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What are you happy for this past year?

Hello everyone,

I spent some time this Christmas in Seattle with my Iphone interviewing the people that live on the streets of Seattle and to ask them what they are happy for. The video is entitled 100 reasons to be happy and it is a testimonial from the people that have had it the toughest The responses were very moving and it had a great effect on me. I would love to know from others what are you truly thankful for in 2011. Much love was shared on that day and I would love to share their message with the world.

Video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VpouZ7ZwKI


So what were you happy for in 2011?

Thank you,
Jonathan Ross

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    Jan 30 2012: I am Happy after whenever i found sadness.
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    Jan 11 2012: I believe that all of the humans are seeking for happiness -
    so if you know your purpose and you have the tool , reaching not to the purpose is stupidness !
    I believe that happiness is even better than being logical !
    Once Oristotle said : I love you Plato - but I love the reality more .
    But if I don't enjoy the reality - I prefer loving the Plato !
    I mean who cares that conditions are good or not ?
    Who cares what's the reality ?
    See what you want to exist and enjoy !
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      Jan 12 2012: Thank you for such enlightening words. I agree completely with your Plato analogy, happiness is an emotion that can be taught to be embraced by most people. The need for happiness and interaction with other people might be the one true need that man has. We often speak of the need to protect and cover your back because no one else will do it.
      If you put a person in isolation long enough it is the worst experience so much so some would choose death over isolation or the feeling of not belonging to something of a greater perpose than just yourself. Especially the people that have hard times the need for community just grows stronger. Love is an amazing drug.
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          Feb 2 2012: Yes Amir be happy and through that happiness it will grow and pass to others there is no way for it not to. Your happiness will bring about change.
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        Feb 2 2012: - Fair Trade - is right Pierre!!
  • Jan 29 2012: The happiest time is when I spend with my students
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    Jan 26 2012: Dear Jonathan,

    I had a great year. I am happy for the insight that we all get presented challenges throughout our lives. Not to set you back, but to make you stronger. Small ones, big ones. They are all necessary parts of life. And that the quality of your life depends on how you deal with them. You have the choice to let them knock you down, or you can look at them and deal with them as best as possible.

    In looking back at 2011 I can say that I have had my challenges. Yes, relatively minor ones (e.g. frustration over finding crucial parts for my beloved vintage car :) and relatively major ones (e.g. job issues, illness and then death of my mother and then my father, and then dreadful family issues surrounding those events). Soooo, why do I say I had a great year? Because I have dealt with my challenges to the best of my ability and I have personally grown from that. Someone else may have a different opinion about it but that doesn’t concern me. It means that I have experienced the pain, anger, desperation etc (all ‘negative’ feelings) that the events brought with them….and am proud of the fact that I dealt with them as best as I could. It is liberating to know that I can look at any given event in my life as a challenge to look at, to trust that the lesson is there (and even if I don’t see it yet to be comfortable in just ‘Being’), and deal with it to the best of my ability at that time, enjoy the heck out of it and move on.
    And also…I feel exhilarated and grateful for the many, many positive things that happened last year too. They outweigh the ‘bad’ things by far :)

    Thank you for your question.
    Kind regards,
    Astra
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      Jan 26 2012: Astra,

      This is so true and so beautifully written. I could not agree more, adversity leads us to become who we are meant to be and it is how you receive these messages that makes all the difference. You have the magic gift, to realize all things be them good or bad lead us on our path in life. Thank you so much for sharing such a detailed response.

      All my best,
      Jonathan
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    Jan 19 2012: In 2011 we spent ten days in the mountains, on holiday.
    No Internet, no cellphones, no shopping - just the family reunited.

    In 2011 I met some of my fellow TED translators at TEDGlobal in Edinburgh, what a team!

    And I kept my workplace - it looks silly to be happy for this?

