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Should everyone of us fear the moment when he achieves his biggest dream ? How will his life be after achieving the ultimate dream?
For Example, setting your dream to be the CEO of the Biggest IT Company in the Globe... to Reach the moon ... Whatever Impossible dream you dream about.
What if you achieved it ?
How would your life be then?
Desperate ?
Encouraged ?
Actually, I don't know the answer, do you?
Farrukh Yakubov 50+
Colleen Steen 500+
I hope you are safe...thinking about you and wishing you well at this time of unrest in your country.
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Colleen Steen 500+
You offer some good meaningful quotes:>)
I especially like...“[the King]: The book describes people’s inability to choose their own Personal Legends. And it ends up saying that everyone believes the world’s greatest lie.” “What’s the world’s greatest lie?” the boy asked, completely surprised. “It’s this: that at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the world’s greatest lie.” (18).
I do not believe that we LOSE control...I believe that we give it away when we choose to depend on someone or something else to guide our lives. So, I agree that giving up our true power to create our lives to something or someone else is not beneficial.
I also agree that many times, our "personal calling" is deeply buried, so we may not recognize it, and it is still there. That's why knowing our "self" is important as we are on the life journey. We can make better choices for ourselves as we orchestrate our lives. It is said that if we do not make our own choices and decisions, someone else will!
BTW...I LOVE paris. I had the pleasurable opportunity to stay with friends in Asnieres years ago...beautiful:>)
Marianna Vardumyan
I respect your experience of life , fortitude and your ability accept things coolly.
No I haven't read it, but I believe that faith is the best "physitian".
By the way.you have a cool hobby))
Colleen Steen 500+
Thank you for your kind encouragement. I accept things because the alternative is not appealing to me.
I am here, now in this life experience, and I am going to make the best of it with love in my heart:>)
You mean the gardens are a "cool hobby"? Yes, I agree:>)
Marianna Vardumyan
I want to thank you for your advice "I tell you how to stave off drowning. Dive down. Embrace it. The sea will spit you back, astonished" it is really interesting!
What about struggle,saying struggle Imeant the actions,that we undertake to reach our goals,and I think that when you stop doing anything,as no wishes are left,there appears a fearful situation.
Colleen Steen 500+
ALL flowers are beautiful...in my humble perception:>)
I am simply passing on information. I saw that quote years ago, and it always reminds me to face the challenges with love and the curiosity of a child, rather than struggle and fight against them.
Maybe I misunderstood your use of the word struggle. I'm not suggesting not doing anything, or stopping all action. I'm only saying that sometimes, fear may cause us to want things to happen as we think/feel things "should" happen. Often, there is a gift within certain experiences that we may percieve as "struggles". If we can suspend judgment, and stop fighting against something, we sometimes see the opportunities to learn, which moves us through the fear that sometimes gets in the way of achieving our goal. I think of my cancer, traumatic head/brain injury, divorce after 24 years of marriage, etc. It was more beneficial to face the challenge (dive down and embrace it), rather than spending very much time and energy with fear and struggling against it.
Are you familier with the "Serenity Prayer"?
"Grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference".
I observe that many times, people struggle against something they may not be able to change, and that doesn't make any sense to me. For example, I could not change the fact that I had cancer, or the fact that I sustained a near fatal injury. I COULD change, however, my perception of the experience, which changed my actions/reactions to the situations and helped me move through the fear.
I LOVE quotes, and refer to them often, as reminders:>)
James van der Walt
That said the end point is still important to keep us motivated. I like the example of an artist. He wants to finish a project because then they he gets to admire it yet that is not why he's an artist. Once the project is done another one will be started because it's the act of creating that's the lure not just the final goal.
Eun A Jo 10+
Hans Schmidt
Colleen Steen 500+
I remember years ago, when I first built the water falls in the gardens...within a few days, moss and algae started growing on the stones in and around the waterfall. One person visited the gardens and commented that the falls looked so beautiful and natural... it looks like it's been there forever! (Which was what I was trying to achieve). Within a short time, the same day, another person visiting the gardens, commented that the water falls would look a lot better if I cleaned off all that "stuff" so she could see more of the stones!!! LOL:>) It is interesting that we are all so different!
