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Valerie Netto

Horse Trainer Riding Instructor, American Riding Instructors Association

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How would we treat each other if we were not controlled by a need to be right?

We all have areas of life that we are passionate about like religion, politics and horse training. We all think we are right, marriages end, families are torn apart and through history we have died trying to prove it. Why, and if the saying "would you rather be right or would you rather be happy" appeals to so many of us why do we cling so tenaciously to the need to be right? HINT:
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    Dec 23 2011: Convictions, strong beliefs, visions, intimate thoughts are always related to our personal values. One of these value is the right and the need to express what we feel and what we think. Furthermore, all our beliefs exist because, there's always someone that'd disagree with us. Without opponent, no debate. So, if we weren't able or designed to express ourselves in order to debate, in a way or another, we would probably :

    1) explode from the inside overwhelmed by sadness
    2) kill ourselves because of a senseless life
    3) kill each other to find a purpose to wake up
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      Dec 23 2011: I agree Laurent that "convictions, strong beliefs, visions, intimate thoughts are always related to our personal values", and that "one of these value is the right and the need to express what we feel and what we think".

      I don't percieve Valerie suggesting that we not express ourselves. But rather..."why do we cling so tenaciously to the need to be right?"

      If we are about to:
      1)" explode from the inside, overwhelmed by sadness, 2) "kill ourselves because of a senseless life"
      or 3) "kill each other to find a purpose to wake up", don't you think/feel there may be a little more exploration we could do on our part to learn about our "self", and what drives that intense need to be right?

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