    I reckon it was a good year.
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      Jan 19 2012: What a wonderful holiday, nothing better than friends and family to spend one on one time with. Good for you.
  • Jan 16 2012: first: I'm alive - I was gifted to live that year while many people I knew passed away.
    second: I had more time than in the years before to spend with friends and family.
    third: I learned more about myself and managed to change to a better me although in tiny tiny steps
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    Jan 13 2012: Happiness is no more than good health and a bad memory.

    I am happy for being young, fit, and alive. I am happy to let go of negative memories and old grudges.
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      Jan 13 2012: i would add limited ability to foresee, and we agree :)

      however, i concluded that i don't need happiness in that case.
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      Jan 13 2012: i like your comment, just need to add young fit alive and really beautifull !!!
      have a great weekend
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        Jan 13 2012: Thanks ilan, thats really kind!
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          Jan 13 2012: hope i manage to make you smile
          always better to leave good memory, since you letting go of the bad ones
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    Jan 12 2012: Dispite the difficulties that we are going through here in Greece .....the meaning in happiness is so different...have your people close to you...talk to them...love and be loved...be healthy and strong and then you can manage everything...dont think only about yourself....help everyone that is needed...think positive...and laugh with your soul...because life is short...but most of all is funny...laugh about her (punishing you)...instead of she laughing about you....From my point of view happiness is an emotion that lasts only for a minute ,disappears and shows up again....As less you ask as more such minutes you are going to have! :-)
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      Jan 12 2012: Hi Elpida,

      I love the fact that you realize that happiness is fleeting it isn't a constant state of mind but the more effort we make to try to go to our happy place the more we get there. Our constitution here in America speaks about the right to pursue happiness. I think that is all anyone can ever do pursue happiness and enjoy it when it is within you. Spread all your love as for everyone here that has posted. I would love to sit at dinner with everyone here can you imagine the joy that would exude. Peace to you all and success in the continued pursuit of happiness.
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        Jan 12 2012: I believe that happiness/contentment CAN be a constant state of mind/heart/body, which can be part of the underlying foundation for everything else. I agree Jonathan, that it is "within" us. That being said, it is not dependant on external forces or influences. It is a choice to recognize it within ourselves...or not:>)
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    Jan 7 2012: Honestly ,2011 was probably the worst year of my life but at the same time the best year of my life because eventough I had to go through many hard times, Ive learned many valuable lessons which I am very glad to have learned at an early period of my life.Now I know how importart time ,patience,love and determination is...I also became aware of how we tend to not appreciate little sources of happiness and what we have,instead we waste our time worrying about little things rather than trying to solve the problem and we envy what we dont have...
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    Feb 2 2012: Just i need ,I want ,I do.
  • Feb 1 2012: The most amazing girl showed up. Nothing intimate, just a friend. But she asked a simple question to me: "So you basically feel the same all the time?" I thought about it and realized I didn't. I felt very passionately about many things, but I ignored that, as though I had drawn a veil between me and my emotions. I realized it was there and tore it down. I was happy, and more relieved than I had been in years.
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    Jan 29 2012: I'm happy and grateful about having discovered a poem by Christian Larson "Promise yourself to be strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind."

    Words, art, music truly reach us when we are open and ready to think, see, feel, and listen. The poem has found me at the right time and has touched me deeply. While my reality and the world have not changed, I feel that I found an important piece of truth and I'm much happier for it.

    Peace & Happiness to you
    Petra
  • Jan 29 2012: ...In 2011 I realized once again that when you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself!

    As Mother Teresa said: "If you judge people, you have no time to love them". Let's try to judge less and to love each other more in 2012.
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    Jan 27 2012: I read some books ! I thought clealy what I really want in my life ! I became cofident !
  • Jan 26 2012: On an individual basis, I am in favor of any philosophy which leads to a more fulfilled life. I think we differ only a semantic level; you see some actions as altruistic, I see them as self-interested. The action is the same, the result is the same. We both celebrate the act and result. Semantics only come into play when attempting to communicate with someone from a seemingly opposed end of the spectrum. I'm searching for a language which meets the needs of all parties and facilitates co-operation towards a shared goal. The languages of the right and the left seem to have taken on lives of their own which are separate from any intended meaning. I think we spend too much time trying to convince others who already agree with us and not enough time trying to build bridges to those who only seem to be in opposition.
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      Jan 27 2012: Hi David,

      Well said I can't add anything to that. Thank you for your thoughts and time.

