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Who would you be without your history?

Can you imagine who you would be, how you would think and behave if you woke up one day and couldn't remember a thing from your past?
(Presuming you would still know how to walk, talk and most things you know.)

Are there experiences you'd be happy to let go?

Are there elements of your past that you would be sad to forget? Even difficult times, would there be things you wish you could still remember, to know you survived?

If there are things in your past that you wish you could change, is there any way you could come to peace with those today? Can you think of any words or actions that could change something in the present?

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    Dec 3 2011: i would be nothing without my past.Both good and bad memories have made me who i am now.There were times that i wished i could forget the bad ones,but now i i know how they made me understand both myself and the world around me better.Without the bad ones, i wouldnt know what true pain is like,therefore i wouldnt know the definition of true happiness.And without the good ones,i wouldnt have anything to hold onto when im going through a rough time.We should all appreciate the past,enjoy the now and use our experiences to sculpt our way to the future :)
    • Dec 3 2011: Bad experiences help you through rough times as well, because now you know that even bad times pass, like any moment or period in your life - and good things happen again. And then bad things happen again. And then good. We make our life's story by telling it to ourselves :)
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    Dec 3 2011: I'd be a single cell.
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    Dec 6 2011: yes i definitely agree with you on that :)
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    • Dec 3 2011: So you are saying you would like to keep your memories but not relive them again. That all in all you wouldn't mind if you suddenly forgot everything, but that it is good to have some life experience to help you as you 'march on'.
  • Dec 3 2011: Everyone wants to go back in time and make things better which have gone bad, but I ask how we can say that a happy future is guaranteed now? At that specific moment we don't usually have a bit of idea that what we doing is wrong. It always TIME that classifies an action good or bad infuture. Because we usually rely on consequences of an action. Not the action itself.
    • Dec 3 2011: Yes, we can't predict the consequences of changing the smallest thing in our past. This part of my question was moreso aimed at whether people could think of a way to heal or find peace with past experiences in the present? Would you think it is possible to let go of sad memories now? (not change them)
      • Dec 4 2011: Yes, Only If one wants to.

        We should select what was good in it and leave behind what was bad and proceed further.

        Nelson Mandela says so.
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    Dec 3 2011: Without the history of my own life I would be a far less compassionate person. I was born in a 'tough it out' family where compassion was almost unknown. Fortunately for me, I was born with a strong and healthy body and a good mind. Many who are born with these advantages are unable to feel for others. My experiences shaped my capacity for compassion. I thiink that if my memory were erased the cumulative shaping of my schemas would remain and I would retain this current self even without experiences to reference. So, while I would be happy to be unable to remember painful episodes of my life, I would not do so if it altered the cumulative result of these experiences.

    I would never want to let go of my children's childhoods and the joy that they brought me.