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What do you need more of to feel happy, secure and at peace?
What will it take for you to feel personally happy, to be secured in peace, to be your best??
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Juliette Zahn 50+
Santiago Arboleda
"Men always forget that human happiness is a disposition of mind and not a condition of the circumstances".
John Locke
Juliette Zahn 50+
Taylor and McGilchrist explain this in their fascinating talks.
http://www.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_s_powerful_stroke_of_insight.html
http://www.ted.com/talks/iain_mcgilchrist_the_divided_brain.html
Also thanks Santiago for mentioning NLP & Hemi-sync -- I will look for them.
Ross Bagley 10+
Juliette Zahn 50+
Verble Gherulous 20+
I know, I know! I'm conditioned to believe that happiness, peace,contentment can only come from within, and that the only thing I can change is my reaction to the situation. I know I can't change the world and that it would be silly to ask the world to change for me, but that was the question and that's my answer: If we would all just stop being so bloody angry!
Juliette Zahn 50+
I think it is a matter of awareness that there-is-enough-for-everybody. I believe YOU can change the world by being the solution at every opportunity.
7,000,000,000 is a beautiful number.
Verble Gherulous 20+
I dare say that to have more of us thinking I such a positive manner would bring us more peace and security
Juliette Zahn 50+
We have to really let it into our head that there-is-enough-for-everybody.
We have to help others really get it into their heads that there-is-enough-for-everybody.
It is only a matter of awareness.
Verble Gherulous 20+
Of course, for me, I say we should learn to be happy without that stuff, and I know you aretalkingabout real resources, not entertainment, but that's just an example of our social conditioning.
Obey No1kinobe 50+
Juliette Zahn 50+
Melissa Yuan-Innes
Your story reminds me of something I read in Julia Cameron and say to myself sometimes: "You do enough, you have enough, you are enough." Useful.
Shobhit Agarwal
1.Think out the persons living in worse than you are...You will feel secure
2.Close your eyes and try to remember the face of the cutest child you had ever seen...You will feel Peace
3.Accept the situations as they are; fight to get out of them but think out positively....for eg. Failure does not mean you lost everything instead it give you the way how that problem can not be solved... You will feel happy
:-) :-) :-)
Juliette Zahn 50+
Melissa Yuan-Innes
Colleen Steen 500+
Thanks for your comment. I didn't want to be alone with my response...nothing:>)
Your response also reminds me of this story:
ENOUGH
Recently, I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at
the airport. They had announced the departure. Standing near the security gate,
they hugged, and the mother said, 'I love you, and I wish you enough.'
The daughter replied, 'Mom, our life together has been more than enough.
Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom.'
They kissed, and the daughter left. The mother walked over to the window where
I was seated. Standing there, I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried
not to intrude on her privacy, but she welcomed me in by asking, 'Did you
ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?'
Yes, I have,' I replied. 'Forgive me for asking, but why is this a
forever good-bye?'
'I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead, and the
reality is - her next trip back will be for my funeral,' she said.
'When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, 'I wish you
enough.' May I ask what that means?'
She began to smile. 'That's a wish that has been handed down from other
generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.' She paused a moment and
looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and she smiled even more.
'When we said, 'I wish you enough,' we wanted the other person to
have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.'
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day
may appear.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear
bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
TAKE TIME TO LIVE...
Megan DaGata
Juliette Zahn 50+
Liam Wingert
Beste Arslan
Colleen Steen 500+
Rather than thinking about this as a problem, try thinking about it, and feeling it as an opportunity?
Liam, you say you tend to blame yourself too much.
Suggestion:
Every single time you catch yourself "blaming", change the thought/feeling/words to something different...more positive. Give YOURSELF the confidence and courage you desire.Taking more risks and trying new stuff is a great start. I LOVE your last sentance..."I have already acquired a yellow belt and a broken wrist and am happy to have both". You didn't blame yourself for the broken wrist, you accepted it as part of the process! You are on your way to change!!! LOVE IT:>)
Beste Arslan
Thank you for your advice :) It just needs time i guess :)
Colleen Steen 500+
It takes time...and trust in yourself. You are a very insightful, articulate young person, and I appreciate your comments:>) As Liam says, we often underestimate our abilities...believe in yourself and your abilities:>)
Liam Wingert
Thanks for the advice, and yeah I have found that what you have said has helped me alot really. The way I often see things now is that there is really no need to 'blame' including myself. rather I just tend to forget about it, move on, and understand I can only move on.
Colleen Steen 500+
Thanks for your reply. I was simply reminding you of what you already know in your heart:>) You're right..."no need to blame"...good perception:>) I believe life is an exploration, and blaming simply uses energy we can use in another way:>) Percieving life as an exploration in every moment, gives me the energy to feel personally happy, peaceful and secure:>)
Gregory Klopper
Beste Arslan
Thank you for your kind words,I really appreciate them :).Im just trying to get to know myself, for I learned that this is how I will be able to understand myself instead of hating myself all the time,which will eventually give me a better understandment of the others around me too.
Colleen Steen 500+
Great perception Beste...in knowing our "self", we get to understand others a little more too.
Did you see this TED talk by Thandie Newton? It's a good one, in my perception, about discovering our "self" and "otherness.
http://www.ted.com/talks/thandie_newton_embracing_otherness_embracing_myself.html#.
Colleen Steen 500+
Looks like you've been listening to Dan Gilbert's good talk about "synthetic happiness" and "natural happiness":>) Hopefully, Liam will pop in here and tell us exactly what level of happiness he is experiencing...there ARE many levels:>)
Difficult to believe that one may be happy because of the fact that he has a broken wrist! Could it be that he is experiencing the bigger picture? Can our awareness or acceptance of the bigger picture be the underlying "happiness"?
I think of my near fatal head/brain injury for example. I was not "happy" or "content" with my head cracked open because of a horseback riding accident. There was fear, pain, frustration, etc. Underlying all the emotions that I experienced however, there was a sense of contentment...most of the time:>) I was doing something that I loved doing, and was good at. Accidents happen, and with sport activities we are often taking risks. I was/am content that I was willing and able to enjoy the sport and happy that I was willing and able to take the risks needed to enjoy something I love. I also learned a LOT from the injury and challenges. The bigger picture, is that the experience offered an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve in myself.
You see how there may be many underlying factors, which contribute to a feeling of happiness/contentment? It is way too simple to say he was happy because he broke his wrist, or I was happy because I bashed my head in? When we consider the big picture, sometimes, we can find happiness in places we may not expect happiness/contentment to be found:>)
Beste Arslan
Liam Wingert
Colleen Steen 500+
I've done Tai Chi at times, and I experience Martial Arts as a great opportunity to learn so much about ourselves and life...balance, concentration, focus, strength, control, and the best thing of all, for me, was to learn to yield, and come from the core with strength. That can be an important lesson in all aspects of our lives:>)
Good luck with the college experience, healing of the wrist, and everything else life has to offer. You sound like a very insightful person, and I appreciate your contributions, so I hope we'll continue to see you here on TED:>)