      Peace,
      Jonathan
  • Jan 26 2012: I don't think I could be more blessed... I would not have been what I am today if it was not for my mom. She is the closest to God that I have ever believed in. Just wish she was here with me in London. She is back home in Mumbai and i am really missing her.
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    Jan 26 2012: I am happy that I was able to take some difficult but necessary decisions at professional level! Also, that I started enjoying the slow pace of life for a change!
  • Jan 24 2012: Happiness is a peace of your mind^^
    In 2011, I got married and my wife was with pregnancy.
    There were lots of affairs and events... for my loving people.
    It is likely to be happy.
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    Jan 20 2012: Going to the land of happiness, Bhutan, made me happy to know such a place exists!
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    Jan 19 2012: with my hard work ,i got a real work which i love.
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    Jan 18 2012: It made me happy that I learned how to follow my heart because it was the only real map leading to the treasure of happiness. It made me happy I turned down the voices of whiny people so they wouldn't be able to suck my energy out. It made me happy that I found the happiness in little things like being in the sunlight, having a cup of tea, reading my favorite novels written by the most amazing authors, riding a bike and just doing what I like to do. It made me happy that I was surrounded with people I loved the most, who respected my thoughts and made me feel the most amazing things.
    Everything turns out great when you give your heart & mind what they deserve. Just stop doing what you don't like, so there can fall a point where you finally find happiness.
  • Jan 18 2012: I'm happy that I decided to work on my physical health and take up running. I feel a lot better than I used to, and I feel like I'm actually doing something useful with my free time. I'm also happy that my family and friends are in good health.
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    Jan 18 2012: Great job Jonathan!

    We all need each other my brother. There is nothing to be more thankful for than to be living and to connect with others. Possessions are nice, but the greatest gifts are life and love and those are two things we can possess simultaneously each and every waking moment.

    I am happy and grateful for all the blessings bestowed upon me which keep me and my family healthy and secure, the new friends I have made and all the experiences I have shared with loved ones.

    I am happy that the global consciousness is moving out of the shadows and awakening to the light. I am happy to have helped others and serve society.
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      Jan 19 2012: Wonderful words Lance,
      I am glad you have found the key to happiness. Some days it is harder to find but if you dig deep enough there is usually good that comes from everything that happens to you. I have realized over time that some of my worst tragedies in life have offered the best road map to life. Look for the silver lining, it is always there.

      Best,
      Jonathan
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    Jan 18 2012: I'm looking forward to watch the video (it's banned in our university).
    But for 2011, I'm happy to meet two new people who had a lot of impact in my life. The first is a colleague who had some interesting (and opposing) views about our profession. I think I needed that jolt to help me see the other side of the story.
    The other one is a new friend who unintentionally taught me a lesson about friendships, relationships and faith. I am a work in progress, but I am learning.
  • Jan 17 2012: I am happy that each day enables me to have spent one more moment with those that i love and care about. i am happy that each challenge has opened my eyes that what i view as a challenge doesn't come close to what other battle on a daily basis.

