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Carl LIndgren

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What are the Top 5 things you can teach/share with a 6 year old?

I am interested in what other fathers/mother do with their kids to help them become kind, caring and humble human beings.

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    Nov 17 2011: I have three children, ages 16, 10 and 6. We have been writing in and keeping a gratitude journal(s) as a family since 2004. Every night, sometime after 8:30 pm, we sit down togethe, quietly, and take turns saying what we are thankful for that particular day. I write everything down in their exact words and once everyone has had a turn we "Thank God for the day" and then say prayers for our friends, family and animals as well as talk to God as a family about anything specific that may be going on at the time. When one of the kids has a friend spend the nighht, the friend is included as well and asked what they are thankful for that day. We have had MANY "guests' gratitude lists recorded over the last seven years. Today, my six year old was thankful that her teacher brought a wasp's nest into class and that she played "nerf war" at her friends house and that she passed her "white-sash" test in Kid-Fu, and.....and...and...and.. she generally has a long list and I am happy to record everything she says. I have found this daily practice has created a sense peace, belonging, connection, grounding and has really provided my children with an opportunity to develop a relationship with a loving God and to understand, a thankful heart is a happy heart
  • Nov 16 2011: I love this topic!
    My Top 5 things to share with a 6 yr old: (in no particular order)

    1) The golden rule (Show examples every chance you get!)
    2) A sense of wonder about the world (It's important for them to know you don't know everything; learn together!)
    3) The importance of doing your best. (Even if it isn't good enough for someone else, they know they gave it their all and can feel pride. A gentle reminder that NOBODY is perfect comes in handy here.)
    4) Each others' interests. (A well rounded parent fosters a well rounded child.)
    5) All the ways you love them!
    • Nov 16 2011: great thoughts, Sharon... I completely agree with each of them and commend you on the positive nature of your suggestions. some of the other postings focus on mistrust and being 'better' than others while your's is truly encouraging the younger generation to be strong and commit to bettering themselves
      • Nov 16 2011: Thank you for your kind words Geoff. I appreciate that you noticed what my underlying philosophy is; optimism. It doesn't always come easily to me, but where my children are concerned, I try to make it work! My husband just reminded me of another important concept to share, and even though they only asked for 5 things, I think I'd add #6) Apologizing is not a sign of weakness. (If you're wrong, admit it, make it right and move on, but mean it when you say 'I'm sorry'.)

    • Nov 16 2011: What's the golden rule?
      • Nov 16 2011: Do onto others as you would have them to do you.
        • Nov 17 2011: Thanks. Didn't know it was called that.
    • Nov 16 2011: Wow! We have just about the exact same house rules!
      1. #1 House Rule: Treat everyone the way you want to be treated. (Eliminates sibling rivalry and enhances the ability to self assess when I respond to contentious situations with a consistant simple question - Are you treating eachother the way you want to be treated?)
      2. Learning IS fun! When we have time to fill, we do experiments and projects, we go on family ecology trips, and belong to an ecology education group called Earth's Classroom. We try to figure out why kites fly, why birds sing in the morning, and what happens when we mix paint colors with our toes.
      3. We (insert last name)s are hard workers. We (insert last name)s aren't liars ... etc. Also, I may ask for an explanation on why a test comes home with a few wrong answers, but an A test that comes home with a blank answer is definitely met with major disappointment. We (insert last name)s ALWAYS try our best!
      4. We're checking off a major To Do list of everything from learning yo-yo tricks to how to do things even I don't know yet. ...And we READ about everything.
      5. Our favorite game is: "I love you more than a (fill in the blank)! Usually something like, garbage truck, septic tank, 1,000 snakes. Wow, can 6 year old boys come up with some doozies!

      ....Makes for an amazingly wonderful life! : )
      • Nov 17 2011: Melinda, it sounds like you have a heck of a lot of fun! I know we're always laughing at our house...I especially like your #5. I can only imagine how my 7 and 9 yr old boys would finish that sentence! I appreciate that you took a moment to reply to my post. I really enjoy hearing that we've got a similar child rearing philosophy.

    • Nov 16 2011: The golden rule.

