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joy faber

recycling artist, Read "Write" Literacy of Torrance County


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Do you think marriage, as a social commitment device, still works? Or did it ever work?

I'd like to see what people think of marriage as a social commitment device.


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    Dec 23 2011: Marriage is the dominant social commitment device. As such it is an effective barometer of the health of a society. It is well known that when marriage is in decline it does not bode well for a society. If marriage did not used to work, then we would not be where we are today in Western Culture. Traditional Marriage has always been a covenant between a man a woman and their God. The majority of marriages would work out if divorce were only considered in cases of infidelity or violence. It's becoming increasingly clear that divorce is usually instigated by those who are unwilling to address their personal problems, this helps to explain why second marriages are even more likely to end in divorce.
    • Dec 24 2011: I disagree that 'traditional marriage has always been a covenant between a man a woman and their God.' First, marriage has existed for thousands of years and, doubtlessly, before the covenants of the Jewish faith. Other religions incorporated religion into their ceremonies as often as not. Second, in many cultures marriage does not have to be between one man and one woman, or heterosexual. There is reason to believe Neandertals paired off as in marriage. Therefore, I agree that marriage works as a socially binding force since it has existed for so long. However, I cannot say how effective it has been on the happiness of the people involved now.
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        Dec 24 2011: Traditional marriage, like western culture itself is defined by judeo-christian values. I am not referring to any sociological factors pre-dating this period. As far as happiness is concerned, the purpose of marriage is not the happiness of the parties involved. Misunderstanding of this one point is the cause of many failed marriages. However, recent studies have proven that those who choose to stay married are happier eventually, after they have taken the time to work out their problems. Those who take the easy way out, and sever their relationship rarely resolve their problems and take them into their second (usually doomed) relationship. I have been married for 24 years and have 5 talented children, so I have some idea of what it takes to make it work.

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