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What are three things you believed as a kid, that you stopped believing as you got older?

Sometimes I look back and laugh at the things I believed as a kid. Not the silly things like Santa being real, but the stereotypes that shaped my world and how I used to interact with people. My perception of the world has changed since I was a kid as I've interacted with people both inside and out of my country (US) and experienced more things in life.

As a kid, I used to think there was no way I'd ever meet the author of a book. They lived in caves or off the coast of some lonely island writing their hearts out without pay. Now, I have friends that are authors. While they're not rich, they certainly aren't how I envisioned them as a kid. Having met these authors, I stopped believing I needed to be "special" to write a book or novel. I started believing if I had something positive to say that could fill up a book, then I could become an author.

What about you? What are three things you believed as a kid, that you stopped believing as you got older?

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    Oct 7 2011: Cowboys weren't real....then I married one.

    Hamburger and milk came from the grocery store...then I raised the cows that made them.

    Marriage is forever... well, you can probably guess what happened to the cowboy. :)
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    Oct 6 2011: I used to believe that adults knew what they were talking about. That they were "smart". This was first challenged, for me, when I found myself at school doing our required "atomic bomb" drills. We were told that it was to protect us from the A Bomb. Having seen atomic explosions on TV I realized that adults must not really be as smart as they want us to believe.

    As a child I also understood that being six years old was very different than being ten, but I thought that once you were an adult your world, your life, no longer changed. As I got older I came to realize how much both you and your world change as you go through each stage. The world looks different at thirty, than at sixty.

    As a child I uncritically accepted what I saw on TV. One day while putting toothpaste on my toothbrush my father told me not to use so much - " you don't need all that." I realized I was doing it this way because I had seen commercials on TV. In the commercial the toothbrush was always piled high with toothpaste. I didn't realize that that what I saw on TV was just to get me to use more so we had to buy more. A simple lesson but one I've found very useful.
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      Oct 7 2011: What you mentioned about believing what you saw on TV just reminded me - i grew up on Star Trek (now called TOS, at the time it was just "Star Trek" because it was wholly unique!) and as a kid I really thought that by the time I grew up we would have broken light speed and at least be able to send manned spacecraft to Pluto. Now it looks like I'll have to live to the ripe old age of 900+ to get a chance of seeing that!
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    Oct 7 2011: 1. That the trees held up the sky...kids can't help being empiricists.
    2. That teachers and adults in general were so wise, looking back, they gave pretty convincing performances.
    3. That doctors could fix anything...I thought we were so advanced that they weren't just playing God.

    Children are simply idealists without all the facts, ignorance is childhood...and you thought I was going to say bliss.
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    Oct 3 2011: 1) That grown ups are actually grown up inside.
    2) That people who say that what they are telling you is the absolute truth are always telling the truth.
    3) That romantic love lasts forever.
  • Oct 9 2011: The beauty of being a child resides in the naivity and honesty of your thoughts and soul. Of course, as you grow older, you become more realistic in what you think and do, and you sometimes need to get a few slaps from life to actually realize, that what you believed in ever since, is not a really trustworthy.

    For me, one of the most crucial things that I discovered during the years was, that adults do not always have the truth, and that only because they are older and more experienced doesnt mean they are more capable of solving problems and living a right virtuous life.

    Another thing I discovered about people is, that they are pretty stupid. I do not mean intelectually (though sometimes that fits as well), but I mean "practically stupid". Many people lack empathy, vision and the ability to express and spread their opinions and thoughts. Egoism rules the mankind... that was a pretty irritating discovery. (Honor to the exceptions :))

    Anyways, even though growing older can be difficult sometimes, I am happy I can "move" in my life and develop my character through experiencing the new.
  • Oct 9 2011: I believed in santa.

    I believed in the easter bunny.

    I believed in god.

    I believed the infallibility of my parents and elders.

    adults were giants.

    my dad was the strongest man in the world.

    my dad was superman.

    I accepted racism.

    I accepted homophobia.

    I believed drugs were bad.

    I believed that if i loved somebody unconditionally that they would also.

    I believed summer lasted forever.

    5 minutes was an hour when i was a kid.

    I believed that politicians were selfless.

    I believed that true love was when your life turned into a happy perfect movie.

