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Why do we chase happiness?

If each emotion we experience is for a reason then why do we try to not to experience some of them as they are? Why there is a race for happiness out of the entire range of emotions? Is it a new phenomena or has the happiness always been sought the most? Is it a human need ?

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  • Jan 17 2012: I chase happiness because i don't know what happiness is
    • Jan 18 2012: Thanks for your in-genuine comments. Nevermind Zona, most of us here don't know what it exactly is, but your ingenuity makes me feel that you might just find it soon..

      Have you ever seen a pup/dog chasing its tail ?
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        Jan 24 2012: QUOTE: "Have you ever seen a pup/dog chasing its tail ?"

        And should that pup catch what it is chasing, what is it that it has caught?
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      Jan 19 2012: no , you chase happiness because you know it ,so you do something for it
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        Jan 24 2012: Hi Han,

        You are mistaken. We do not chase things we know will make us happy. We chase things we think will make us happy.

        If we knew what would make us happy, we would already have it. It would no longer be necessary to chase it.
    • Jan 19 2012: Come to think of it, if we we sampled amongst ourselves what happiness is, (excluding how it makes us feel).....
      would we arrive at a similar conclusion?
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        Jan 19 2012: Hi Mwenjew,
        Good question! My guess is that all of us may never come to the same conclusion, UNLESS we are all willing and able to accept the very same information? We are all different, have different experiences on which to base our perceptions, different programming, etc. I believe that each and every one of us as individuals sifts through information...or not....to come to our own conclusions, ideas, opinions and beliefs...what do you think?

        You asked another interesting question below, and I cannot respond anywhere near the question, so I will do it here.

        Your question..."is it then true that you cannot experience something outside your mentality ??"
        I think/feel that if we do not have the information in our "mentality", then we probably have no way to "experience" it? Our experiences give us information, correct? If we do not have the experience or information in our mind, how could we experiece it?
        • Jan 20 2012: Colleen, thats very true.

          Our individual experiences shape us to who we are and I tend to think that they give us different perspectives to what happiness is.

          Me thinks that people are on a VERTICAL CONTINUM - X axis and due to our individual experiences we are plotted on various points on this vertical scale and we are looking at the SAME THING - happiness, but because of our different perspectives of it, we tend to have different opinions of what we are perceiving. birds eye, normal eye and worm eye ? what do you make of this ??
      • Jan 19 2012: Fantastic thought Mwenjew. If we try this experiment, to just feel a feeling without having the urgency/need to label it. Perhaps, we'll not need to label it. Because, theoretically, when we focus on a feeling it gets dissolved. The corollary is that when we give it a name, it remains attached with us in the form of a name, stored in one or more memory cells, not allowing it to dissolve. So if happiness is dissolved, the calmness / nothingness will set in.
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          Jan 19 2012: I agree Manuj,
          When we give it a name, it remains "attached" with us, stored in the memory cells, we think we "know", and we become limited by what we "think" we know. Many people prefer this way of functioning...label, think they "know", and limit him/her "self" to ONLY that information.

          In my perception, calm/nothingness leaves me open to new information, possibilities and discoveries. It's always a choice:>)
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        Jan 23 2012: Mwenjew,

        You write..."Our individual experiences shape us to who we are and I tend to think that they give us different perspectives to what happiness is".

        Do you think/feel that the experiences shape us? Do we shape the experiences? Is "perspective" a choice we make to maybe "shape" things differently? Can we change our life experience by percieving or "shaping" our experiences? I believe we can:>)

        Yes, I think/feel that many times, as humans, we can see the same things and percieve what we see very differently. You ask..."what do you make of this ??"

        I believe we are all on different paths in this life journey. Because of our programming (family, cultural, societal, religious, etc.) we have different programming/perceptions in this life experience, which causes us to percieve things differently. We also have our own "character/personality", which adds to the mix of us being different from each other. Life would be kind of dull if we were all the same...would it not?

        My perception, is that our differences are opportunities to learn from each other, so I am happy/content and really joyful with the differences. If one percieves the differences to be problematic, that is how s/he will live the life experience. What do you think/feel about this?
        • Jan 24 2012: Colleen,

          You never cease to amaze

          Do experiences shape us or do we shape experiences ?

          Thats brilliant.
          You say, our differences are opportunities to learn from each other, so I am happy content and really joyful with the differences. If one percieves the differences to be problematic, that is how she will live the life experience. What do you think feel about this?

          I also have to say that I a few years ago came to a point in my life where I became comfortable with other people being different from me, or is it me being different from other people. Anyway I completly embraced other peoples uniqueness, I encourage others to express their idiosyncracies and as you said, turn it to an opportunity to learn from other people.

          I believe that this is the key to truly freeing society by allowing people to live from their hearts.
          ps. cant imagine a world where everyone is the same.
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        Jan 24 2012: Dear Mwenjew,
        I believe that we are shaping our experiences AND our experiences are shaping us...IF....we choose to percieve our world in that way:>)

        I agree that this way of percieving and embracing each other and our "self" is very joyful, pleasurable, happy, content and freeing:>) Why would anyone NOT make that choice?

        I maxed out on thumbs for you again:>(
        • Jan 26 2012: Shaping my experiences from now henceforth !

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