Sarah Johnson

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What makes people so judgmental?

Just wondering why people have to judge things that they don't understand so hard. I feel like you can't ask questions without someone judging you for it.

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    Jul 26 2011: We judge everything constantly, consciously and unconsciously.

    I guess you feel people judge others too quickly, too harshly, and/or unfairly based on "superficial" information or a limited perspective, and that is definitely true in a lot cases. It has a lot to do with ego. People begin to "believe" or "think" things should be done "this" way in their lives and then reflect their thoughts onto others; judging them (figuring them out).

    Judging people isn't bad nor good, what can be bad is the judgments. If our conversation continues, I will constantly judge you. Who you are. What you are like. Are you worth my time. Are you a genuine person. Etc.

    I judge things harshly constantly, it's part of my critical thinking disciplines.

    Lastly, I feel you are more upset by the overwhelming number of narcissistic people that live in the states then actually people who judge too quickly, and I share that dismay.

    There is miles of philosophy about "self" that I recommend you dig into. The problem with most of our cultures in America is that they do not care about the "self" the individuals apart of that culture. Example would be the Guidos.... to be apart of their cliche you need to look good and be ready to "party". I never met more trendy people that made such harsh judgements...

    Truly what most inspire to is not looking deep into stuff and ideas. People tend to worry about what makes them happy, and if you do not like the first few things you witness about something, you judge them poorly based on cognitive bias of emotional "patternicity"... basically, if A,B,C makes you happy and then D makes you sad; while you continue to love A,B,C for their happy emotions, you hate D more and more for it is attached to negative emotions.

    Emotions control the way we think at times. That is why the idea of "the first impression is the most important" is really a wise idea. If the first time you meet someone and they leave laughing and happy, they will remember you,no question
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      Jul 26 2011: Nick...Have you read "Blink" ?
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        Jul 26 2011: No Helen I haven't. What is it about?
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          Jul 26 2011: Hi Nick....It's about why first impressions are often correct. Good read !
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    Jul 25 2011: Hi Sarah
    man's mind is like drum , if it be empty ,it's sound will be loud and viceversa ..
    was it clear??
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    Jul 25 2011: Some people are judgemental in a negative way because they see themselves as superior to those they are judging. in fact, you have to think that you are superior in order to pass judgement.
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      Jul 25 2011: Helen,

      I don't feel that you neccesarily have to feel superior to someone to pass judgment on them. I often judge people as better than me at something therefore creating a useful tool in my life.

      I have however met people who like to judge people and try to see them in a negative light simply to make themselves feel more secure.
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        Jul 26 2011: Alex....Good post that is the other side of the coin. I, too, know people have more talent in some areas than I do, but in essence they are not better than I.
        Since you cannot see motive then judge not. (:>)

        And thank you Sarah for the thumbs up.
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      Jul 26 2011: Hmmm that makes sense. I think it's almost along the same lines as people that make fun of other people because they are insecure. I do my best to never pass judgment on other people though, we are all different and special in our own way. I am just tired of people that can't just be nice.
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    Jul 26 2011: It's due to pre-concieved idea, belief, thoughts and fear of breaking status quo.........after all most people likes to be with in own comfort zone. Breaking staus quo or going out of pre-conception pushes oneself to step in to out of their comfort zone with wich most are not comfortable with I guess.
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    Jul 26 2011: Judgement is based in the survival instinct. We judge hard because we are at our roots fighting for survival at all levels of life. If you look different, talk different, act different, or are in any other way different from me or my family you are perceived as a threat to my existence. So I make a judgement and that judgement must enhance or protect my continued existence as I perceive it. It is only hard from the perspective of the person being judged. To the person making the judgement it is emotional, logical, and safe. This is one way to understand why people are so judgement oriented. All cultures and peoples do it and no one is immune from it. Terms like geek, freak, animal, wierdo, fag, etc. show how it is part of every culture. Very few people will strive to control the judging side of themselves and most of those are the Saints of history, Even animals are judges. I had an arabian horse that hated gray horses and would try to kick an bite them. Why I do not know but that is the way she was. It is survival instinct and our duty as humans is to rise above animals and control it and how we interface with other people.
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      Jul 26 2011: James....Indeed, I judge that everyone is my equal and I am theirs.
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    Jul 26 2011: I enjoy & appreciate when people respond the way you did. Thank you so much for the thorough explanation.
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    Jul 26 2011: Wow thank you so much for your insight. I guess that question probably sounded naive but sometimes things are bigger than we understand. You have helped me understand on a deeper level and aspect why people judge.