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How are we going to get Conscious Listening into schools?

In his latest speech, TED speaker Julian Treasure made a call to all of the great people in the TED community to help him make the world more conscious about listening.

Julian is trying to get conscious listening skills to be taught in schools all over the world.

The stakes are high because we became desensitized by this noisy world we live in. We have now lost our conscious listening capabilities and therefore our access to understanding.

We don't really know how to listen, and this leads us to a scary world where people are not listening to one another.

So, Any ideas?


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    Aug 21 2011: Will think on this even though I HAVE BEEN for decades as I continually noticed my students' listening skills deteriorate more and more. In the past, I have tried a minute of silence at the beginnng of class, soothing sounds, classical music, paired listening partners, but to be honest, in the long run, I am not sure what will work.

    I think technology is partly thel culprit in this, for even if something is not "on", many of my students are still thinking about that last text message or FB status or "biting at the bit" to reply to a text rather than "living in the moment" and listening to me and their peers. And the other is life's stress, for parents are NOT listening to their children. For the most part, there is no longer a family dinner where kids and parent CAN talk to one another. Besides this, we have TOO MUCH STUFF in that there is a tv in every room; kids have their own computers, own rooms and there is just NO INTERACTION between family members anymore! When students talk about their problems, and I tell them to go to their parents for help/advice, most tell me that they won't listen to them or even take the time to ltry to isten. HOW many times have you seen adults not really listen to their children as they are too busy doing something else, thus they not giving their child his/her full attention?? AND this is where the problem begins.... as this behavior is learned.....then when you add technology to tthe mix where earbuds are in almost 24/7, there ya go Fahrenheit 451 has come true!!
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      Aug 21 2011: Your problem is that the kids who "have too much stuff" are being raised by parents who according to their parents, "had too much stuff". We're about 5 generations deep of parents holding their kids in contempt for not being grateful as amazing grace over all the awesome shit they have. I think if you want kids to be more active in what you appreciate, you need to get more involved in what they are appreciating. They are all just living in the moment we present to them. Guess what, the moment we are presenting them with is full of new shit.
      My point is, no body cares. We are all so used to hearing about so many problems, that even when our kids come to us with a problem, our natural reaction is to assess it quickly and often say handle it yourself or handle it my way.
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        Aug 21 2011: No body cares??? Contempt??? moment is full of new sh*t?? Are you an existentialist or just plain negative?? I CARE and so do MY children...and thankfully many of my students do as well. AND if you are an adult and your child comes to you with a problem (and I mean a big one and not "Sissy is bothering me"), and you do not take the time to listen to him/her, I say SHAME ON YOU. What is more important than helping your child? I am SICK of parents who think that once their child hits the teenage years, they no longer need them as that is when they really do, no matter what they say. What you said is just an easy way out for you and a cop-out as a parent

        .Now onto your comment about if I want my kids to be more" active in what [I] appreciate ,[I]I need to get more involved in what they appreciate" has WHAT to do with listening to or partaking in what is going on around them? I do know what my students are interested in, but in class, lessons take precedence. And that new sh*t as you say, at least in school is something that they just may need.

        And lastly, I don't agree with your "5 generations deep" of parents saying their kids had too much "stuff" as the 3rd generalion back would be MY parents who lived in the Depression and then the War. So...that is not valid. And to be honest, I did not have that much "stuff" either as accumulating "stuff" by the middle class was just beginning in the 1950's. The only exception for me was Christmas as my mom grew up in an orphanage, and I think she was trying to compensate for that, so I was just shy of the "overindulgence" that would soon be happening. Yes when many of my generation became parents, we did overindulge our kids, but the fact that they are ungrateful is due to the parents and how they raised them. I didn't overindulge mine; I listened to mine, taught them manners and how to act and dress properly, and you know what?? All three are non-materialistic, smart and caring adults who are helping to move society forward.

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