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Amani Khalil

HR Business Partner, Johnson Controls (Saudi Arabia)


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Genuine Smile, Fake Smile but what about one associated with Pain?

Decided to re-post my comment as I would love others insight in regards to my question.

This video left me thinking; if we take out the real smile and the fake smile i am often amazed at myself (as a person who smiles endlessly) the sad smile. How is it that even through the most painful of times I as well as others are still capable of smiling, they maybe smaller in size from an actual happy smile yet still the only answer in that i can verify from my end is even with a sad smile i seem to connect the emotional vulnerability of realizing that even through the pain i could feel emotionally and physically a smile is there to comfort me, a selfish act that allows me to continue? Hard to articulate yet anyone else get my train of thought?


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  • Aug 12 2011: Well, smiling does more than say "Im happy." It also says "Im friendly and I like you." I dont know about you, but I tend to make my sad smiles only towards another person relating to me while I am sad. I dont sit around crying alone and smiling. So I think sad smiles are more a show of friendship and appreciation for those who are with us in our moment of sadness and grief, than they are about happiness.
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      Aug 14 2011: Alyson you've actually made a great connection that I overlooked, appreciating a friend in a time of personal need. I like you smile with or for a friend during the hardest of moments and if it is a friend going through a rough patch I try to make them smile atleast once a deep genuine smile that gets them past their concerns even if it only lasts a moment. But personally, yes I am alone sometimes when my smiles arent so happy which is why i was more curious about others insight (instead of my own self-analysis) :)

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