      Some of the things that I'd want done on to me, are not things others want done onto them. And vice versa. i never liked the golden rule for that reason. It makes people think that everyone else is like them. People are unique.
      • Nov 16 2011: Ah, but I want others to recognize the uniqueness in me, try to see my needs and fulfill them as best they can ... so that is how I try to treat others. : ) ....Once the six-year-old starts maturing into a 16 year old and then a 26 year old, there are so many more nuances that come along with it.
      • Nov 17 2011: James, I see what you're saying, but as Melinda mentioned, that is a bit too abstract for a 6 yr old. Personally, I would like to think that the other things I'm teaching my boys will help them realize that everyone is different and unique in their own way, but that what we have in common outweighs what separates us. Thank you for chiming in. I'm really enjoying this discussion!
      • Dec 4 2011: I think the gyst of the golden rule is to treat others kindly. So if you're a masochist and the golden rule shouldn't apply, then just go with "Treat others Kindly."
  • Nov 12 2011: I must refer you to The Parents Tao Te Ching, A New Interpretation by by William Martin. The wisdom in this book will help you as it helps me. I was the eldest of 9 children over 20 years. Sometimes children act out when they cannot get your attention and feel your love. Media and material toys isolate their little hearts. Take a walk, talk, talk, talk. When children act out often it is because they are hungry, tired, overstimulated, need more time at home, and routine. Sometimes because limits give them a sense of security. If you make your home a safe haven and eat and talk as a routine at home...not in the car or restaurant, they feel much more secure. Tell them early that there are dangerous people they may encounter, and that they must never be afraid to tell you if they meet someone like this even if that person threatens them or your safety. Children will endure years of abuse to protect a parent. I know this personally. Then don't have more children than you can handle teach and love. As they grow you have to loosen the ties. Three is exponentially more than two. Get the book... and take care of yourself, sleeping, eating, resting...but you have a child and now that child is more important than you are. Don't search for a mate, if you are single to the extent that you neglect your child. Never put your mate or your needs 1st. as I did. I thought I had to find a father after a divorce. Three children by three men and it was worse each time. Be at peace...you have a beautiful gift. Read... Take walks....don't spoil with gagets and TV, Communicate. Blessings
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      Nov 12 2011: Sounds like lessons learned transformed into wisdom paid forward. Thank you Mary. :)
      • Nov 14 2011: Thank you, Linda and all....There is one "toy" that has given decades of pleasure and remarkable results for my children. I am an artist and there is an Italian clay block called "Plastilina" used by sculptors. It should be purchased in the==== SOFT GREY==== variety. Even this must be warmed and worked in the hands and sticks or a few wooden sculpting tools in a basket makes a wonderful holiday, or birthday present. This clay never hardens, it is natural and you will be stunned by the creatures and creativity evoked by this material. I also provided quality sketch books and colored pencils and hard and soft pencils for car trips and home. If the clay figurines break or fall apart...if they do it's ok... new ones will appear and it teaches non-attachment from age 4 to 20 I find a little bags of this clay yet in coat pockets and it was purchased over a decade ago! The Tao Te Ching is inexpensive and thin, the clay...one block comes wrapped in paper like a pound of butter, and gives years of joy to parent and child and is worth every penny because it lasts and lasts does not dry out, and does not destroy or stain furniture, rugs or car seats! It is a stress reliever, and joy producer!
        • Nov 16 2011: actually, plastilina is not a naturally occuring substance. It is a petro-chemical product combined with plant matter http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plasticine. Use real clay, instead, and teach about real clay properties (like having to keep it wet, how to dry it slowly, how to recycle the unused bits or dried up broken pieces in water, how to clean up after use, how to store the clay, ...
        • Nov 17 2011: thanks for the email, Mary and you are welcome. We used plasticine in the classroom for years, but a few years back, out of commitment to use only quality and natural classroom equipment and materials, decided to use only the real stuff. The switch required a lot of trial and error, but now have a nice process so that the children are independent in choosing and using the work without adult interference or control (imperative in Montessori).
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      Nov 16 2011: Thanks Mary. I just bought the book on Amazon.
      • Nov 17 2011: Oh, you will be very happy...I find it so useful in changing my paradigm for relating to everyone but especially for teens and adult children too. I wish I had it when mine were young! I would not be undoing damage I caused whose paradigm dated back to my parents and their parents and the 1900's! It has been said that just carrying a Tao Te Ching with you raises consciousness. No one knows who the actual author is but the translation from Chinese is "words of wise old man." Thank you, and enjoy...lucky child you have...wise parent.
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    Nov 16 2011: We've introduced our girls to caring about the community and the world around them. Our daughters are 5 and 7, and both have a huge heart. It started when we explained the consequences of the 2010 earthquake in Haiti, and they were so profoundly touched by it that it wasn't sufficient that we donated for the family - they insisted on taking money out of their own piggy banks and bring it to the Canadian Red Cross in person.
    My 7-year-old was also introduced to a young girl with cancer, and decided to cut off 11" of her hair for Locks of Love (an organization that makes wigs for kids with cancer).

