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Valerie Netto

Horse Trainer Riding Instructor, American Riding Instructors Association

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How would we treat each other if we were not controlled by a need to be right?

We all have areas of life that we are passionate about like religion, politics and horse training. We all think we are right, marriages end, families are torn apart and through history we have died trying to prove it. Why, and if the saying "would you rather be right or would you rather be happy" appeals to so many of us why do we cling so tenaciously to the need to be right? HINT:
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Topics: polotics religion

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    Dec 18 2011: As I have said on many other discussions before, there is no such thing as right, I strongly believe that an individual's mind MUST satisfy its necessities because that is one of the reasons that the individual has a conscience. If a murderer is experiencing an urge to kill, but is restricted by the rules of society, he develops an even more psychotic personality, one that makes him do even worse things. See, the more people are isolated from their true nature, the more people are forced to do things when they believe that it is not, when people are pressurized to conform to the rules of a society not to their liking, they immediately become dangerous as their mindset is off and will go to any extent to give themselves a sense of security and satisfaction. Society is a good thing in general, but like the Buddha has implied in his sayings: one must choose the middle path, both good and bad, because without the other neither can survive. Nature only balances the two scales. Being bad isn't bad, it is merely a chosen way of life, and if you respect yourself for that, it is quite enough. It is the development of self that is the ultimate goal of an individual be it a murderer who believes he will attain it by going on a killing spree or a religious man who believes he will attain it by being a philanthropist. In the end it comes to a choice and choice is everything in this universe.

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