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Dave Lim

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Who is your Everyday Hero?

By this I mean, a person who you see frequently as part of your life, work, school, etc.

Any age. Could be your neighbor, colleague, friend, family, someone you see in your neighborhood.

(Rather than a public figure, famous personality, etc living or not)

.. and share with us "Why?"

Topics: Hero

Closing Statement from Dave Lim

It's wonderful to see all the tributes and recognition you have be giving your everyday heroes.

Many people cited heroes based on their disposition towards life and those who give of themselves to others, especially parents and grandparents.

As food for thought, and to share, here are some definitions of heroes:

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    Oct 9 2011: My everyday hero is the gentlemen who cleans the toilets at my workplace. He certainly does not earn the highest salary there, but seems to be the happiest employee. Always kind to everyone, everytime we enter the toilette and he is there performing his job, he treats us as if we were arriving to his home's living room. And when we leave, greets the people like if we were to come and visit him back one day, when he would have the opportunity to be the kindest guest again.
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      Oct 12 2011: wow. You got it right my friend. God bless you.
  • Oct 19 2011: My children, who understand that I am not perfect.
    My husband, who has endless patience and respect for me and others
    My parents, who thought me the most important things in life: honesty, respect, compassion, and all the good character trades one should have.
    And of course, God.
    I believe there is a hero in all of us.
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      Oct 23 2011: Thank God for kids who love us inspite of our imperfections! Nice point Patricia!
  • Oct 12 2011: Today it was me who was a hero. I have made a lot of people smile today, both at home, with my band and at work. Feel realy good about myself. Hope I can repeat myself tomorrow. It's nice to be a hero.
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      Oct 12 2011: what an honest thing to say. I appreciated hearing that Marcus. So often, we don't allow ourselves to acknowledge our own achievements or good works. Whatever it was, I'm glad it gave you such satisfaction. :)
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      Oct 13 2011: I think you are so lucky .I never had such a beautiful day,and i really want to follow you if conditions permit.And I think i will be happy in that way .
  • Oct 11 2011: Pat. I met her last year on an intergenerational dance project. She's 75 years old. She has the curiosity of a child and the wisdom of her years. The world seems to be her playground and she will seek out adventure at home and abroad. Age and gender don't stop her. I find her inspiring. She demonstrates how you are never too old to play
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      Oct 11 2011: I recently rewatched the movie Harold and Maude, which rekindled my desire to further my passion and curiosity into my age. I'm extremely inspired to find that you have someone in your life like that. I think we have so much to learn from people who embrace life like that.
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        Oct 12 2011: Hi Bella! I recently saw Harold and Maude for the first time and found it to be a fascinating take on life!
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    Oct 5 2011: Honestly, I am my Everyday Hero myself. At least for most of the days.

    I have children to care for, I am living in a (for me) foreign and sometimes strange country, I try to learn something new every day, I try to contribute as much as I can to things that matter. I cook, I organize, I care for the whole family, I try to keep in touch with my parents and my dear friends all over the world...

    At the end of the day, if it was a good day (and some days are not), I really feel like a hero. And I think we all deserve to feel this, if we know, that we've tried our best.
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      Oct 5 2011: Nice, I really appreciate people with nice attitude towards life :)
  • Oct 12 2011: My hero for several years was a man who sold newspapers on a street corner I passed every day on the way to work. I never bought a paper from him (I subscribe at home), but he always smiled and waved when I drove by. He appeared to be in his 50's and had an artificial leg, and I later learned that he was homeless off and on, but his cheerfulness never flagged. One Christmas I gave him a card with a note, "Thank you for brightening my mornings!" and a small amount of money, and he seemed amazed -- I think he didn't realize how rare his good attitude was. Eventually he disappeared, and I later saw a brief article (in the paper he sold) saying that he had died. I miss him.
  • Oct 11 2011: My heroes are the unstoppable caretakers--usually moms--of children with ADHD, autism, sensory issues, bipolar disease, etc., who are up late at night on the internet gathering information about how to help their kids and offering loving support and advice to other moms. They amaze me. They keep each other going, often know more than every professional their kids come in contact with, and are so generous of spirit. They inspire me daily.