    We also try to teach our girls that everyone is special. What makes us different, whether it be our language, our looks, our religion, our nationality or our tastes, also makes us unique and beautiful. We teach them that being different isn't just OK, it's part of what makes the world amazing and exciting. We encourage them to ask questions and to appreciate individuality. How boring life would be if we were all the same!

    I think the biggest hearts of all are found in the tiniest members of humanity. Teaching them empathy, supporting their efforts to help in their own way, and trying to lead by example goes a long way in raising them to be kind and to contribute to a better world in any way they can.
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      Nov 16 2011: What did you learn from your daughters selfless acts
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        Nov 16 2011: I learned that children are without a doubt the most amazing creatures. Their innocence makes them want to love and give unconditionally and selflessly, which leads me to believe that we learn selfish behaviour as we grow. If we can encourage their natural instincts from the beginning, children can grow to be better people.
    • Nov 16 2011: Walking the path of love! I have had similar ideas to what I want to teach my 3year old:-)
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    Nov 15 2011: The choices you make will have consequences. Become familiar with both before you act.
    People who love you will discipline and correct you. Do not dislike them for it.
    God exists. You are His creation. You are both a physical and a spiritual being. Take care of both.
    Do not say things that you know are not true. Telling lies will always hurt someone, usually you.
    You want to be treated fairly and kindly. Treat others the same way, even when they do wrong to you.
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      Nov 16 2011: Telling a child that God exists is both untrue and unfair, because you are taking advantage of your authority and the child's credulity by telling that lie.
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        Nov 16 2011: Let's return to civility and mutual respect. Remember, the question solicited opinion and that is what I wrote. Not everyone who responds will have the same opinion. That should not be license to call someone who disagrees with you a liar and a bully parent.
        Exercising parental authority is precisely what a parent should do. One could not raise a child without doing it.
        If you have succeeded in accomplishing the impossible by proving a negative please share your proof that God does not exist.
        We are at loggerheads Austen. I consider your statement that God does not exist to be a lie. Let's stick to the free expression of opinion regarding the original question without further name calling. God bless you.
        • Nov 17 2011: Edward; "return to civility and mutual respect" what are you talking about? Austen was perfectly civil and not at all disrespectful.
          If Austen deserves any criticism at all it is for the use of untrue where unproven would be more appropriate.

          You are completely entitled to your opinion (as is Austen!) but this is TED. It is a forum for free thought and open minds. This is not a religious sandbox for you to advocate the indoctrination of innocent children. Every person should be entitled to form their OWN views on deity and religion. NO person should be force-fed and brainwashed into a corner before they have had the chance to develop their own objective perception.

          Your manipulation of Austens words into liar and bully say far more about you that anyone else.

          God bless you too...
      • Nov 17 2011: Peace and tolerance be with you all. And with our kids.
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    Nov 25 2011: I am not a parent, but hopefully soon will be. I can only go off what my parents taught me.
    1. Compassion - A little buddhist/christian/human help understanding can go a long way.
    2. Understanding how lucky we are and to be grateful for it. We live in a country where there is poverty but there is still running water and free healthcare. Take your kids to Africa, Eastern Europe, SE Asia or even central Australia and they will see what it is about.
    3. It's okay to make mistakes - mistakes are a natural part of growing up, some even say that mistakes are the only way of coming up with an original thoughts or ideas. Kid need to learn that it is okay to make mistakes .
    4. Respect - Mainly respect for themselves, children now days are being bombarded with what they "should" be. As parents it is our jobs to make them realise they are great as they are. But also respect for the environment, animals, everyone. It goes hand-in-hand with compassion.
    5. Acceptance - Teaching children that everyone is equal and a person sounds like a given, but to many parents and children I meet are either homophobic, elitist or racist. It is paradoxically one of the nice things about working in healthcare, disease doesn't discriminate.
    • Nov 30 2011: You have the making of a great parent Ben. Enjoy!
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        Dec 1 2011: Thank you that is a big relief! At 22 it is hard to imaging what it would be like, but if there is a small something already there maybe when the time comes all will be fine!
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    Nov 16 2011: The Norwegian author Torbjørn Egner wrote about the town of Kardemomme, where the policeman (yes, only one) had made the one and only law the society needed. The Kardemomme law translates to:

    You shall never bother others,
    You shall be both fair and kind,
    Apart from that, you do whatever's on your mind!

