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Ayesha Sayed

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Fear of success?

I recently read a quote that says: 'Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure'
I've been experimenting with ideas, fear,risks and allowing myself to work out my ideas and I've had amazing success so far, but there's this nagging fear of these astonishing results. It's as if I'm afraid of succeeding! Has anyone ever felt this? Why are we so afraid of things working out FOR us? And how can we remedy this?

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    Feb 16 2012: Thats quite an obscure fear, atleast to myself, Mainly because my fear is essentially that I WON'T become 'powerful beyond measure'.
    Is it possible that your fear stems from a sub-conscious belief that your idea may have inherent flaws and making it popular/successful may bring forth a number of severe issues?
    For example/ If one was to have a political model, it may be possible that implementing it would cause more harm than good in the long run or quickly become too widespread to keep control of.
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      Feb 16 2012: I experience a similar fear to him, and I believe part of that fear comes from worrying that I'm missing some kind of knowledge or perspective which allows me to form ideas of value. I also fear superiority over others and have a hard time accepting being right over others. I really do believe fear of success exists - I fear my own success, as I fear achieving success at the expense of others and failing to encourage a world of equals through my success.
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      Feb 17 2012: Interesting Xavier!
      I think both fears stem from the same source? My fear of growing into myself and ALLOWING myself to be successful stems also from a fear of it not being good enough? Or fear of the consequences?
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      Feb 18 2012: Good point Xavier,
      You say..."Is it possible that your fear stems from a sub-conscious belief that your idea may have inherent flaws and making it popular/successful may bring forth a number of severe issues"? Good question:>)

      When we are successful, face our fears, and maybe provide information, it may feel like there is a responsibility? We may ask the question...are we ready, willing and able to "defend" our ideas?

      Spencer,
      You say..."...I believe part of that fear comes from worrying that I'm missing some kind of knowledge or perspective which allows me to form ideas of value".

      If you believe your ideas, or you, are superior, you probably ARE missing knowledge or perspectives because you may be too busy defending your ideas and are not open to new ideas? Your success my dear, does not impact the success of others, unless you want it to be so. True success, in my humble opinion, is sharing that label (success) with others.

      Ayesha,
      Yes, there is responsibility with success and that is part of the decision making process, which continues to move us along in the life journey. Read the quote over and over again...."...Your playing small does not serve the world".

      How much energy do you spend being frightened of fear? There is nothing to fear, but fear itself. Success is "not just in some of us; it's in everyone". When we recognize that, there is no longer a "superior" or "inferior". It is our own perception that makes it so. Change your thinking, it will change your feelings, and it can change your life:>)
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        Feb 19 2012: I truly believe in the fact that when we change our thinking, our feelings do change! Fear IS a thought and when I move away from it I feel like I can accomplish a LOT more! Thank you Colleen!
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          Feb 20 2012: Ayesha,
          Believing that we are superior or inferior is also fueled by our thoughts, which sometimes, reflect whatever we may have been taught in the past. When we truly believe that we are all interconnected energy beings, we percieve everyone as part of the whole, rather than seperate as superior/inferior. We all have different talents, skills and information to offer, and when we embrace this idea, we see that true, honest success for one, means true, honest success for the whole of humankind:>)

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