"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes..."
(Marcel Proust)
Marianna Vardumyan
Colleen Steen 500+
I LOVE your flowers...looks like Rhododendron?
I agree with what you write...life may be boring and meaningless without challenges as we move through life experiences, creating, and seeking our dreams and goals. I also agree that taking each step brings new steps and motion in life...never ending...and it is all part of the process...well said Marianna:>)
The one thing I do not agree with is "struggle". To me, struggle is resistance, and when we resist anything, we use up energy that can be used to move toward our goal and dream. Sometimes, the path we're on, takes some interesting twists and turns that we may not be "expecting". So, to me, it's beneficial to suspend expectations or "struggle", and go with the flow:>)
We can hold onto the branch at the side of the river, thinking that if we let go, we may drown...OR...we can go with the flow, and maybe find peace, contentment, and reach our goal further down the river.
"I tell you how to stave off drowning. Dive down. Embrace it. The sea will spit you back, astonished".
(David Brendan Hopes - "A sense of the Morning - Nature through New Eyes")
Tiago Landman
Zahra Amini
Ecaterina Sanalatii 10+
There is nothing more rewarding than the process of learning as we set on the road to achieve our goals. Each time I achieve a goal I look back at how it's happened, I am grateful for it and I move on.
Mordechay Ariely
Every person has a different character and a different answer.
lt and not one size feet all.
People are drived by our human being nature and once they achieved their dream, after a while, they will find a new dream to chase after.
Some the human being characteristic, such as endless curiosity, quest of discovery, willing more of…,asking the question "what is wrong and how to solve this"" drives the human being form a hunter similar to other creatures on the mother earth to the moon, occupy wall street, mother Tereza, Bill Gates, Budha, Che Guevara.
This endless cycle is the human being blessing as well our curse.
You will find your personal reply only when you will achieve your dream.
Don’t be afraid of the unknown. Take it as a challenge of discovering new horizons.
(Only the very few materialize their dreams and are on the position to provide a answer from inside .All the other are guessing- as I do
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David Hamilton 50+
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Ibrahim Abougendy 500+
I think that's VISION , not a Goal :)
That's why, it's probably vision that will get us out of the Question. Vision is applicable anywhere, anytime, even when you achieve your dream,
Colleen Steen 500+
Your comment reminds me of this:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
(Marianne Williamson - A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles)
I believe Nelson Mandela quoted this in a speach, and credit is often given to him.
To me, the word God does not refer to an individual entity, but rather, to the energy that powers and connects all of us as human beings.
Ibrahim Abougendy 500+
I like this so much " We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us"
Liberating from Fear is good, it makes you more comfortable with your life.I mean, but we have to have the positive side of Fear that makes us wok harder, and harder.
I myself asked this question not in order to Sophisticate my way towards my goal, I asked it in order to be aware of the complexity of the feeling that gets to the ACHIEVERS when they reach out to their bright goals, Hoping that one day I will reach mine. If God help me to do so, and I know he will :) (We say it "Insh'Allah")
:)
Queen, Your comments are always enlightening , Thank you
Colleen Steen 500+
Yes, if only we could all shine and explore life with the curiosity and unconditional love of children, what a wonderful world this would be!
If we can recognize fear in ourselves and genuinely explore all parts of the fear in relation to our "self", it offers the opportunity to motivate us. If we hang onto fear, or live a life dominated by fear, however, it simply gets in our way. We can find the balance, and use fear as a tool, just as we use other emotions to learn about our "self" and others.
Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate your insight as well King Ibrahim:>)
James van der Walt
Colleen Steen 500+
I am simply passing on information:>)
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Ibrahim Abougendy 500+
ALSO, Dream's BIggereness is somehow relative, where no one can deny or assure it 100%
People whom set a goal driven by severe emotions when they have set this goal. They would feel spirirt absence after they reach that dream
Colleen Steen 500+
What do you mean by feeling "spirit absence after they reach that dream?"