    When you give it some thought, you realize that this law encompasses absolutely every way we humans trespass on each other, so by adhering to the Kardemomme law, we'll all get along much better. That's why my 6 year old knows that this rule is the one and only rule I will not tolerate breaking. Anything else can be discussed, and then related to this rule...
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      Nov 16 2011: That is so wonderful to know. I will have to show it to my kids!

      My personal rule, is 'cause no harm' ....... and as you stated above, it requires thinking. For it does come from the Hippocratic oath. Yet, a Doctor does cause harm when he cuts for surgery .... yet that harm is small compared to the harm if they do not operate.

      I find laws, make thinking unnecessary. Which is sad. I will now go looking for this wonderful town!
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      Nov 16 2011: cool :)
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    Nov 13 2011: Great topic!
    (1) Share your curiosity about the world, and do your best to nurture theirs so it does not die.
    (2) Model how to listen before speaking.
    (3) Demonstrate constructive ways of managing conflict.
    (4) Teach the power and value of personal commitment.
    (5) Show them how to manage money.
    (6) Have children care for other living things (plants, animals).
    (7) Show children where the basic sustenance of life come from (clean water, healthy food).
    (8) Teach forgiveness.
    (9) Model humility.
    (10) Show your love to them every day in tangible ways.
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      Nov 15 2011: I really appreciate (10), let them know that you love them, not only you know that.
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    Nov 12 2011: Respect, kindness, compassion, empathy and unconditional love:>)
    • Nov 27 2011: It is a pretty simple answer, yes? Everything you just commented on, should be a given. Why is it not that way?
      Why are humans so terribly cruel to, their own children, their babies? I mean, this is not rocket science? With Respect!
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        Nov 29 2011: Hi again Tishe:>)
        Yes...I think/feel it is a pretty simple answer, and some simple concepts to use in building a good foundation for our "self" at any age. So, I believe these qualities to be very important for all of us, as we navigate the life journey.

        I believe people are cruel, because those are the behaviors that some people learned as children, and they are sometimes passing the behaviors and the wounding on to their children. There are a lot of wounded people in our world, as I think you know, who continue to wound others because that is all they know. If we are not evaluating our "self" regularly, we may not understand the underlying reasons for cruel behaviors. I think/feel that most abusive behaviors are learned...unfortunately.

        With respect to you Tishe...always...all ways:>)
        • Nov 30 2011: YES! Thank you, being cruel and being abusive, is a learned behaviour from other humans. Mostly from parents and caretakers. Colleen, the answer to this topic is, so very easy. (BUT) It is not a reality. With respect to you always, also! ( thank you ) :)
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        Dec 2 2011: Tishe,
        Maybe if enough of us keep spreading the word, it CAN be a reality?
        • Dec 3 2011: Yes I agree. I love how your, glass is always, half full! See, I am not quite there, I'm trying, no worries! :)
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        Dec 3 2011: No worries Tishe,
        Your heart is VERY full, and that is what counts:>)
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        Dec 3 2011: I agree entirely with Colleen. I am as ever so grateful to you Colleen for your great words of guidance and healing.

        Dear Tishe,
        What I would like to add is that you, Tishe, bring in a an incredibly important point to this conversation. Everyone else, including myself, have thrown our 5 cents in to this pot - all good and great things to teach/share with a six year old.

        The more I think of what you said and the more I grasp the size of its prevalence world-wide, the more I realize that our collective effort needs to be placed elsewhere. The angelic child sitting on Carl's lap, already has a good father who is so thoughtful that he is collecting ideas from the world to incorporate into raising that one child. And I wish every parent would watch him and emulate him in the world. But we know that is not likely.....so
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          Dec 7 2011: Thank you Juliette,
          I am simply passing on information I learned as a child. As you say Juliette, this is a HUGE worldwide concern. If our children are wounded because of how they were treated as children, how can we ever anticipate peace, kindness and respect in our world?

