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Have you ever felt like you don't belong in your family, group of friends, culture, or country? If so why?

Being a college student, I find myself surrounded by a lot of diversity with classes to take, classmates that are potential friends, and future paths I could take. But among all of the choices and options, I find myself out of place, not in the loop, an outsider to all of my friends and peers. I seem to fit in with my friends and then I don't, I seem to be very good at a particular subject in school then I am not good enough for it. I fit in and I don't, a paradox that has always perplexed me.

I know I am not alone in this, but it feels like very few people I talk to understand my position. And being a student about to set foot into the real world, I am not sure what to do.


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    Dec 2 2011: i can relate to u very closely. i to am a college student and goin through the same situation lol. what i can say though is that ultimitly u create your own destiny in life. u have got to realize that family, friends, society and culture are manifested through people and regardless they r all people. As far as the lil info u shared i think its an inner subconcious struggle u have with yourself. I have and had to overcome this myself. U must believe in yourself tha, to quote a couple of songs i wrote, u see that u "create your own odyssey of time." Also u must say "its my life and ill take everyone down this pathway with me, so long as they want to come along for the ride. Its my life and ill lead everyone down this tunnel with me, so long as they choose to be right by my side." i hope i could have been a helping hand.

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