    i am fortunate to realize that i am just happy and grateful. i strive to be the smile, the positive word in someone's struggle or grief. and when a smile or positive word won't help just listening or simply being there might be the shred of comfort they need, knowing that i care enough to do nothing but just "be" while they figure it out.
  • Jan 17 2012: What a shame i can't watch the video as "youtube"is not approachable in my country.
    This past year i got an internship which helped me a lot with my course and i also made several friends.
    Another thing is i passed 2 exams which is not easy .How lucky i am!! ~~~
    • Jan 17 2012: You must be in China, I think. And actually me too.
      I also passed a few exams this year, But what make me feel happy is that i have successfully managed two activities in my school. you know, As a STUDENT in china, it's hard for you to balance both study and work, especially in high school.
  • Jan 16 2012: I am happy about what I have tried my best to improve my intellectural ability, I am satisfied that I did not waste my previous time.
  • Jan 16 2012: i'm happy about having a job i enjoy everyday and a family. i'm happy about coming home after a tough day and be able to relax with the people i love.
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    Jan 15 2012: That I was able to fulfill some dreams of mine. :)
  • Jan 12 2012: being independence in my feelings and can take more chances for choice!
  • Jan 12 2012: For me 2011 was mainly a year of life with the dog (that we took to home in December 2010). Of course this is great to have a dog because it is lovely and it was homeless before so you have a feeling of doing something good etc but the best thing in having a dog is that it is so funny and helps you to focus on present tense. When I go back home after day in the office, the dog is crazy like we didnt see each other for a week - so I simply must focus on him, I play with him etc. I can't leave my head in the job because we are so focused on what happens now. I know I had a tendency to think about the past or the future too often and maybe I needed a dog to show it to me clearer. So, we are going for the walk and then everything what happens during this walk is most important to the dog and I think it is good to learn it in some measure. I see my attention was focused too much on what I was doing yesterday and what I was going to do tomorrow and these things werent particularry worth such attention. Another good thing about the dog is that things you must do are - finally - really nice to do. For example: there were days with very bad weather and If I didnt have a dog I'd never go outside then. But finally when I did it, even if it wasnt nice, I felt better later. Going for a walk everyday is a good thing and I lack the consistency to do it so it was helpful just to have to do it. Sometimes I also had to go straight home instead of longer partying etc and finally I discovered that I like it, that I dont need many nights out to be honest, that it is no longer so important to me to spend so much time drinking etc. And finally it was very nice moment to see the dog playing with something during walk because as I said this dog was homeless before and when we took him he didnt play, he was simply unable to enjoy. It was like we helped him to get to another level.
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      Jan 12 2012: i had two dogs before. however i gave them to a friend of mine for the reason i have to study abroad. Besides, my parents are living far from me, it is not that easy to bring a dog to them.

      i love them, and i hope i can have one soon in the future
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    Jan 11 2012: Reflecting on gratitude often only comes after difficult times. A friend's husband droped dead aged only 54 just before Christmas. We are all so lucky to be alive. For most people on planet earth life contains periods of hardship, fear, pain and depression - but despite this every part of life is worth it. The downs just make the joy, love, contentment, satisfaction and amazement all the more powerful. All are the gifts of living in a world of duality. Nothing stays the same - yin or yang - I've not long realised this.
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    Jan 11 2012: Honestly, I am happy that 2011 is over but at the same time completely appreciative that it occurred to me now. I am 25 years old and 2011 was the worst year of my life (so far). I should add that I served in the army for 4 and a half years and was deployed to Iraq for 15 months from 2007 - 2008. If you would have asked me half way through last year if I would rather go back to Iraq or finish the year where I was, I don't know that I wouldn't have chosen Iraq. But now that I have had time to reflect and consider all the things that happened in 2011, I am just so happy that I made it through the year and can learn from the experiences it brought me. It taught me to be careful with having too much pride and to learn to ask for help. It taught me that other people don't want a friend that never has a problem or failures because how do you relate or get close to someone like that? It showed me exactly how easy it can be to lose family members or friends so you should appreciate them everyday. It showed me that people want to support you like you support them regardless of the situation. It showed me that compassion truly is one of the greatest gifts you can give to a person, any person.
  • Jan 11 2012: That I am healty..YAY!
  • Jan 10 2012: Being alive, plain and simple.
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    Feb 2 2012: I love this conversation! thinking of good things that happened is what I always forgot to do. I am happy that I learnt the joy of listening to music. No hobby was good enough for me for long, then I found out what can please, excite, or comfort me. I found the hobby of my life;
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    Feb 2 2012: I guess, I am glad that I opened my eyes to changes around me, and didn't let go of my values.
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    Feb 1 2012: This year 2011 has been a tumultuous one for my country Pakistan. Political instability, economic crisis, cold war situation in north-west Pakistan are the situations seems not to have much too happy about.