          My mother was a person who taught and lived kindness, respect, compassion and unconditional love. My father was a racist, bigot, angry, abusive, violent man. He taught me how NOT to be in this world, so I learned from both of them. We all have the opportunity to observe behaviors, learn from them, and repeat the same behavior, or change the behavior. Our children are our future, and if they are not treated with kindness and respect, we will continue many of the same behaviors. We need to be aware of this on a global level. I believe it is possible to change, and it has to start with each of us as individuals:>)
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        Dec 4 2011: Tishe - Thank you !!

        I am so grateful that you are speaking up from a perspective that you have direct cardinal experience and knowledge in. I hope that you will continue to speak up at every opportunity, and this way you give voice to so many children (and adults) who repress their own voices hoping to “fit” in society, who need to work harder to claim their own self worth, who have to work even harder to realize their own good potential and whose pain I carry in my heart.

        Every child is a gift to this world and quite often entrusted to underserving company.
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      Dec 2 2011: And the best way to teach them is to BE them.
  • Nov 9 2011: 1. Tell the truth as much as you possibly can.2. Express your feelings as much as you possibly can.3. Trust yourself.....your feelings, your thoughts.4. Always choose positive, whenever you can. 5. Always be who you really are.
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      Nov 9 2011: Thanks Rhona :) I think after two people answering my question ... these answers have more wisdom in them than many kid help books!!!!!
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      Nov 12 2011: Rhona, now I see how you became that positive.

      We have a saying that says (translated): How the old sing so are tweeting the young.
      • Nov 14 2011: Frans, I like that saying. Those concepts developed over the years. Thanks for your expressions. Positive feedback, positive anything is powerful. We are working together to co-create the good world, the good life of our highest hopes. We shall succeed. HAPPY TODAY!
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    Nov 19 2011: 1) meaning of parents..... that parents are best friends...
    2) No One is rich and No one is poor.... all humans are equal
    3) meaning of peace and non violence
    4) Self dependence
    5) meaning of respect...
    Actually i don't have any experience in this field and i know that imagination may be totally different... So i just tried to put my points....
  • Nov 17 2011: Great topic:
    In no particular order:

    1. a sense of wonder about the world around them
    2. creativity in all aspects of your life
    3. compassion for all
    4. appreciation for differences by showing how everyone is unique in their own way
    5. respect is earned through actions not words
  • Nov 17 2011: 1) Insatiable curiosity
    2) Spontaneous dancing
    3) Daily creativity
    4) The joys of compassion for people, animals, life
    5) The ability to give gifts... even to oneself.
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    Nov 16 2011: Good one Joe. I once spent an entire afternoon with my then 4 yr old grandson watching a dragonfly emerge from its shell . We watched until its wings dried and it flew away. In that time I answered so many questions and learned so much about my grandson it was incredible. Now we go about looking for more wonders of nature together.
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    Nov 16 2011: I would tell a 6 year old (and I have) that it is ok to fail. From the time we are born we're told that we should be right, as often as possible and with the smallest degree of error. And we're told that if we're wrong, this is bad for us and we should recover from this failure as soon as possible.

    Failure is something to be embraced. When we lose, we learn and I don't think enough young kids know that.
    • Nov 16 2011: My little one is not yet 6, but we teach her that 'failure' is part of a larger effort. So we don't dwell on any one unsuccessful attempt as a failure, but take it as part of a process and ask what we can improve. In time I hope she'll realize that if something is easy enough to get right the first time, it may not be as satisfying as something else that required a few stumbles along the way.
  • Nov 16 2011: As a parent of two boys, I believe the most important lesson they learn from me is the example of how I treat them. If I treat them with respect and kindness they learn what it means to be treated with respect and kindness. If I trust them, they learn to trust others. I respect their rights as human beings, they learn to respect others' rights as human beings. If I use my power over them to control and dominate them, they learn that the more powerful have the right to use their power over the less powerful to get them to do what they want. I believe I can't teach them compassion, kindness, trust and respect unless I model that in my relationships with them, including the fact that I am still learning and growing as a parent. http://www.ParentingforSocialChange.com
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    Nov 14 2011: Great question!
    "Life is beautiful"
    "Be curious"
    "Think again"
    "Take it easy"
  • Nov 14 2011: 1) Tolerance by Example
    2) Imagination to Create
    3) Curiosity to Question
    4) Actions have Consequences
    5) Love is to be given and received
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    Nov 13 2011: "It's only with the heart that one can see clearly. What's essential is invisible to the eye".