You say that "goal setting" involves "imagining every moment that could please you". I agree with that. You think people may feel that once the goal is reached, the imagining, or drive is then absent? I find that people who are goal oriented with imagination, generally will grow and build on the original goal. I don't think I know of anyone who reached the desired goal and then felt bad afterwards.
Ibrahim Abougendy 500+
When You have a dream- your Emotions got tied to it .. that evolves a certain Spirit that lives inside you. That Spirit Controls you, it becomes a CONTROLLING positive power.
When You get what you want, and in the stage of re-choosing a bigger goal. You will need to create spirit of a New Spirit, which makes the person Mixed up !
Colleen Steen 500+
I think I understand what you are saying now. I agree that sometimes our emotions "get tied to" a dream or goal, and it becomes our identity for awhile? As you say, the spirit may become a controlling power within us. You are saying that once the goal is reached, perhaps it is difficult to choose a new goal, or expand on the original goal, and this causes confusion? I agree that this happens at times.
In another post on this thread, I write about the gardens mother nature and I created, and I also say that my interest in the gardens has changed recently. The gardens were my passion, obsession, creativity, joy, pleasure for many years. I still love the gardens, and will always love gardens, but my focus seems to be changing, and it IS a little confusing at times. The direction and interests in my life have changed several times, and each time, the direction changed, it has taken me down a path that is connected, and yet seperate from the last path.
I think the difficulty you speak of is caused by becoming so attached to the goal/experience/dream that it becomes part of our identy, so it may be difficult to change direction and imagine or recognize another opportunity.
I think/feel that everything I experience, including dreams and goals, offer the opportunity to learn and grow. I do not become attached to the outcome, nor do I identify myself based on the dreams or experiences. So when it is time to change direction, I am grateful for the experience, and I move on to another learning experience. Make any sense?
With the gardens for example, it is confusing as to why I feel "different" about them, I do not feel my focus in that direction at this time, and I know that there is a transition happening within me. A "new spirit" as you say, is growing in me, and I accept the change and am aware and mindful of where this "new spirit" may take me:>) What you're talking about seems to be attachment/detachment from the dream/goal?
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Mireille Chéry
How interesting what you said: "I find I do not always have the same energy to maintain them as I once did", and I deeply believe is because we are "creature" of creation, it is engrave in us, WE HAVE TO CREATE, where ever we might be in our life, we still have to create....so yes, your energy have to change towards that new goal, objective, dream...
Life is interesting in general, WE have to embrace as it comes, you know, maybe we see it in a different eyes, then God has plan it for us, or a member of our family or close friend, but it is always interesting.
We tend to complain more about what we don't have, instead of enjoying what we do have (I'm talking about myself, right now!). I don't have a husband, yet, but instead of enjoying my celibacy, I'm complaining about that I don't have a man in my life, and I'm sure when, I will have my husband, I will be complaining that I don't have a child yet, instead of enjoying my free time, with my husband, before we have a child. One thing I know, my husband will be the luckiest man on the planet !! Actually, my King, because all Queen are maried to a King, n'est-ce pas ?
It is a learning process. We have to acknowledge what we have NOW and cherish it, embrace it, live it, breath it, change it, if we have to...but we should always dream...it keep us and the world going!
Have a bless Sunday Queen Colleen!!
Colleen Steen 500+
I think/feel life is a LOT easier if we "embrace it as it comes", even if some of what we face are challenges that may not be totally comfortable! Life is "always interesting" IF we choose to see it that way:>) I've learned to be comfortable with discomfort, because discomfort seems to provide the best learning opportunities.
I think complaining is not a good use of time for more than a minute! A complaint, or discomfort with a situation, can serve to move us to the next step...OR...if we hold onto the complaints, it actually gets in the way of the next step...yes?