    But after all, I take this opportunity to wish you and your loved ones a wonderful NY. I pray it will be a safe one and I also pray that we are able to take on the challenges in our work, in our country and in our personal lives that we will be faced with in 2012.


    “I am ever confident that we will”

    With sincere gratitude 


    Waseem Hafeez
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    Jan 31 2012: I am happy to meeting with people ..... share Smiles as well as Tears.... Life is just Amazing...
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    Jan 30 2012: I am happy to have good friends, to have met new nice people, and to have been exposed to TED Talks!
  • Jan 30 2012: Every single day is a reason to be happy.
    But this last year I'm particularly happy about having travelled around the world and meeting new different people.
    And for starting learning chinese!

    In the blog from EF, Universo Profesional, we try, daily, to show to young professionals, the motivation needed every day. Because every day at work or at home, with colleguees or family, in the city or the country side, every day, is a reason to be the happiest man/woman in earth.

    Happy day every body!
  • Jan 26 2012: Even the desire to "make the world a better place" is self-serving in so far as it supports the individual's self-image. Pure altruism is a myth in that every act serves a personal need first. I don't see this in quite as negative a light as you seem to. I think most people define what they "should" do based upon cultural values and self interest. Otherwise, there would be a consensus on what people "should" do. I still see myself as clearly liberal in my ideals, but more pragmatic in my approach to solutions. I think a broad brush is precisely the correct tool to use when attempting to identify basic human motivations. At the most basic level, human behavior is not that subtle in terms of motivation.
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      Jan 26 2012: Hi David,

      Super reply! I appreciate your philosophy but I have to disagree. I have found many people that believe what you are saying but if you follow other philosophies like the Buddhist philosophy they will find issue with your view point as well. However they will also embrace your view point as a form of enlightenment on their own path to reach a higher plain of consciousness.
      In the past I have followed the same philosophy as you and I can understand what your are saying as it does apply to a great deal of people. Once again i think it is to broad a stroke to lay on every person. There are different philosophies and they differ, one not being any better than the other just different perspectives.
      That asks a question do we help our own family for the same self serving reasons. If so why does a boy who was beaten by his father cry at the loss of him when he passes and still has love in his heart for the person that was so abusive. Love is an amazing thing.
      Daram Sali said after being imprisoned for 40 years, upon his release his first message to his people was " Treat your enemies as if they were precious jewels because it is your enemies that build your tolerance and patience on the road to your enlightenment ". This can be viewed in your philosophy as being self serving and protecting their own survival but I believe his words are trying to spread a different message. Everything is as it should be for a reason and it is how we accept or decline these issues that leads us to a better state of mind a happier place which in turn makes the world a happier place for everyone you co exist with. Just my two cents but I do love a good debate.,
      Thank you for sharing your perspective it has helped me to embrace my philosophy to an even greater extent so everyone has found their silver lining. All my best to you my friend and to all you love.

      Cheers,
      Jonathan
  • Jan 25 2012: Spending my daily lives with my family more than ever before.
    I didn't realize the value of it, and the fact that I was really happy, but in retrospect, I think I should have been more grateful for spending time together.
    That was meaningful and precious moments to me.
  • Jan 24 2012: Not nearly enough I'm sure. I suspect that the things I should be most grateful for will only become apparent with time and perspective. For example, becoming homeless a few years ago has turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me, but it was far from apparent at the time.
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      Jan 24 2012: Excellent post David, I could not agree more. The things that happen to us are not always clear at the time they occur. I am so glad to hear life is well and I am sure you do not pass a homeless person without reflecting on your own past. Thank you for sharing.