    -Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
    (p.s. Be sure to give her/him enough time to study the drawings in the book the Little Prince . lolv)
    • Nov 14 2011: That is a very cool quote! (who said it?)
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        Nov 14 2011: ["It's only with the heart that one can see clearly. What's essential is invisible to the eye."]

        QUOTE: "That is a very cool quote! (who said it?)"

        Antoine de Saint-Exupéry in his book "The Little Prince."
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    Nov 10 2011: I think that the most important thing you can teach small children is to be a friend to themselves. By that I mean, enlist their aid in protecting their own heath and bodies and minds. I told my kids stories in which they were the 'king' of their country (their body). They began to understand the reasons for brushing their teeth (first line of defence against the invaders) or not put their fingers in their noses (importing enemies- germs). By getting them on their own side I did not have to fight the same battles over and over. When they realized that there was actually a good reason for eating veggies it was no longer a battle. I

    think that encompasses more than 5 things as you requested but I would add that I also taught them that their words made me think the same thoughts in my head and see the same pictures and better words made better pictures so that they would feel less frustrated. Finally, I think it is crucial to teach them to use their words rather than their fists.
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    Dec 8 2011: I would ask her to teach me how to be as innocently happy as she is. Then I'd tell her never to forget what she taught me.
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      Dec 8 2011: This was my first response too :) My six year old teaches me more every day than I could teach her in a lifetime.
  • Nov 25 2011: Let them be children - I believe sir Ken Robinson said "a 6yr old isnt half a 12yr old"
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      Nov 22 2011: So practical! Wish I'd known all that at 6 years old!
  • Nov 19 2011: My daughter's first fascination was the Moon- all I did was to go and share with her everything I knew about the moon, next I did was searched for pictures & stories about the Moon- then shared them with her. This went on for weeks together- which means till she had 'enough' of Moon. I let myself go with her fascination & would stop sharing about a particular topic when she stopped asking about it. The next thing she got fascinated about was the Horse. All I did was collected all the material I knew about horses and shared it with her. While I did all this, the intention was NOT TO TEACH anything. The intention was to EXPOSE HER TO INFORMATION & EXPERIENCE. So the axiom I follow is FOLLOW WHAT YOUR CHILD WANTS TO KNOW/LEARN. The rest of the things children merely absorb from you- mostly without you even being aware of!
  • Nov 17 2011: Hug
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    Nov 17 2011: -
    Basic "games theory" stuff...

    - Seek and consider options before making decisions
    - Retain options for as long as practical
    - Good decisions need good information
    - All information needs to be tested (Critical thinking)
    - Almost everyone will help you; for free
    - Trust is important, and honesty engenders trust
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    Nov 17 2011: Hi Carl,

    I am tippy toe-ing back into your conversation to add my bit. I have read some of the comments others wrote and this thread you created has now become a rich reference for some fabulous ideas of things to teach a 6-yr old. There is a lot here to "teach" a 6-yr old !!

    So my itsy bit is in regards to the word "share" and is two fold. (Share being a two-way street)

    Part one has to do with being and acting as your best and highest self at all times ( since it is what you do and not what you say that really counts ).

    Part two has to do with learning from the child instead of trying to teach her/him. I believe that children come into this world already knowing a lot, and they learn so much faster than any one else, so by the time they are six, I think they have surpassed the grown ups in many ways.
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      Nov 17 2011: Thanks Juliette ... it's so wonderful to have such a quick document of so much knowledge. I agree with you too :)
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        Nov 17 2011: Well, what lovelier topic than children !?

        1. Create the healthy environment for them (emotional and physical environment)
        and yourself.
        2. Let the children lead the way
        3. Learn from children
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    Nov 16 2011: Our family dogs and cat have taught the kids: to care about someone besides themselves, to have patience with others, to take responsibility and the many shapes of Love. This started before they were 6 and continues on. The ultimate lesson the animals teach them is how to cope when a loved one dies.
  • Nov 16 2011: Values :
    1. Critical thinking
    2. Respect and compassion
    3. Honesty
    4. Learn from one's errors
    5. Confidence and Self-defence
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    Nov 16 2011: Do what I say not what I do. Thats a good start for teaching children how to behave and learn in the world. More often than not we can teach our children more through talking to them and observing them. More than showing them, we adults have a very dismal record for this process. I more often ask my 6yr old grandson how he thinks and feels before I offer my pearls of wisdom in any given situation . you know that saying out of the mouths of babes.. The premiss of this topic should be what can your 6yr old teach you..