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Valerie Netto

Horse Trainer Riding Instructor, American Riding Instructors Association

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How would we treat each other if we were not controlled by a need to be right?

We all have areas of life that we are passionate about like religion, politics and horse training. We all think we are right, marriages end, families are torn apart and through history we have died trying to prove it. Why, and if the saying "would you rather be right or would you rather be happy" appeals to so many of us why do we cling so tenaciously to the need to be right? HINT:
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    Dec 23 2011: hey Colleen. It seems that, each time you comment my words, you make me dig a little more into my own perception of things and make me know a little bit more about myself;-). I really like that.

    so, what would be our society if we were just saying things without trying to be right ? Everybody would say what he thinks in a participative behavior but without controversy, evreybody accepting other's ideas and difference of point of view.

    I guess nothing would really raise from this because I think that innovation , progress, moves and changes comes from opposition, debate and confrontation. Without conviction and willing to be right, I'm not sure we really improve ourself. Just because trying to be right needs commitment and convictions.

    Let me know your thoughts. No offense If I don't answer in the hour to come. It's late in France and I'm a little tired.
    ;-)
    Waiting for you post by the way.
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      Dec 23 2011: EXACTLY!!!
      I believe that when/if we discuss/debate with respect to one another, the conversations cause us to "dig a little more into my own perception of things and make me know a little bit more about myself;-)".

      I, of course do not "make you" do anything. You are making the choice to do whatever you want with information I provide...just like I do whatever I want with information you provide. I choose to be open hearted and open minded because it feels like a gift to myself. I honestly don't know why people deprive themselves of getting more information because they are "stuck" with a certain belief. We can use the information any way we choose...accept it as our truth...reject it...ponder it....etc. etc. etc. When we are open to recieving, the possibilities are unlimited. When we think we need to be "right" we actually limit our "self".

      Yes! How about if we all accept each others ideas and different point of view? Again, we don't have to accept the new ideas as our own, but how about if we are respectful of others' ideas? I agree that opposition, debate and confrontation CAN be innovative, progressive and motivational. I also believe that we may be able to create the same innovation, progress and motivation by being kind and respectful to one another....what do you think? Actually, I think/feel there would be a LOT more information available to us if we were more open hearted/open minded. What might happen if we pooled all relevant information? That could be very powerful? I've had commitment and convictions my whole life, and I feel like my life is constantly and excitedly evolving:>)

      Just my thoughts:>)

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