      Best,
      Jonathan
      • Jan 24 2012: You're right that every homeless person I see does resonate with me, but probably not in the way you might expect. I think a great deal of the one-on-one giving is done to alleviate the guilt of the giver more than to meet the needs of the recipient. Too often that kind of giving merely reinforces self-destructive behavior and validates a dysfunctional life style. Nothing changes until you hit bottom and having others help you float just above the bottom is not necessarily an act of generosity, whatever the intent.
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          Jan 26 2012: Hi David,

          I have to disagree with you that the giver does these things to alleviate guilt that is not why we are supposed to help. I don't see it as clearing my own mind but growing by understanding more and more about what is taking place around me. You said you have been on the streets I hope that everyone that did something nice for you you don't look at as being self serving. What then is helping, you seem to feel that if a person helps another it is only to help themselves. I see what your point is I just don't think that is the case all the time. To broad a brush stroke, kind of an assumption and categorizing people. This is a mistake I think far to many make. Some people want to help just to make the world a better place.

          Best,
          Jonathan
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    Jan 19 2012: Hi All,

    We are sitting in a foot of snow here in Seattle which we are not prepared for. The people on the streets are in real trouble anyone that lives in the city please grab as many pairs of socks as you can and head outside and pass them out. The most desirable item to the homeless are fresh thick socks. Thanks for everyones support.

    Best,
    Jonathan
  • Jan 19 2012: I'm happy there are people like you, Jonathan. Thanks for being a spectacular human being.
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    Jan 19 2012: I'm happy for the simple pleasure presented to me everyday. Living in Asia right now, I am happy for clean air when I breath it. The kindness of strangers has always made me happy and put a smile on my face. The ability to think, learn and share that with others makes me abundantly happy. My children are good people who grace this world. Friends who feel like family are a gift of happiness. Challenges that make me strong and the rewards of living another day make life increasingly happy. Thanks for asking!
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    Jan 18 2012: Well, this might sound like a bragfest, but you asked...
    1. My baby daughter. Every day, I am grateful that our family now feels complete. My children bring me tremendous joy.
    2. Joining the indie publishing revolution. Now my writing can, and does, connect directly with readers, instead of getting stuck at the gatekeepers. How amazing is that?
    Plus the usual things like my husband, my health, and a roof over my head. :)
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      Jan 18 2012: You should brag away you are blessed and should enjoy every minute. Best to you and your happy family.
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    Jan 17 2012: HI Jonathan I read your other comment but however bad someone misfortunes might be ! Im sorry to say that sharing the misfortune of others well sometimes is a negative path to go.I think there is nothing wrong with opening our eyes to only happinessI have had enough misfortune in my life and I come to the conclusion that sometimes someones misfortunes come from others .'We all in the gutter but some of us are looking at the stars!! '' I get a feeling that there are events happening in life when we suddenly realising we halfway !Getting half way It may feel like the end of the world, but one way or another oh, and never rule out Prozac it will all pass. Then again You are still alive. That's got to be something of a resul to be happy about! And if you should suddenly drop dead, at least you can't moan that you died young. The great thing is that suddenly you think I don't care what others think just laying in a field of grass can give you happiness! Trust me I speak from experience!!
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      Jan 17 2012: Hi Iris,

      Well we can agree on one thing we both like The Pretenders and Chrissy : ) We both might see things from a different perspective and that is part of what makes the world-go-round. I appreciate what you are saying and respect your opinion.

      Best,
      Jonathan
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    Jan 17 2012: I want to thank so many here at TED for your support. It was not a planned shoot it was a spur of the moment thing brought on by a series of events in my own life. It helped me a great deal with how I was viewing my life at the time and has done wonders for me. Today it hit 1,000 views on Youtube, I know that isn't much but for me it was a real milestone and a feeling that the project touched far more people than I ever expected. Once again thank you for your viewing and next time you see someone that could use some help, stop and help them you might be surprised how happy it makes you and them.

    Peace,
    Jonathan
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    Jan 15 2012: Hi Amirpouya,

    Thank you for the post.I question without pain is there happiness, we must accept the good and the not so good they are not separate and cannot exist without the other. If we open our eyes to only happiness then all the people in pain are forgotten. Through others strife we can find our own happiness and hopefully make their pain subside just a bit. Sharing the misfortune of others helps us realize the world is not all about us and brings out what people should do naturally, care about the plight of their fellow man.

