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The central role of self-esteem in our lives.
I'm fascinated about the big role self-esteem plays in our lives. it was probably just created to know your position in our ancient tribes and to avoid fighting a stronger male and dying. but like we have come up with a lot of strategies to cheat evolution (imagination and future- forecast as imaginary fights instead of real ones ) and our circuits wired in our brain (eg. television as living other lifes), we have now lots of methods to satisfy this need to feel worthy which in the beginning evolved to push us to climb higher in hierarchy.
Comedy: isnt comedy, jokes all about laughing about people more stupid / poor / ugly... than us or bring higher positioned people back to earth. istn laughing the relief, that other people are worse than us or not better than us. so comedy is just abouth laughing at other people and therefore feeling better about themselves. So for me comedy, mobbing, casting shows at the beginning serve the same need: satisfy the need to feel good about himself.
i think it also plays a huge role in our social life: men dont want to have one-night-stands for sex, but for feeling more self-worthy as a man. woman dress themself up and go out for being looked at by man, then rejecting them and even complaining about the behaviour they themself evoked, all for feeling better. man and women define their self-worth by the partners they can get. sex often isnt the main driver, but ego and social acceptance.
if we look at the success of social media (facebook as the second-biggest homepage after google), it shows what pressure and pain gets evoked by no social acceptance in real life. persons have to collect imaginative friends and check every seconds their page for the need, the desperate need of social acceptance.
it drives also the job market, the drive of man to make career, to get social acceptance and impress woman.