The pain of ostracism vs the right to walk away
It might be helpful to read this first:
I am interested in resiliency, and in this specific context what makes one person who is "shut out" of a group or even turned away from a single person become angry or despondent, vs another person who simply seeks out their niche and makes alternate connections.
Clearly, not everyone who fails to achieve the attention/affection of their chosen group or person becomes an extremist. Neither do they become despondent.
So why would two or three minutes of being ignored (and I don't mean by salespeople where the irritation is purely logical as they are being paid to give service) have long-term effects on some?
And what does this mean for our right to choose who we do or do not want to spend time with?