    Thank you,
    Jonathan
    Best,
    Jonathan
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    Jan 13 2012: There is a saying that you are only as happy as your least happy child. I am grateful that my children are thriving.
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    Jan 12 2012: Jonathan,

    What an excellent and inspiring "Happiness Video" project!

    My end of year reflections continually return to what I think of as the "manly-men" in my life. For Christmas I liked to envision their dignified presence and willingness to go the extra mile(s) as akin to Wise Men.

    All different ages, interests and professions. Most tolerated my sometimes challenging style. Most appreciated me overlooking their sometimes challenging styles. All taught me and helped me grow intellectually, emotionally, professionally and/or spiritually.

    Too many times to count, one of these several different male friends and/or colleagues listened to a wild idea or wild rant I had. Some flirted with me, danced or sang with me -- while minding whatever boundaries needed to be preserved. Or shared a personal struggle I could support, invited me into work they were developing, engaged my professional efforts with concrete opportunities. Or offered outlets for my needs for fun through spontaneous energizing or relaxing diversions.

    Some ranted to me (and in public) about how they reject sexism that hurts their wives, daughters and friends like me, or shared with me their fears and challenges around being a real, authentic "manly man" and not falling for the sexisms that undermines them. Which all insured me that we are on the same page, just looking out from different gender views: most reassuringly and delightfully so.

    Most treasured were the few who, in various different ways, remained a sustained presence to me.

    These manly men "let me in" and gave me love in so many ways, including by allowing me to do the same.

    It seems you have served in a similar role through your work, and I imagine many other ways, too.

    Andrea
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    Jan 11 2012: I am happy for a very simple "easy" thing - the love of my wife and children and our health.

    Often TED looks for extra-ordinary stories or idea in the blog, breathtaking - for me this does not fit to this question. I believe that happiness comes also from modesty and calmness.

    Good question Jonathan !
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      Jan 14 2012: I'm happy for your answer. I think the true happyness comes from loving, and your words reveal.
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    Jan 11 2012: 2011 what an amazing year, I am grateful for my family which has changed over the last 22 years. What sticks out the most this year for me is watching our daughter leave for Switzerland with a project and despite all her fears she went , she became my hero, her courage reminded me how amazing life can be when we open ourselves to it. What makes me happy on a daily basis is the people in my life, quality relationships.
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      Jan 11 2012: i like your difference - between the big one event making one happy: the leave. and the daily usual "happiness". one needs both poles of happiness... the day-to-day happiness is not enough, isn´t ? but still it is the basis. and it has priority.
      thx for sharing these thoughts !
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    Jan 8 2012: Thank you so much for the help Nafissa,

    I woke just after Christmas feeling blue and started to consider what I had to be blue about. That was the catalyst to spend the next two days in downtown Seattle, Wa. speaking to people that I feel truly have had a hard year.
    I walked away from the experience so inspired by the love that was shared with me from people that truly have a reason to be unhappy. Each and everyone of them had something positive to offer from their past year. It was through this project that I was enlightened to what an incredible life I have been given and that no matter how hard it get's we all have something to be thankful for.
    I hope it has the same effect on all that watch it. Please remember, no matter how bad life can get if you look hard enough there is always a reason to be happy.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VpouZ7ZwKI&list=FLRJS91iCPoX2sTNMWQlvFGw&feature=mh_lolz

    Thank you,
    Jonathan
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      Jan 8 2012: Hi Nafissa,

      Thank you so much I am so glad you enjoyed it, I would love to post it. I see you are with TED is it okay for me to post the link again I would truly appreciate it if you can assist me. I posted it the other day not realizing the process here at TED and they asked if I would please take it down and start a conversation about it until there is some interest.
      I completely understand their position or TED would be overloaded with promotional material as well everything else out there. If it is okay for me to post it now I would LOVE to do so. If you have any information I will upload it today or add a link whatever is best. Thank you so much for your interest it was a wonderful two days filled with hugs and hand shakes.