  • Oct 11 2011: life itself is my hero, eveyone and everytheing teaches me how i like to live.
    I just like to thank life for being such a good hero no matter what?
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    Oct 11 2011: My everyday hero is my daughter Bethany. At the age of 22, one month after graduating from the University of Florida, Bethany left the home to join the Peace Corps. She now lives in Ghana, W. Africa working as a science teacher and is raising funds for water tanks for her school/village, as they do not have running water. In her young life, she has taught me what it means to be unselfish and totaling giving, expecting nothing in return. I have learned so much about this world, through her eyes. Although I miss her terribly, I am proud that my child is making a positive change in this world.
  • Oct 10 2011: My best friend Tony.
    He has gone through so many problems throughout his life that I could never match up to or even know if I could deal with...ever. I will save his life story for the sake of his own privacy, but seeing him go through life being as content as he is blows my mind. He is one of the people I can look to, to care about me regardless of the situation. He always puts his friends and others around him before himself. Always. I have told him these things before and he was modest about it of course, but he truly does motivate me to try and help others around me before myself no matter what. After going through all the hardships he has dealt with and still deals with in life, he STILL has never given up on his dreams to be in a great band and use his music to make people happy. That motivates me to follow my dreams. He is truly one of my great heroes.
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      Oct 23 2011: Nice story Chris. Tony sounds like a great guy and a good friend. I'll bet he is proud of you too.
    • Oct 26 2011: My every day hero has been my dad who has brought me up all this while, foregone every thing of his to educate my self and my siblings.chose the lean path because of us!
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    Oct 5 2011: The mothers and fathers trying to keep their children alive in the areas of the world which are facing starvation are everyday heroes to me. Can you imagine doing everything in your power and watching your child die of starvation knowing that there are others in the world who are hoarding food and driving up the prices? Here is what they are stuggling against.


    EDIT: I am sorry that I took off half cocked and did not read exactly what you were requesting.

    Therefore I revise my answer to the following: right now it is my friend Alice who just nursed her husband of 47 years for more than 18 months as he died of a form of asbestidosis contracted years ago when he worked in a factory. He died a few weeks ago. She has been supporting the family and even a grandchild lives with her. She keeps putting one foot ahead of another, keeps caring, keeps loving and keeps everyone around her feeling that everything will be OK. The strength of good women is so amazing!
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    Oct 5 2011: Me. For embracing the possible.

    My father (who died in 1998.) For his simple integrity.

    My wife. For her childlike openness, willingness to learn, joyfulness, effort, and persistence.

    My mother (who is still alive.) For her positive attitude and unwavering support.

    Another person whom I do not wish to identify. For teaching me were to look.
  • Oct 31 2011: my hero is everyone I don't know who has to care for a disabled or terminally ill person full time. That takes real courage.
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    Oct 23 2011: My husband of 57 years. He is a good guy.
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    Oct 22 2011: My mother - her strength and perseverance is an inspiration to me. For that reason, any mother I meet or come across has evokes a sense of admiration from me.
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    Oct 22 2011: People here. Speakers on TED. Pretty much anyone who can bring forth a creative idea despite ensuing unpopularity with the masses.
  • Oct 20 2011: My students and my husband are inspirations for me. I have students from all walks of life, who work at tough jobs to pay their tuition. Many are the first in their family to attend college, or even graduate from high school. Even with all of this against them, so many of my students are original thinkers who are excited to be invited to be part of the larger conversation, and to even set the agenda for that conversation.

    My husband coaches Special Olymics basketball, and just got a volunteer of the year award. He gets up every Saturday and Sunday for 4 month, and leaves the house by 6am ready to go out and spend his free time to bring joy to other people. I feel so lucky to know him. much less to be married to him
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    Oct 19 2011: Very difficult question because in life, we all are heroes. Everyone is a hero with a different strength and a weakness. We all continue to develop and some are just looked at depending on a person's likes or dislikes. So personally, I do not have one. However, the heroes I prefer...are those who have a voice, say their opinion (Even if it could be wrong but you never know it could be right) and not be influenced or scared by many others. Those are the really brave ones I respect and look up to and therefore, my heroes.
  • Oct 12 2011: My everyday hero is my sister-in-law. She put herself through college while being a single mom to two boys who have grown up to be amazing young men. She's now a middle school teacher. I admire her strength, humor, and resiliency and am proud to know her.
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    Oct 12 2011: This question really got me thinking and suddenly i realize that the true hero in my life who inspires me everyday is my mother. I never thought about this question before. Sometimes i even think that my mum can't follow my thoughts, but i totally forget about how hard she tried to bring me up and got me leading a life like other kids who grow up with two parents. Thank you Dave wholeheartedly! I really appreciate your inspiring question!
    • Oct 13 2011: from your words i read that you are a positive girl. You know what your mother have given to you and really appreciate what your mother's devoted to you. You are a good gay. Wish you happy everyday
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    Oct 12 2011: I hate to share my personal stuff online but this got me thinking and I realised that I need to share this... My everyday Hero is none but my DAD. He Was.. He Is And HE Would Always Remain My Best Friend Forever! Even though he’s not around now for almost 20 years – may God Rest His Soul in Peace. He inspires me every day to live life with compassion and purpose.

