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Valerie Netto

Horse Trainer Riding Instructor, American Riding Instructors Association

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How would we treat each other if we were not controlled by a need to be right?

We all have areas of life that we are passionate about like religion, politics and horse training. We all think we are right, marriages end, families are torn apart and through history we have died trying to prove it. Why, and if the saying "would you rather be right or would you rather be happy" appeals to so many of us why do we cling so tenaciously to the need to be right? HINT:
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    Dec 23 2011: Hi Colleen. Thanks for you thorough comment. I surely wrote mine too fast and didn't clearly exposed my point.

    So, my assumption was that, by nature, we are not able to avoid the debate and that we always need to put our ideas in front of our relatives, coworkers, neihbours ... We need to make them exist by the sound. I think that our ideas live because some people don't agree with us and because they're ready to try to demonstrate they're right. So, as a consequence, for me, not trying to be right, means not saying we disagree, which means not expressing ourselves and keep our ideas inside.

    By the way, you're the first person here to debate with me so, i'm very happy to share ideas and visions with you ;-)
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      Dec 23 2011: Laurent,
      I think/feel you have brought another important factor to this discussion. People often write comments very quickly, and without listening to what the other person is saying/thinking/feeling/believing/expressing. Many times, I observe people basically saying the same things, but in a confrontational way, so the discussion gets "stuck" in the controversy, rather than moving forward productively. How we discuss and debate is sometimes more important than the actual topic of debate...in my humble perception:>) Whether or not we debate, and how we debate is always a choice.

      I don't agree that "trying to be right, means not saying we disagree, which means not expressing ourselves and keep our ideas inside". I believe we can express our ideas, and realize that other people may have different ideas...neither has to be right in many instances.

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