      Best,
      Jonathan
    • Jan 9 2012: NO mam...... But i m new on this website
  • Jan 7 2012: Thanks for the Thumbs Up, Jonathan. Is there a lag time on when it shows up on the site? When I looked at which comment I got the Thumbs Up for, there was no Thumbs Up symbol there. I find those little Thumbs Up make me feel good when I see them in my inbox or on the comments. I guess I've noticed before that I get a notice of it in my inbox, but it is not reflected on the edge of the comment. Maybe there is a time lag. HAPPY TODAY and HAPPY THIS YEAR.
  • Jan 7 2012: Feeling physically healthy. Feeling enjoyed, liked, respected, trusted and loved by people I love, trust, respect, like and enjoy. I am happy that I had a lot of fun, laughed a lot, took some great photos, had some great conversations face to face and via the internet, such as on ted.com. I feel as though I could go on and on. Guess I'm having a happiness hangover.
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    Jan 7 2012: I was happy members of my extended family made a point to attend my high school graduation. I rarely see my dad's side of the family, and they surprised me by flying out to see me graduate. My mom's side of the family came as well. Her parents toughed it out on what was a chilly June day and made it through the entire ceremony with a graduating class of close to 500 kids. High school was not exactly an awesome experience, but was easy, so graduation would have been meaningless without my family there to share the milestone with me.
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    Jan 7 2012: Having someone near and dear come back from being severely injured by a heedless driver all the way back to full function....it threw most of 2011down but turned into much real happiness by December!!
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      Jan 7 2012: Hi Juliette,

      I am so glad that you have turned the corner this December. Here is to a wonderful 2012 and the best of health.

      Cheers,
      Jonathan
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        Jan 8 2012: Thank you Jonathan for your kind words and genuine wishes. It really is amazing how life unfolds !!!!!
        And what makes me "happy" or grateful is realizing that this Now is all we have.
        I'll be on the lookout for your video.
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    Feb 5 2012: Hi All,

    This conversation is about to close and I want to thank everyone here for all your input and support. I hope we meet here on Ted in another conversation. All the best to everyone and remember, spread the love.

    Peace,
    Jonathan
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      Jan 19 2012: I'm sorry for that David,

      I appreciate you taking the the to make posts to help educate that is what its all about.

      Best of luck,
      Jonathan
  • Jan 18 2012: The next step in TED censorship will be to ban me, despite having followed all forum rules.
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      Jan 18 2012: Why David, What happened? I have not seen any censorship on this conversation as far as I am aware. Please feel welcome to share any opinion on my post I have no troubles be it negative or positive. Conversation enlightens us all.

      Best,
      Jonathan
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    Jan 15 2012: La oportunidad de vivir, de estar cerca de quienes amo, poder ver a mis hijos crecer, disfrutar la dicha de aprender. Pero disfruté una nueva experiencia, profundamente satisfactoria: trabajar como voluntaria en la fundación "Un techo para mi Pais".
    Construímos un hogar para una familia que no lo tenía; un lugar seguro para que sus niños puedan crecer y soñar.
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    Jan 12 2012: Hi Jonathan:>)
    I am content with all my experiences in the past year....and....the past many years:>)
    I believe that people and situations I encounter at any given time are all an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve, so I appreciate and am grateful for all the opportunities:>)
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    Jan 11 2012: Thanks for the feedback everyone. I am glad today to be healthy and have a job I love to do even though it is a bit earlier than I like it just means the end of the day will come sooner and then it's home to the wife and kids. How wonderful is that : )
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    Jan 10 2012: I now have humble homes in 4 countries. All built by the hands of my friends, mortgage-free. Why didn't mother tell me this stuff was possible? It's better than - - nevermind
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    Jan 8 2012: Hi Rhona,

    I am a total newbee to TED this was my first post so I am not sure, I just clicked on it when I saw it maybe someone else can hep answer that knows TED better. Thanks for the comments I was really moved by what the people on the street had to be thankful for, it made my situation seem so insignificant in comparison. So much love and hope out there.

    Best,
    Jonathan