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Dean Gems

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What are the 10 Mistakes we all make?

As long as man has existed, mistake has been his faithful companion. Across cultures, traditions and societies , all make mistakes, some funny and some not so funny! However, there seem to be certain events or phenomenon that just repeat itself in every person's life; a common set of slips and errors in judgement that invariably we all commit. Maybe if we have a list, life could be much easier...

Here's my top 10:

1. Belief that we should never make any mistakes.
2. Turning a blind eye to our mistakes.
3. Letting emotions cloud our judgement.
4. Stop learning and educating ourselves.
5. Giving up too easily.
6. Looking for short-cuts and quick-fixes to our problems.
7. Assuming we are smarter than others.
8. Not taking responsibility for our life.
9. Forgetting to enjoy and celebrate life and family.
10. Repeating any of the above.

I am sure each one of us can relate to atleast one of the above. Do share your list of bloopers as long as it may be..
Surely, we all can learn and enjoy the foibles of life and it feels good to know that we all have made the same boo-boo!!!

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    Jan 12 2012: Out of your top 10, Points 1, 2,7 are simply ego issues, which needs personal introspection at times. The biggest mistake we all tend to make at some point of time in our lives, is getting demotivated by few failures and our mood swings impact the well being of our near and dear ones. I have started believing that feeling of being alive shall be given utmost priority in life, rest things will look shallow automatically.
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      Jan 12 2012: Your observation is correct in most cases, but as I have replied below to Dru, I feel regarding 1,2 and 7, that often denial of certain mistakes is a form of defence mechanism so that we don't have to face the truth that our best judgement has failed us, thus casting a doubt on out decision making ability. Often, anger, resentment stem form these issues of confrontation.
      Living life is truly an art and that is an astute point from you.
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      Jan 12 2012: Vivek, I want to thank you for bringing this up. In spite of all the talks about failure being a positive, when it happens, when I'm really beat down, sometimes it's damn hard to get up, admit I failed, and move on.I just competed in an art show, in November, where I usually do well. It was a miserable failure. Just a few weeks after that my son-in-law, of only six months, died of colon cancer. Then it snowed for three weeks, melted quickly and left us trapped in our house by 8-12 inches of mud. After three months I am just now getting new ideas, getting out of the house, and trying to get back on my feet. Yes, yes, yes to all of the above! Denial, self-doubt, anger, resentment all inevitable, all devastating to our progress.

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