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Teens, what is the best way to get your attention, to get you to trust us when we talk about depression & suicide?

I have 4 teens at home, I am so very Blessed to say that they are content kids/young adults, and that because of our open and honest communication I enjoy their trust and I very much would love to help the kids they know who have contemplated the idea of suicide; for trust issues among the teens I can only suggest my kids to give the advise I would give them directly, but I want to help any kid(s) that may need support, how can I find a way to talk to them in the most efficient way?

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    Oct 24 2011: One thing I do know just telling them straight out won't work. If you're depressed the WORST thing you can say to anyone is "just be positive". That will only push you away.

    The best advice I can give is to use empathy. We've all experienced depression and knows how badly we yearn for it to stop. I know I've been there and I know how it feels. I would relate a story where you felt like that before. But you have to tell the story with feeling! You have to experience that emotion again. They will be able to emphasise if they know the feeling. Once you get to that understanding you will be able to talk on the same level. They will know it will pass and a quick way out is not the answer.
    • Oct 24 2011: Thanks, i agree completely. let them know that you've been there and know how they feel... how can we get to that conversation?
      Well this conversation/topic was closed because an administrator thought that it was too much like that of Chris Scott... I think his is asking for opinions on the subject of depression from the general public, but mine was asking teens, to get their opinion on how best to communicate with them. Its ok though ;)
      Thx for your fast answer James!
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