    I believed that if i saw something, could touch it, smell it it was 'real'....I believed my senses.

    I believed that everyone had the potential to be my best friend.

    'I want to believe' - Fox Mulder
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    Oct 8 2011: 1. advertisements

    I was eating a bowl of cocoa puffs the other day, reminiscing about how great they were as a kid. Then I realized all of my great cocoa puff memories were just me sitting in front of a television watching a little bird dance around. I was just a victim of clever marketing. Leggo my eggo! I loved shouting that. But it was just a catch phrase. Lift the brand-image veils and suddenly processed food seems pretty gross.

    2. the news

    Maybe it helped being young during the internet boom. I like learning, keeping up with current events and the web has been an incredible tool in this regard. It's just that when you have easy access to just about every news source out there, the mainstream ones start to seem a bit below the mark. Seeing what they selectively cover, and the slant they add, reveals a lot of sensationalism, sometimes propaganda and often enough the stories just aren't accurate.

    3. credibility

    Maybe this goes with children seeing adults as gods, but the whole world seems much more benevolent when you're younger. Laws are there to uphold morals and keep us safe. Pharmaceutical companies are here to help us. Government and corporations alike have a kind of innocence about them. Fast forward 20 years and it almost seems like the people are being herded every which way and farmed for their dollars. Propaganda, when produced by corporations, is called advertising, encouraged and happily accepted by the public. Laws are often enough passed with political or financial goals. Swaying the viewpoint of the masses is an invaluable device in any democratic free market.
  • Oct 7 2011: 1. If you hide under your blanket, nothing can harm you.
    2. Your success is directly correlated with your education.
    3. Time goes by too slow...
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    Oct 4 2011: 1. I used to believe that life is easy and now I believe it even more ... it's all a matter of semantics. Actually, everyone but me knows this isn't true! Oh, well ... it's hard sometimes to kick the old habit out.
    2. That adults have more fun ... well, not SO true anymore. :(
    3. I'll have all of my friends around ... as you can guess that didn't turn out well either. Still glad there are a few of them left. Still A few!
    • Oct 4 2011: Ooops!! You've caught me in another of my beliefs ... I also still believe that life is easy ... it's getting what I want that is hard!! Seriously though, it's not life that is easy or hard, but how I think about it .... and that I do have (some) control over ..
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        Oct 5 2011: Indeed! Wanting leaves you in hunger and that's hard to fill up. :( What is there really that we can't control? Other people. All our life is in our hands. :) Let's brighten up and lose the strings. Let's be free kids (at least spiritually) again ... ah, how I'd love that! As children we pull the strings but as adults we get all of ours pulled.
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    Oct 4 2011: 1. That the members of my immediate family(mom dad sister brother) would die in order of our ages.
    2.That all you needed was talent to become successful.
    3 That racial predjudice could be overcome with intelligence and working together.
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    Oct 3 2011: That crying was shameful so I had to be tough because people who cried were losers. Now, I quite envy people who express their emotions easily and find it quite liberating when i shed a few tears.

    That there was a third world where people were always hungry and I was a bad person for not eating my spuds. Now I believe there is only one big world where, yes, a lot of people are still hungry however, I don't need to go too far to see it. And, no, I'm not a bad person.

    That God was this really annoying old man who needed a good shave and that was always going to be on my case. Now, I simply don't believe in God.
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    Oct 3 2011: That higher states of consciousness were just as rife with politics and conflict as daily life. That people in positions of power were smarter than me. That science and scientists were not motivated by greed, turf control and ideology.
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    Oct 3 2011: I used to believe that everyone grew at a set rate as they aged. So I was convinced that my father was older then my grandfather, as my father was the taller of the two.

    Having grown up in a rather religious house, I also believed that people could be grouped into two categories. You were either christian, or you belonged to a cult. The shock of my life when I met someone who was in a different religion then my family, and yet they were still a nice person. Didn't bite the head off of a rodent in my presence or anything.

    There was also the belief that I could believe everything that I was told by a teacher without question. I went to a private christian school, and was taught that evolution was a lie. That scientist and archaeologists were only able to tell the age of dinosaur bones based off of the layer of dirt that they were found in, and that they only knew how old the dirt was, based off of which bones they found in that layer. The doors of my bubble were blown wide open when I came across an article about carbon dating.

