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Valerie Netto

Horse Trainer Riding Instructor, American Riding Instructors Association

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How would we treat each other if we were not controlled by a need to be right?

We all have areas of life that we are passionate about like religion, politics and horse training. We all think we are right, marriages end, families are torn apart and through history we have died trying to prove it. Why, and if the saying "would you rather be right or would you rather be happy" appeals to so many of us why do we cling so tenaciously to the need to be right? HINT:
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  • Dec 22 2011: The urge to be right, I believe, is the reason why we actually develope. We answer questions becaue we want to know what is right. We are educated to be 'right.' Now your question is how would we treat others when we are not overpowered by the want to be right. In my opinion, people will start thinking 'Why not be wrong?' If we are not controlled by the need to be right, where is the competition? Why would anyone want to prove themselves right when no one is interested? The world will stop advancing.
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      Dec 22 2011: Interesting thought... "The world will stop advancing" without the drive to be right. It is my opinion that the world advances because "curiosity" is the result of our DNA expressing itself.
      • Dec 22 2011: I agree to the thought of 'curiosity' as a motivation. However, if we look more deeply into the matter, doesn't curiosity arise when we want to know more about what is right? Let's say something is 'wrong.' We question 'Why is it wrong?' This surmise leads us to the conclusion 'The reason why it is wrong' which is actually the truth. So what I am trying to say is that 'curiosity' is a form of wanting to know what is right.
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          Dec 23 2011: I don't see the connection between curiosity and "being right". Curiosity is about the urge to explore to gain knowledge and understanding. "being right" is a judgement.
    • Dec 22 2011: Wouldn't we start treating each other 'indifferently', maybe not at first, but eventually...and feel stifled, inside....?
      I'm reminded of the 'ELOY' and the 'MORLOCKS', from that old movie...(maybe it was a book first).

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