I remember how it felt to not have a man in my life after 24 years of marriage. I had never lived alone...going from family of origin, to roommate, to husband and children of my own. I felt a little lost when divorced, and it seemed like EVERYBODY in this world had a partner except me! It was my perception, and how I was "seeing" the world at the time. I am now quite comfortable whether or not there is a partner in my life at any given time. I believe that part of the process of achieving the goal of living with another person, is being peaceful and content in ourselves. A partner to me, would have to be equally content with HIS life as an individual, as I am with MY life as an individual. If that ever happens...fine...if not...that's fine too:>)
I totally agree with you...life is a learning process. Acknowledging, cherishing, embracing, appreciating and being grateful for what we have NOW, is an important piece of the puzzle of life, and allows us to move on to creating the next piece.
Have a blessed everyday Queen Mireille:>)
Mireille Chéry
Being happy with ourselve, be grateful for what we have now, sharing, embracing life....we are made and command to be happy everyday! Because our steps are guided, our dreams, big or small will be fufill in fullest....
We just have to be a blessing for ourselves and for others ! And I pray, that God bring a great man if you life, if you want Him too!
Take great care Queen Colleen, much affection, is being sent your way!
moses meccah
The great wisdom traditions emerged at a time when life was radically different than it is today. The world has changed immeasurably in the past two thousand years. And human beings have changed along with it.
Moses
Ibrahim Abougendy 500+
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John S Connerly
moses meccah
The great wisdom traditions emerged at a time when life was radically different than it is today. The world has changed immeasurably in the past two thousand years. And human beings have changed along with it.
Moses
basma namhae
i want say what i 'll feel or how would i be caus i really don't know cau i'll be may be going after another dream to acheive
for me life isn't about our biggest dream caus when acheive one you just starting thinking about another goal
that s why i always love lthis quotation that steven jobs said once "stay hungry ,stay foolish" and that means that as long as you've living their's always something to acheive ,something to go after,a next step to do
so i think when i get when i get to one of my ultimate dreams i'll certainly saying:
" oooooh that's good!! finally hhh OH! mmmm Neeeext"
Roshdy Soliman
andy blick
Dream of things that have true value and the outcomes will be nothing to fear only love .
Jeff Shaw
Having achieved many goals, and failed to achieve many more, I think it's wrong to define one's self by goals. As individuals, we are deeper and more complex than perhaps we give ourselves credit for - relationships, interests, jobs, dreams and realities all combined. If a goal is achieved, something else will take its place - the goal of continuing success (it's often harder to stay on top than to get there in the first place), or another goal altogether. Whatever. While it's natural to become deeply invested in those things we spend most of our time with, it shouldn't take us over. We exist on, goals achieved or failed or somewhere between.
Mireille Chéry
Colleen Steen 500+
Actually, the gardens are a very good example of a dream, a goal, and achieving something special. Although I have always had gardens, about 10-12 years ago, my heart and mind started to dream of expanding the gardens. The dream began to evolve to include physical labor with the creation of the gardens, and soon, the gardens took on a life of their own!!! I simply went along with the flow. The gardens became a peaceful place for people to gather...they were featured in 4 publications, a tv segment, and many people started visiting individually and in groups...garden clubs, spiritual groups, etc. It became an educational experience, as I and visitors talked about growing plants, creating gardens not only to produce food, but also for the benefit of the earth, as plants/gardens clean our air and water.
Several times, the gardens and my energy have changed direction, and Ibrahim askes...what if we achieve our goal? What would our life be then? I achieved something with the gardens, and now I find I do not always have the same energy to maintain them as I once did. I'm still going with the flow...doing what I can and enjoying the process, the challenges and the changes. I believe that each step we take (a dream, goal, achievement) leads to the next step...whatever that may be. So, I'm open to the possibilities. I feel like I am in transition, and I don't know what I will transition to, but whatever it is, I'm sure it will be interesting:>)
You live very close to my home and gardens Mireille (I live near the Canadian border in Vermont), so, hopefully, next summer you will visit:>)