    I believed that people did good things, for good reasons. After taking a step to the side and viewing religion from a different perspective, I noticed that many (if not most) people do good things for selfish reasons. That the kind act is sometimes being motivated by a belief in a later reward. I began seeing it in friendships as well. How people would attempt to reconnect with people that they hadn't spoken to in awhile, when they knew that they would require help shortly. For example, a person who suddenly becomes extremely friendly a month before they are planning on moving. Then asking everyone to help out, only to then stop talking to everyone again once all of the furniture has been moved.
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    Oct 3 2011: I believed that everything was forever.
    Summer....until autumn took it down
    Pain....until it stopped hurting
    Joy....until ....well....umm....actually.... joy is forever.....
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      Oct 5 2011: You are a joy for keeps, Juliette. :) Outta thumbs up for you again this week though. :(
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      Oct 7 2011: I wholly agree about Joy: Joy is a mindset, a state of being. Happiness is caused by circumstances, and can be fleeting. Joy is a level that you have been brought to . . . you can constantly be in a state of joy even if you are or are not at the moment happy.
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        Oct 7 2011: Thank You Verble, Silvia and Debra
        Joy is always there inside us, but sometimes it becomes really hard to reach in and get in touch with it, especially when we feel sad.
        • Oct 8 2011: Juliette!! You're so awesome!!!

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    Oct 3 2011: Besides Santa and the tooth fairy, I used to innocently believe that if you are a good person, nothing bad will happen to you. Somehow your good deeds will put you in a protective bubble and only bad people would get hurt. As an adult, I know the truth: really bad things happen to really good people. As I got older and looked around at my family and friends, I saw bad things - losing a home through no fault of their own, diabetes, heart attack, cancers, immune disorders, car accidents, job loss. Though I continue to try to send good out to the universe and pay it forward, I stopped believing in that particular fairytale.
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      Oct 3 2011: C'est la vie.

      Deborah I'm glad to hear it doesn't stop you from still doing good where you can. Can you share a moment where it may have been tough to do good, but you did anyway?
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        Oct 3 2011: My answer may sound trite, but actually it was giving a dollar to a homeless man. I was recently in a car accident which resulted in losing a steady job as copywriter and graphic designer. Last week, I saw a man with a sign asking for assistance while taking my child to school. Bringing in no income, it was tough to think about giving my last dollar to someone who could be "faking" it. We hear stories about scammers all the time. But I rolled down my window anyway. I realized a dollar wouldn't make or break me either way. I would rather risk be scammed than ignore a person in need.
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      Oct 3 2011: Deborah.
      I think there's crept in a flaw in that story.
      As I said in response to another question that there are no bad people so you can derive from that that there are no good people either.
      Yet if one is connected to the core of all being and lives in trust and peace for all, good things come.
      If not and someone is in fear or anger, disappointed or uncertain, he or she disconnect and attracts all causes for that fear, for that anger to become disappointed and chaotic.
      So keep the good feeling and cherish it.
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    Oct 9 2011: I used to believe that people can be happy only if they are rich until I saw a nomad living in an almost dry land in a down hill place but very happy with her kids and family.

