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Fountain Abani

President, Student Representative Council of UOWD, University of Wollongong in Dubai

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Spirituality is the back bone of guaranteed happiness

When I talk about spirituality, I do not mean religion all mean is people being in alignment with their essence, their real selves. There should be a connection between a man's a man's soul, his heart, his mind, actions and his real essence which will lead to overall consistency in every aspect of such's life. The effect of this is a good sense of self-esteem which steams from acceptance of who we are, also, it will lead to a deeper connection with others thereby meeting the need for belonging and lead ultimately to self-actualization.

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    Jan 27 2012: i don't want guaranteed happiness. it sounds like heroin. i want happiness depending on events, situations, circumstances and such things. i don't want to be happy when something wrong happens.
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    Jan 25 2012: Hmm,
    Agreeing with Xavier: Your terminology confuses me. (it is too metaphorical in my opinion)

    I can agree that being balanced and having self-knowledge and acting in a way that feels in accordance with your feelings (and hopefully for the better) is a good thing.

    If you see that as spirituality, no problem. I would name it differently though.

    As for happiness, I would point out that I rather follow the current insights by Martin Seligman, Philip Zimbardo, Johnathan Haidt and other people who are researching in the field of positive psychology.

    But as meditation is known to help increase happiness, I can see people call this "spiritual well-being" or "mindfullness"... but for me, self-awareness or self-knowledge (where the self refers to everything that happens in your body over time) would be more apt words
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    Jan 27 2012: i kind of agreed with the point that you highlighted, i cant denied how important the spiritual (i dont know whether the term is correct) aspect of human being because we are born with it.
  • Jan 25 2012: Fountain,

    I feel, i understand the essence of your question.

    Allow me to confuse you..

    I saw a film called Bronson. Its about one of the most famous prisoners in UK. This guy found/believed that his true self was being a criminal. He was happy to be one. The prison was like a hotel to him. Its an interesting experience to watch this film as far as being true to your real self is concerned.

    If spirituality, means only that much, then yes, i guess it may keep a guy content/satisfied. But, it may or may not lead to to a deeper connection with others, as you asked. It depends if one's true-self is aligned with others-self also.

    If spirituality also includes the acceptance of self and others and also acceptance of a constant change in ourselves, others and environment, then also it may keep one happy.

    The challenge here is in understanding three words... spirituality, real-self and happiness. All of them mostly remain undefined/evolving.

    Your problems do not end here. If you take a scientific approach, you may find that science, psychology & philosophy, which try to "prove/define/label" make you feel that now you know, but, very next day there's a new discovery in these things which leaves you blank again. So these things are also evolving and at times quite a contrast to their previous definition.

    Guarantee? It depends on all above mentioned variables and much more.

    Now, allow me to simplify it..

    Yes.
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    Jan 25 2012: Dear Fountain,
    I think/feel that people sometimes get "stuck" with certain words that s/he may feel comfortable with. People CAN be in alignment with themselves and others, connected with heart, mind and actions, consistent, accepting, confident, feeling like we belong, self actualized, balanced, having self-knowledge, happy, content, mindfull, aware AND it doesn't matter what we call this state of "being". Why is it so important to label it? Why can we not understand and accept that many people may have different terms for the very same feelings/actions/reactions/life experiences? We are all more the same than different, and there is this constant need to seperate us into different catagories....why? Giving a "way of life" a name, is not a guarantee of happiness or anything else...in my humble opinion.
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      Jan 25 2012: Dear Colleen,
      I think the label I gave to it is part of my research, where people decide to refuse or accept a concept that is true just because of the name it is called.
      The name of that state of being is not the concern of the research, the concern is helping people attain that state of awareness.
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        Jan 25 2012: You "think" the label is part of your research? I see. Once we label something, however, we limit ourselves. If a topic is already labeled, how is it open to "research"?

        You are "researching" how people will respond to your statement..."Spirituality is the back bone of guaranteed happiness"?
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    Jan 25 2012: Ok, you will need to define and elaborate a whole lot of what you've just said,
    Because from where I'm standing you've taken a word (spirituality) which has little-to-no coherence or consistent definition and are now using it in a context that has even shakier foundations + other seemingly undefined non-words.

    For example:
    Define 'essence', 'real selves' and 'soul'.

    Thankyou.