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Valerie Netto

Horse Trainer Riding Instructor, American Riding Instructors Association

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How would we treat each other if we were not controlled by a need to be right?

We all have areas of life that we are passionate about like religion, politics and horse training. We all think we are right, marriages end, families are torn apart and through history we have died trying to prove it. Why, and if the saying "would you rather be right or would you rather be happy" appeals to so many of us why do we cling so tenaciously to the need to be right? HINT:
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      Dec 21 2011: Hi Kent,
      You say..."The search of truth is why we all thrive", and "I believe having a need to be right provides energy for the brain". Both interesting concepts.

      If we are truly searching, are we truly trying to be "right" at the same time? I believe searching stimulates the brain, and trying to prove oneself "right" seems "stuck" in the brain to me.

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      OH....I forgot to answer the topic question...LOL
      "How would we treat each other if we were not controlled by a need to be right?"

      First of all, I don't believe we are "controlled by a need to be right". I believe we give up our authentic power, with trying to be "right". As has been insightfully mentioned in this thread several times by different people, it is generally an insecure person who needs to be "right".

      That being said...I believe our world would be "WONDERFUL", and we would treat each other with compassion, empathy and respect if some humans didn't feel the need to be "right". To do that, we need to create the environment for more security, confidence and contentment in our "self":>)
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        Dec 23 2011: Have I told you lately that I love you!
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          Dec 23 2011: No Valerie, you have NEVER told me that you love me, and my ego is greatly damaged...LOL:>)

          Love you too darlin':>)
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      Dec 22 2011: I would like to change your words "I believe having a need to be right provides energy for the brain. The search of truth is why we all thrive."

      To: I believe having a need to UNDERSTAND provides energy for the brain. The search of truth is why we all thrive. AND I WOULD ADD we thrive and our consciousness evolves because we are naturally curious.

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