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Cindy Gallop

Founder & CEO, IfWeRanTheWorld


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What do you think each and every one of us can do to counter the impact and influence of porn as default sex education, everywhere?

Today hardcore porn is more freely and widely available online than ever before, thus accessible by kids at earlier and earlier ages (the average age at which porn is first viewed online is 11; a friend of mine recently found her 9-year-old son watching hardcore porn on her iPhone). At the same time, we do not as a society talk about sex openly; the majority of parents are too embarrassed to teach their kids about sex, and sex education is generally not taught in schools in a realistic and directly relevant way. As a result, and I can testify to this through my direct personal experience of dating younger men, an entire generation (guys and girls alike - girls watch and are as influenced by porn as guys are) is growing up believing that what you see in hardcore porn is the way that you have sex, with some very fundamental, ingrained negative impacts. As someone working to counter this with my venture http://makelovenotporn.com, I would love all thoughts and ideas from the TED community as to how we can collectively address what is, quite frankly, the single biggest impact technology is currently having on the most fundamental aspect of huma behavior - our sexuality, which informs everything to do with how we feel about ourselves, other people, our relationships, our lives and our happiness.

This is a global issue that is currently impacting everywhere.

We'll start this conversation at 1pm EST on Wednesday December 7. I am very much looking forward to conversing with all of you!


Closing Statement from Cindy Gallop

Everybody - I loved this conversation! Terrific free and frank exchange of views, many aligned. I found this enormously helpful, both to me personally as I take MakeLoveNotPorn forwards, but also in the context of the many friends I have who are all tackling different aspects of this whole area in different ways, and will also find a lot of this useful. Many thanks to everyone who participated - I really appreciate it. I hope to continue the conversation in due course, and certainly to add to and expand it when I and my team launch http://makelovenotporn.tv in spring 2012.

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    • Dec 7 2011: What if the men and women who are objectified enjoy being objectified?
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        Dec 7 2011: Then that's fantastic :) Totally concur - I am regularly critiqued for http://makelovenotporn.com's message essentially being 'some people like this, some people don't' - to which I have to point out that even a message that simple needs to be conveyed. That's why essentially what I am trying to say with MakeLoveNotPorn boils down simply to 'Talk about it' - because a lot of people don't. (The emails on the 'About' page of the site will give you a sense of what can happen when they don't.)
      • Dec 7 2011: Objectification definitely come with a form of power and adulation. The same can be said with living up to societal expectations: we also glorify the 3.5 kid nuclear family with white picket fences. But it's not the only way to live. It's important that we showcase that.
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      Dec 7 2011: Karen, yes - MakeLoveNotPorn is absolutely a gender-equal proposition - it cuts both ways.

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