    That really changed my mind & even now the question sometimes comes to my mind that how can someone with such a poor living standard can still be happy.
  • Oct 8 2011: I believed that if you swallowed a seed, from a citrus fruit, that that tree would grow in your stomach.
    I believed in magic. thank you amazing Randi.
    I believed buying things would make you happy.
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    Oct 8 2011: I love hugs....thanks...a warm hug in return :-)
  • Oct 7 2011: The concept of good people and bad people
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    Oct 6 2011: I believed I could fly (like just raise my arm and take flight). I still kinda believe this.
    I thought that Teddy Ruxpin was my best friend.
    I believed that my dad was everyone's Santa Claus.
    • Oct 8 2011: I believed I could fly. so funny. You should believed your father was everyone's Santa Claus.^_^
  • Oct 6 2011: that everything in the past is black and white like an old movie
    • Oct 8 2011: funny O(∩_∩)O
    • Oct 8 2011: Strange, butthat is something i also believed as a child. And even today it is very hard for me to think in colour about things from my childhood.
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    Oct 6 2011: for me, learning that my parents are not equal to god was a big eye-opener. also, it was tough coming to terms with the apparent reality that no fairy tale land filled with dragons, elves, and pixies exists. lastly, monotheism.
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    Oct 6 2011: Three things, eh?
    1) I believed everything revolved around me. (When I became a parent, boy, did THAT change!)
    2) I believed no matter what, that mom and dad would always be around. (But now I understand the importance of creating that feeling for my own kids)
    3) I believed that I was being raised in the land of the free and the home of the brave. When I grew us and studied what my country is and what it does, has done, continues to do . . . well, now I'm not so sure that we're all that "brave."
  • Oct 4 2011: 1. I used to believe that everything should be fair, that life is fair .... now I see that life is! It's is not fair or unfair, simply is.
    2. That there is an answer for everything .... now I believe that there are more questions than answers and that they are more important to consider.
    3. That somebody else knew better than me what was right for me .... now I don't really believe in things being right or wrong, it's what I make of them that matters
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      Oct 4 2011: Sounds like you've found peace and balance in what you used to believe and what you believe now Tricia. Am I right?
      • Oct 4 2011: I have ... for now!! Though it frequently surprises me how old habits of belief resurface. Surrendering dependencies .... whether in a religion, a guru, a mentor, a higher power, magic, or whatever, .... is challenging. I wonder though, as times change for me, how my beliefs will continue to change .... "when I was a child I spoke as a child, I thought as a child, but when I became a man I put away childish things ..." It seems to me that there may be beliefs that are more suited to different stages of our lives .... after all, they are beliefs (not facts, however much I would like to believe otherwise!!)
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    Oct 3 2011: 1/ Evolution has foresight

    2/ Sex is disgusting

    3/ Homeopathy works
  • Oct 10 2011: 1. That all men were as strong, honest and hardworking as my dad
    2. That the perfect lives on TV sitcoms were real
    3. That my first love would be my last
  • Oct 10 2011: 1. growing up watching captain planet (a cartoon series) i thought i was responsible for everyone around me - but no.

    2. i thought every lady was kind because mama was always kind - but no, quite the opposite.

    3. i thought doing everything right meant nothing wrong/ bad gonna come your way - but no, you can do everything right and still get the wrong/bad stuff. sometimes you might even say those who took the "wrong route" got the best places but ....

    things are just not what they seem
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    Oct 10 2011: 1. That marriage was a sacred committment that was for life.
    2. That being a good person guaranteed happiness.
    3. That investing time, energy, and money in gaining an education would lead to meaningful employment.

    I have learned that:
    1. Marriage comes in all flavours, and relationships can be committed ones without marriage.
    2. Being a good person guarantees self-respect, but happiness is a choice and attitude, not a result of actions.
    3. An education is never wasted, but at times one must find meaning and 'usefulness' outside of employment.
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    Oct 10 2011: When I was a kid, I believed that my father was a superhero. He told me that he had a magic ring that when put on his finger gave him extraordinary strength. I remember one time he walked over to a picnic table and asked me to try and lift one end of it up, I was only 7 and couldn't lift the heavy table. He then tried to lift it too and pretended it was too heavy for him too. He then put his "magic ring" on and then lifted the end of the table up over his head with a mighty roar.

    My dad has always supported my endeavors. I am a musician and play in a band: http://thenewgreenmusic.com/ my father went to almost every show we played. I am the co-founder of a website called Hubski -a thoughtful web http://hubski.com/ and although he has no idea what a "social aggregator" is, he visits the site often and lets me know of the "new ideas and information" he has learned as a result. -Recently, my wife, daughter and I moved from Michigan to North Carolina. My father helped us load up a giant moving truck and drove the truck to NC for us.

    You probably see where I'm heading with this... although I no longer think he's a superhero, I definitely think he's pretty super.

    I can't wait till my daughters old enough to "believe" in my "magic ring".

    Great topic, thanks for the remembrance.
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    Oct 10 2011: 1. I believed/brought up to trust in the government
    2.The American Dream
    3. Talent beats hard work ; when indeed hard work beats talent because talent does not work as hard.