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Ayesha Sayed

Student, UAEU


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Fear of success?

I recently read a quote that says: 'Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure'
I've been experimenting with ideas, fear,risks and allowing myself to work out my ideas and I've had amazing success so far, but there's this nagging fear of these astonishing results. It's as if I'm afraid of succeeding! Has anyone ever felt this? Why are we so afraid of things working out FOR us? And how can we remedy this?


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    Feb 17 2012: Quote: "I've been taught growing up that being superior is absolutely wrong, even if I ranked 3rd in the country or achieved anything"

    This expression of yours sheds light into why you fear success. Psychoanalytic therapies in which you think or meditate on how you arrived at your fear of success will help you overcome this fear.

    Many of our parents, in order to instill humility in us, went about it the wrong way. For in the long-run, we ended up not having enough self-esteem.

    I often use a quote on TED that goes: "Getting rid of a bad habit, is an undo-it-yourself project."

    Just like you, I also had a fear of success......until I realized what the root of the problem was. Once you find the root of your problem (fear), you can address it and correct it. It is different for all of us.

    Fear of success can be crippling, since the sufferer takes few risks, and makes only safe conservative choices.

    It could be that the person does not feel that their success has been earned or it could be that they fear outside forces may take away their success. The person can also be paralyzed with indecision.

    Sounds like you are on your way to solving your fear Ayesha!! Here are two more quotes to meditate on:

    "Self-trust is the first secret of success" Ralph Waldo Emerson

    "Positive self-esteem is my best chance for success." J. Lunden

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