- Gloria Felicia
Idea Generator, Raffles International Christian School
This conversation is closed.
To what extent should parents take control of their children?
"Artist, poet, physicist, astronomer, dancer, musician, mathematician are captives from an older time, a different kind of society, in which, ultimately, they were the creators of all primary values."
- Kenneth Rexroth
I believe that each profession holds same level of value.
These values should not be undermined by anyone, not even siblings or parents, except the person himself.
Many parents (although in such a democratic country) still enforce their desire on their children's future to be turned into real. Is it because in some cases, they fail in implementing their own passionate dreams?
On the other lane, good deal of parents in the United States adopt a Laissez-Faire parenting and release their children to pursue their own careers at a very young age, do you think that it is okay to do this?
Youth may think they are sure with the career option they choose in the beginning of college year, however research shows that most of these kids do not possess 100% confidence on the major they're taking and later on began changing their pathway. Don't you think this kind of cycle (if it is continued) will bring such an enormous amount of time being wasted?
From big scale like the future issues of the kid to his privacy, to what extent parents should actually take ideal control?
At what age should they decrease control level step-by-step until the kid turns into a grown-up who can depend on himself as an entity? (in order for the kid to grow into an outgoing teenage and later into successful adult figure)
“You cannot live your life to please others. The choice must be yours.”—as it's quoted in the movie of 'Alice in Wonderland'. What are the actions required to establish better future/life of kids parents can do?
If one's taught in the best possible way, he could precisely target what he wanted with the aid of knowing his true potentials and later on, achieve his wish-list effectively bloom into the person he's meant to be and hopefully the cycle will finally stop.
Closing Statement from Gloria Felicia
Based on the the perspectives received, I could infer that parents should not adopt autocratic type of approach/control to their children.
Respect is the key, as Rhona said.
The second most powerful element to create successful young adults someday out of the children is guidance, regarding all aspects of the children with the respect of their privacy, like Lawrence suggested.
Third, of all issues and uder any circumstances, do get to know better of your children's attitudes and characters so that you can be friends with them and it will be an ease for them to share their cares. So from this point on, they will be able to tell you what they like to do and what they don't. In conclusion, you will know what's the best for them and what are their potential and prospective talents.
If you have done all these three main points as a parent, you will succeed along with your kids.