zimbabwe and the man you are in love with was from China. You both are from two different worlds yet so a like and share so much in common.

Are their people out there who have isolated their families from their marriages or relationships based on the extreme cultural differences?

If so do you think that to be compatible with someone you must have the same cultural background for your love to be truly compatible?

Are their people out there who still fight for their love regardless of their cultural differences?

Would love to hear your thoughts.

Blaire.

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    Feb 21 2012: I'm assuming that two people who marry are of the 'human race'. How extreme can differences be?

    Sure there are cultures out there who seem to have beliefs that are totally at odds with one another (for example : over the treatment of women) but I assume that if you fall in love with someone who holds a vastly different cultural belief, you must be willing to accept that it may be a bumpy road.

    At the end of the day, we are all human. We have more in common than we would sometimes like to think.
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    Feb 21 2012: My husband and I are from two totally different cultures. We have different levels of education. We have more differences than similarities.

    However, we have the most important thing in common....our faith. This singular fact, has kept our marriage strong.

    We have a deep respect for our commitment to the marriage. Although my family had difficulty accepting the fact I married outside my culture, I had no problem with it.....I have always seen myself belonging to one race...human.

    Having said that, it is very important to know everything you can about your future mate. Sometimes you just don't ask the right questions....and love is blind......and even if you ask the right questions, we tend to say what the other one wants to hear.......it is all very complicated.

    Take your time.......and pray about it....if you are spiritually inclined....

    Be Well.

    Mary
  • Feb 20 2012: Do the levels of love not override the cultural incompatibilities?! And together overcome any obstacle or barrier be it physical or theoretical?