- Felicia Nomiko
- Manchester, NH
- United States
How can we respect femininity?
Please keep in mind my statements in this explanation will be general. I understand that not all people conform to these generalities but I put them this way to facilitate discussion. For every statement understand this is generally speaking.
This is something I have noticed for a long time but could never fully put into words until recently. Men and women are different, we think differently and tend to be better at different areas of life. Men tend to be driven by a need to be useful, productive, work oriented. Women tend to be relationally oriented, home centered. There is nothing wrong with either of these bents, they serve very real needs with in any family, group or society. What has happened in history over and over is a demphasis of the female way of thinking and being and an emphasis on the male mind set. For instance, and I've mentioned this before, IQ tests are slanted heavily to math and science, which is just another type of math a lot of the time and tend to only lightly dip into language and communication skills. This leads people to assume there are more geniuses among men than women. I contend that women are equally intelligent but that intelligence is only recognized by male standards.
Another clear sign of this is the work place. It seems that even as women struggle for equality, we are becoming "equal" by entering the "man's world", gaining our self worth based on masculine standards of worth. Working, production, careers and job prowess are the basis for equality and worth. I find this disheartening.
I want women to be considered equal and still be female. Being a Mother and home maker shouldn't be considered of less worth than having a paid company job. Making money shouldn't be the basis for feminine equality. How can we fight for the equality of femininity itself. There is inherent worth in it, how do we regain that instead of demeaning it further?