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Is Facebook an evil or a sign of everlasting evolution?

My son has 5000 friends in social network and nobody to talk to. Chatting and talking is not the same thing, not even close. How explane the vibe of real talk, sharing, the joy of being understood, can you teach how to sense a feedback? One may say that you can have both, but reality tells a different story. Actually, you can't, everything has it's price, may be people are getting corrupted by easy-click-no-commitments comunication and eventually are loosing natural skills and needs of ''see you'' magic?

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    • Mar 6 2011: Hello, there! It's what you've said in action! I recognise your name, though we are total strangers in real world, in virtual we are not. How I am getting involved?! I thought I was out of this. But there is a bright side, it's easier to study the chemestry of the phenomenon. Don't you think that virtual comunication leads to deeper reflection, you can multiply yourself endlessly. In real life your image is stabilised by the responsibility for the expectation you arise, here you are free... a sort of Max Frisch stuff.what may happen to immature soul in this fake environment?
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        • Mar 9 2011: Hi,Mark! Thanks for your respose.I am just a beginer in virtual comunication,may be i don't understand, not yet, how it works. I feel like a chalk outline of myself, everything is transporant, yet almost nothing is exposed, and it's OK if it's complementary, but what if a young person/immature soul/ is deep in it, for the sake of real life, he keeps his fingures all over the place... and boom, electric circuit or any other disaster with a power to switch off the life supporting system and what? He/she is totally helpless, how to buid real relationship, how to feel the chemistry of alive comunication, almost no past experience...That's what I call- altered human psyche. F.B comunication allows you to be entirely selfcentered,in real life you can't. By the way, by ''you'' I mean ''one'' I didn't and don't mean you personally, sorry for that. And by responsibility for anyone's expectations I ment not to please or addapt yourself to other people's image of you, no, not that.But that's another story.
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        • Mar 10 2011: Thank you for your concern, I appreciate it, I really do,but I'm afraid it's too big arena for my personal troubles.I was asking more generally, yes. My intention was to understand the phenomenon and findings, if any, use to handle my own matters. It seemed, as if it might happen, but it didn't and it's OK. Maybe I am overreacting, and there is no ''phenomenon'' as such. Anyway, thank you very much, it was a nice friendly touch.
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          Mar 10 2011: Natasha: Actually it's likely that your personal experiences have a lot to teach others. I always worried about my two sons (who are in their late 20s now) would have trouble socializing since they spent so much time on the computer. Yet now they are amazingly involved with their real-life social network (more than I ever was). Perhaps the online experience was just a learning phase.
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        • Mar 11 2011: Hello, Tim! Thank you for sharing, sounds encouraging, indeed! In any case, positive thinking never failes, I'll try to keep to it and allow '' the chips fall where they may" Thank you.
        • Mar 11 2011: Hi, Mark! If you don't have 5000 friends in this void, nobody does! :) Now I realise, how ''emotional'' this figure was, maybe too emotional! And who are those ''many others" who know more? Here, you are slightly hyperbolic too! Thank you.
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        • Mar 12 2011: You mean big Tedy guys? They are not interested in miner problems, the problem must grow to catch their radar. In 50 years or or taking into the consideration the pace of changing, maybe in 20 years we will discuss " Where humanity went wrong?" Or, again, I could be totally wrong, maybe it's my problem I should catch up faster. Anyway, thank you:)
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    Mar 6 2011: This is true, and I understand what you have written, 5000 friends is too many. He should be looking to network within a closer range. Think he would likely not know the quality of people he knows nor have the continued capability to communicate. I for one , may be seen as nothing at all if it weren't for Facebook. People would literally get stuck with random friends as they were in the passed with no real relationship and macro oversight for evil concoctions of hatefulness and prejudice. I assure you Facebook is something that has truly changed our future. I can have conversations with Senators and forum our opinions. TED and your question would likely not exist in anyones presence if it wasn't for this website.
    • Mar 6 2011: Actually, the number 5000 is emotional, not factual one, I don't know exactly, but a lot for sure, enough to sense the tendency and it scares me. I try to understand is it a vexed issue of generation gap or something more complex. It gives human comunication new texture, it becomes too liny, streached, no doubt it will change human psyche. How? let's awake to the cool promiss of a new day!
  • Mar 4 2011: Thank you for your insight! So doom and gloom scenario is the case. But what will happen to a human being? I wish "Don't be evil" attitude was more popular in the world.
  • Mar 2 2011: 10 million hours or so were spent gaming last year on FB --> Humankind could've resolved just about every one of its problems with that multiplicity of collaboration. Without FB, would these 10^7 hours have been spent otherwise? Or just gaming elsewhere? There seems to be an evil/narcissistic side that (like a greedy businessman) wants to take your time, getting you more and more inebriated with time spent online, without a single side-effect of relevant physical progression.
    i.e. Is it more likely that you invite someone (you used to interact with physically) to play an online game with you and slowly the relationship swings towards a purely online interaction, or are you more likely to have fun playing an online game with a mutual online connection and develop a physical (vs. virtual) relationship with that person? I'm willing to bet not a single one of the incentive-based games on FB progresses you towards physically interacting with people (more like I'm willing to bet that's against FB's rules -- how negligent would it be to encourage people to meet up in real life? As you mentioned; recording your dialogue (typing, writing, chat, vmail, email) and conveying it to a displaced someone isn't nearly the same as the real-time event that takes place when two humans interact physically, and I know no set of criteria - except perhaps a dating services' - that would suggest the latter based on enjoyability of the prior).
    More progressively, if the nature of FB inherently led towards developing a physical relationship with others in the world (yes I know it can be used for such a purpose, but I mean if this was THE driving idea behind FB) then FB's main purpose would be to get us OFF the internet and BACK INTO our PHYSICAL intimations, and the website would eventually see NO TRAFFIC. Thus, we can see what a profitable market FB has proven to be and deduce that it does not intend to dismantle or obsolete itself by means of encouraging healthy physical interaction
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      Mar 11 2011: I never game on Facebook. I have some hundred friends. They are all somehow connected to me from some meeting in real life in the past. I enjoy sharing their everyday stories and sometimes their causes, their music, their pictures; art, photos etc. They post events there, which sometimes means I go and meet them IRL. I stay in touch when I or my friends and family are traveling. So FB is a good thing for me.
      This website is much clumsier as website than FB. It needs improvement in this conversation part!
      What I wonder about is if somebody is collecting all that information and how that might be used in the future. But the joy of communicating in this way is greater than the fear of being exploited.
      • Mar 12 2011: Hello, Anna! You are grown up, and for you FB is a convinient tool to support already existing reach, vibrant net of your real relationship, but it's different with our kids, who were seduced to drive a car whithout walking experience, sorry for this earthy metaphor, but that's how I see it. Thank you for sharing, nice to see you here:)