- Abid Azam
- Mississauga, Ontario
What is costlier, a personal or interpersonal problem?
Now, of course both can go hand in hand, but it is specifically the management of these types of problems that I'd like this debate to be about.
There are all kinds of personal issues that a person deals within the personal domain. Say, for example, having a weight problem. It is instantiated physically but splinters into all kinds of negative consequences for one's self-esteem and worth. In dealing with this one has to look more inwards than anything, and find a resolve in the form of increasing some activity or resisting another, or both. Oftentimes these issues can be solved by following sound advice and getting strong support.
Interpersonal problems are disputes found in one's social network of family, friends, and colleagues. In dealing with these you have to really apply your communication skills and test your character for tolerance and compassion. What it fundamentally comes down to is not always getting another person to come around to your way of thinking, but on average you find yourself having to meet other people halfway on theirs. This can take a toll, and is historically harder to do than simply following your "inner voice".
This is the crux of this debate. And I'd like to see if we can have a discussion on what people believe in regards to the weight of each problem. It's great to have control over how you deal with an issue, but taking the wrong advice can lead you too far astray and possibly result in a maladjustment. In this case it seems it is riskier dealing with personal issues. However, attempting to reconcile with another person may bring out deeper issues and result in a lot more stressful experiences such as confrontation and even hatred for another.
Can you make the case for one being a deeper issue than the other?