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Amani Khalil

HR Business Partner, Johnson Controls (Saudi Arabia)

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Genuine Smile, Fake Smile but what about one associated with Pain?

Decided to re-post my comment as I would love others insight in regards to my question.

This video left me thinking; if we take out the real smile and the fake smile i am often amazed at myself (as a person who smiles endlessly) the sad smile. How is it that even through the most painful of times I as well as others are still capable of smiling, they maybe smaller in size from an actual happy smile yet still the only answer in that i can verify from my end is even with a sad smile i seem to connect the emotional vulnerability of realizing that even through the pain i could feel emotionally and physically a smile is there to comfort me, a selfish act that allows me to continue? Hard to articulate yet anyone else get my train of thought?

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    Aug 12 2011: The smile has been my ultimate guide into one's soul. I often judge people by their smile and I'm rarely wrong. So the smile has not only been a great source of information for me but an insight into the deeper part of us that we involuntarily let others see.
    Now the sad smile I believe can do many things 'cause it shows that even in the worst of times we can continue ahead. The world doesn't really stop when we aren't OK so I guess it is a way of us catching up with the rest who didn't know about our pain. Or just may be it it's telling us it's alright to feel hurt and that in the end "this too shall pass".
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      Aug 14 2011: I love your view Silivia, I do see how smile can and is used as pain management. Smiling is an important factor for me not only for myself but for others around me and important to me, I do feel as though a laugh or a smile in any situation is just as good as candy when you least expect it and most crave it. I tend concentrate on an individuals eyes more than a smile, but I also think what we concentrate on the most is somewhat a reflection of what we understand the most, if Smiling does it for you Silvia than you have an amazing spirit :)
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        Aug 14 2011: Thank you for the kind words, Amani! I only hope that your smile will express much more joy than whatever else it can. :)

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