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Is it possible to not have friends in life?

Being jealous of your girlfriends friends because you got no friends


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  • Nov 28 2011: um yes, i'm mean and bitter, i dont have friends, jk (sorta)question to the question: are friends determined by your outlook on them or their outlook on you?if its yours to them then very much so yes,if its them onto you then no, i dont know, and doesn't look like you make people be or not be your friend
    • Nov 29 2011: Zack, meeting people is a difficult thing for me. I don't know what to say or start a conversation most of the time. But its mainly the outlook on me I always get frustrated of. Its like being judged upon but then again sometimes I don't care what people think. So im trying to make some friends where i live and see what happens. thanks for the comment
      • Nov 29 2011: i find friends are easiest to make thru an activity or "icebreaker" (usually the icebreaker has to do with yourself, example: freshman year in high school i dyed my hair bright yellow blond before school, made tons of friends even with the people who hated my hair, because it was different and people wanted to comment on it, one guy said that he wanted me to stay that way because then i looked diff then all the other white boys in school.) activities are best when everyone has to be uncomfortable. activities can be anything(see the video on TED about Improv Everywhere? the woman makes a connection and feels more comfortable when she shares the akward experience with the people in front of her, by making everyone akward you force them to deal with the situation by connecting with others) so make friends by joining a theatre class, they are most willing to be friends because to be a sucsessful actor you must learn about others as much as you learn about yourself. do things that force people together that cannot be done alone. join a life group at church (careful to choose a church that is honest and trully christ-like, even if your not christian a life group will set sparks, most of my friends have been made over arguments(debates that had rules to be clear) this was good because i limited the friends i made down to only the people who could find disagreement and be fine afterward)

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