The Controversy Of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)
I often hear or read about dissatisfaction with NLP on brainwashing to make people believe in someone's words, to make them buy something because of a wonderfully composed ad etc. to one's benefit.
What do you think? Does NLP have nothing more to suggest apart from this 'controlling'? Is there anything attractive in this kind of psychology?
Actually, I find loads of things which attract me.
Presuppositions of NLP, for example. They lead you to look to the world differently, in much more open-eyed and open-minded way.
Some of the presuppositions: map is not a territory; there is no such thing as failure, only feedback; people already have all the resources they need; every behavior is useful in some context; you cannot not communicate; if you want something different you must do something different, and keep varying your behaviour until you get the result that you want; people respond to their experience, not to reality itself; and some others.
To my mind the whole of NLP says us everything is relative and prepares us for this 'relativeness' in our lives, fosters flexibility to changes, not to be afraid of them, it says us to keep learning, keep making mistakes, once again - keep learning and once again - making mistakes; helps us to get free from chains of symbols, when a language is the hugest chain (well, as we are not into NLP, they use NLP to 'chain' us and take some benefit), NLP provides many games with the unconscious mind which actually make your unconscious mind your 'friend' instead of an enemy (it's not so rarely an enemy for us), besides, it suggests plenty of instant therapies to get rid of phobias and psychological traumas, I say it again - instant (conversely to visiting your psychotherapist for months...) I believe that a person who is deep in NLP should be very conscious person, who observes, hears and feels this world way perceptively.
So you give +or- to NLP, why?
Maybe there are real NLP experts here, then, I hope I'd not deviated a lot...