JaeHun Shin

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Is the vulnerabilty thing to overcome or thing to accept?

Vulnerabilty is the common issue that most people are struggling for.

I, also, have tried to deal with my vulnerability effectively by overcoming it but the more I tried, the more I failed. Everytime I failed, I put myself in more vulnerable position.

Then, I thought the vulnerability might not be something that you should overcome but something that you should accept. But, at this point, I wonder what the word "accept" means. Is it really possible to accept my vulnerability? Do you think you can live happily embracing your vulnerability?

I will appreciate if you share your way of thinking about vulnerability.
Thank you:)

  • Jan 10 2012: I believe that a vulnerability is a weakness. Although most people are not worried about it, we should strive to deal with our vulnerabilities and also to accept them. The first thing to do is to accept or to acknowledge that a certain thing in your life is causing you to be vulnerable. Then we should sharpen these skills to become as Well-Rounded as possible.


    A good teacher can never be fixed in a routine... each moment requires a sensitive mind that is constantly changing and constantly adapting.
    A teacher must never impose this student to fit his favourite pattern; a good teacher functions as a pointer, exposing his student's Vulnerability (and) causing him to explore both internally and finally integrating himself with his being. Martial art should not be passed out indiscriminately.
    -Bruce Lee
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      Jan 11 2012: Mr. Kang, thank you for your honest comment:)
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    Jan 10 2012: JaeHun Shin,
    You might find this TED talk interesting: Brene Brown - The Power of Vulnerability http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

    I don't percieve vulnerability as something to be "overcome", because as Brene points out in her talk, vulnerability is powerful, when we recognize it in our "self". Yes, it is possible to accept and appreciate vulnerability, and yes, we can live very happily embracing vulnerability. Part of the power of vulnerability is being authentic, and that begins with being authentic with ourselves. We cannot be honestly authentic and vulnerable with others, unless we know and understand that in our "self".

    Edit:
    I notice that you posted the Brene Brown talk under related topics...good choice:>)
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      Jan 11 2012: Mrs. Steen, thank you for your recommendation on the lecture!
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    Jan 10 2012: It isn't about vulnerability that needs to be accepted, it's about accepting reality.
    The thing that is vulnerable is what has no fundament, it's a false ego.
    If one tries to pretend or think to be this or that just to be something that person can put it to the test in acting that way and to expose him or herself. That moment you're vulnerable because if you can't back it up you're done.
    If you think you're a good fighter and you never challenge that claim by engaging into a fight it will make you uncertain or fearful, if you dare to make yourself vulnerable you do fight and either accept to be not good at it or live the illusion. If you proof to be a good fighter you aren't vulnerable and it is just what you are.
    It can work the other way around also as someone thinks not to be good at this or that and by putting it to the test it appears clear to that person to have that talent. To expose yourself is engaging life and the world and by doing this learning about yourself. Every time you do this you come out of it stronger than before as long as you acknowledge and accept the result.
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      Jan 10 2012: Mr. Kellner, thank you for your sincere comment:)