    There wasn't a time when I saw him getting angry... Agitated… He was always smiling, making space and time for people in his life and being humanly human to one and all. He always had a smile on his face and a look of compassion on his face. He always said that don’t try to Be Anything Except being a Human. HE IS EVERYDAY MY HERO....ALWAYS AND FOREVER REMEMBERING.

    And then life itself is my hero... as it keeps throwing new challenges at me and testing me.
  • Oct 11 2011: My husband is a rare breed. Friends call him MacGyver because he can figure out anything. He started making alpine snowboards for himself in order to be more competitive, even though everyone told him he couldn't do it. After winning everything, people started asking him to make boards for them, and a business was born. His philosophy is that he doesn't sell snowboards, he sells the snowboarding experience - he'll do everything he can to make you the perfect board for you. And I can't get him to charge more! He's just on a mission to spread snowboarding joy. Honestly, everyday he teaches me about perseverance and generosity. I wish everyone had a Bruce in their lives. It would be a much better world.
  • Oct 11 2011: My current hero is the school nurse, Barbara. She knows every one of the 500+ children in our school, no lie. She indulges their needs and makes them feel important and loved. She takes care to help the kids who have less than good lives, making them feel like she and they are part of a family. She saves them from themselves and refocuses their considerations and values, gives them food when they have aches because they haven't had breakfast or last night's dinner, and makes them feel important -- as they certainly are, but they may be the last to know. The future is safe with Barbara.
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    Oct 10 2011: "YOU ARE MY HERO BECAUSE...."

    Would you go up to your everyday hero and tell them that you consider them your hero, and share why?

    If you like, come back and do share with us what happened after...

    (Even if the person is yourself, you can tell it aloud to yourself in front of the mirror)
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    Oct 9 2011: for me... my dear Agrwal sir....he is mine every day hero......
    replenish my soul 2 achieve my career
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    Oct 6 2011: My children.....by asking their open questions remind me to keep looking at the world and people in amazement without any prejudice.
  • Oct 5 2011: My everyday heroes for today are all of the single parents who manage to keep their focus on the most important job of all: raising children, and somehow manage to support their family by juggling work and social schedules - often on limited budgets and a lack of sleep. They are amazing!
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    Oct 5 2011: My seven month old nephew because at such a young age he is already a true fighter and a constant reminder of the triviality of my problems.
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    Oct 5 2011: People lean on me a lot. Some have informed me that I am a strong person. Strong enough that people naturally try to lean on me.

    What they don't know is that I'm not so tough... Without my friends, I couldn't support my own weight... let alone everyone else's!
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      Oct 5 2011: Everyone needs their friends and family. As a matter of fact they're the ones make us stronger ;)
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    Oct 5 2011: Beatrice Achieng Nas, Ugandan citizen journalist with WORLD PULSE. She sent an email after her 7th brother died from HIV Aids with this title only "He died. An hour ago." Her stark truth-telling proceeds this month in USA speaking tour. She compelled her mom to stand for her family's land contrary to tribal custom taking it away from a 66 year old widow with no man then alive to work the land. Her mom prevailed and today the surviving 17 family members struggle to get by on that land. Their combined voiced changed their family's survival, the tribal custom, Beatrice's relationship with her mom, and touched my heart with her courageous soul.

    I met her last night for the first time in person after mentoring her online this past year. We held each other tight, crying with joy at our combined great fortunes, each embracing the other in happy endings. Or is this just the beginning of greatness being heard? http://www.kgw.com/video?id=131115398&sec=547617

    At Portland State University last night she had hundreds crying moved by her story and words of hard life learnings. She participated in her first Tweet up this morning and learned how to invite Americans to the 13 live events she will speak at in the US. Her learning curve and capacity is unbounded for good.
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      Oct 8 2011: Kat - This is a remarkable inspiration. Thank you for posting it.