Julija L.

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The Controversy Of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)

I often hear or read about dissatisfaction with NLP on brainwashing to make people believe in someone's words, to make them buy something because of a wonderfully composed ad etc. to one's benefit.
What do you think? Does NLP have nothing more to suggest apart from this 'controlling'? Is there anything attractive in this kind of psychology?
Actually, I find loads of things which attract me.
Presuppositions of NLP, for example. They lead you to look to the world differently, in much more open-eyed and open-minded way.
Some of the presuppositions: map is not a territory; there is no such thing as failure, only feedback; people already have all the resources they need; every behavior is useful in some context; you cannot not communicate; if you want something different you must do something different, and keep varying your behaviour until you get the result that you want; people respond to their experience, not to reality itself; and some others.
To my mind the whole of NLP says us everything is relative and prepares us for this 'relativeness' in our lives, fosters flexibility to changes, not to be afraid of them, it says us to keep learning, keep making mistakes, once again - keep learning and once again - making mistakes; helps us to get free from chains of symbols, when a language is the hugest chain (well, as we are not into NLP, they use NLP to 'chain' us and take some benefit), NLP provides many games with the unconscious mind which actually make your unconscious mind your 'friend' instead of an enemy (it's not so rarely an enemy for us), besides, it suggests plenty of instant therapies to get rid of phobias and psychological traumas, I say it again - instant (conversely to visiting your psychotherapist for months...) I believe that a person who is deep in NLP should be very conscious person, who observes, hears and feels this world way perceptively.
So you give +or- to NLP, why?
Maybe there are real NLP experts here, then, I hope I'd not deviated a lot...

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    Jan 5 2012: My experience with nlp has been significant and positive. My introduction to nlp therapy came at time when I was very broken. I attended a workshop that taught a couple of easy to use nlp tools. After using these tools for five days I was well on my way to getting off of very strong anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medication. I now like to use nlp with emotional freedom tapping; together they have proven to be very effective for me.

    I would not presume that nlp, or any other technique or therapy, is good for everyone. But for me, the results have been amazing and I am living a happy, healthy life.
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      Jan 5 2012: Nice to hear that!
      I have never heard before about 'tapping', I looked for some information, found a video, that was very unseen but interesting a little amusing to watch; interesting to try.
      And I would suppose NLP would be helpful for everyone, of course, if the one is not about 'I hate, it's harmful, it lala, it's blabla'.
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    Dec 30 2011: Dangerous, for sure, that is why I created the rule of the ONE.
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      Dec 30 2011: My eyes had caught 'the rule of the one' somewhere, I remember, but I did not go deep into it, and now I do not find it, could you please give a link to an explanation or write a little bit about it here, please?
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        Dec 30 2011: Sure, everything is in my website, www.unorule.com

        As summary, I'll tell you that the sessions I took over one year an a half ago went so bad than I am still recovering. I have taken the good things I learned and I have given them a bit of logic, without any kind of manipulation.

        I hope you like it and I am looking forward to any feedback.
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          Jan 5 2012: Well well well...
          To me, there's way too little of psychology everywhere in this all.
          I saw much of dos and dont's.
          I still more tend to relativeness in NLP than to the most universal rule.
          I'd heard about monks in India, which improved their brains so much that they are able to write with their 2 hands at one time, about different topics in different languages. Maybe a gossip, maybe a collapse of the idea.
          I'm able to sing and write a sentence at one time. But, of course, for a very short time.
          Or maybe that's the help of unconscious even in such high level?
          I find very doubtful the last paragraph at page 8 in your 'The rule of the one'.
          That's it for now, maybe I will remember more critical thoughts I got =]
          Oh, by the way, one thing I truly agree with, it's our aim for happiness. To me, such idea sounds the best in 'happiness for as many people as possible'. This idea should be a guideline for human world.
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        Jan 5 2012: I have also seen one guy solving the Rubik cube in one hand and juggling in the other... that is training to convert two different actions just in one, he was just focused in one of the tasks at a time. Just ask the monk the moment when he decided what to write with each hand he thought it separatelly, that is the one in that case, the rest is training. In the book is like the example of talking, your one is deciding what to say, all the mechanics are automated.

        Doubtful about roles? My point is that a time you only acts as one role, if you detect what it is, you will improve your performance.

        Thank you for your feedback.
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      Jan 5 2012: Thanks for 'the rule of ONE' Luis. Very wise indeed, I have enjoyed the reading so far.