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Salim Solaiman


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Are you aware of something called "Honor Killing" ? What's your view about the way of bringing this tyranny into an end quickly?

There is a discussion going on here on justification of Death Penalty started by Laurens Rademakers, lot of discussion going on there. Was thinking what about "Honor Killing".

If someone is not aware of that it's a traditional practice of Killing a preson or persons by family or tribe or society member for the sake of keeping the so called HONOR high. No surprise in most cases targets are Women (are we still modern human really ?)!!!

Though in general it is projected as to be something in place to keep sexual morality of society sacred by preventing extra-marital sex or pre martial sex or in broad to prevent adultary it's not always so. In many countries if women go to the court for a divorce even for a valid reason , after winning the case she is being killed in court premise not by her husband of family memebers of husband rather killed by her own father / brother/ any other family member of her own family !!!! What a brutal society we are still having !!!!

In some countries this so Called Honor Killing has got legal approval from in countries legislative code !!! For more reading can check the links below


I know how shocked & shameful the community here will feel about this brutality. Now the question is

How the sufferers can bring it to an end ?
Why this brutality is not in the media that much ?
What the aware empathetic MEN of those society should do?

Edit : Thread is edited to some extent since it was posted with the great suggestion from Birdia :)


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    Jul 27 2011: Less than 5 minutes ago: My father's mother was murdered by her brother when he was too young to remember. Her crime was divorcing her husband. My family (including my father) hid this fact from me until I found out in my 30s. They were ashamed. I am now on a mission to return to Iran (where my parents are from--I was born in the U.S.) to ask my uncle why he committed such an act. I will never understand this kind of behaviour. It makes no sense to me, and I am hoping that speaking to this uncle will at least help me figure out how a brother could murder his own sister. As the granddaughter of a victim of Honor Killing, I can attest that nothing can erase the natural inertia of What Will Be. I am proof of that.

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      Jul 28 2011: A standing ovation to you for sharing your very personal horrible story which is still a reality in many countries. So called modern society of those country and it's people seems deaf and dumb about it !!!

      Great round of applause for your determination to face the person who did that henious crime. A bit worried about your safety , as you are going to Iran to challenge that, please take care of.

      As below here, had long discussion with Birdia , for a change, challenge need to come from with in society itself, but your step can be great leap forward.

      You have very good writing skill as browsed through your blogs.
      May I suggest to change your title may be in to "persiandilemma", as I feel "perversion" can't express what you wanted say about you rather "dilemma" can or "persianconviction" seems even better as I see how determined you are.
      Have good day. All my best wishes
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        Jul 28 2011: Thanks Salim for the thoughtful response! While honor killing has happened in Iran (as it does in other countries such as Italy and India--everywhere from South America to Asia), it's not really accepted in Tehran. That is why my family never told me why my grandmother died, and that is why my uncle (the one who murdered my grandmother) is estranged from our family and nobody speaks or visits him anymore. What he did was considered so bad that the entire family feels ashamed and refuses to talk about it.

        Please keep reading my blog to hear how this progresses! I love comments and I need the support! I hope to have my Iranian identity papers confirmed in a few months, at which point I will be buying a ticket to Tehran to get to the bottom of this mystery.

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          Jul 29 2011: Dear T E
          You are welcome.
          It doesn't really make difference whether it's acceptable or not to one or the other city or one or the other family, that's completely my view. If the country / society doesn't see it as a crime as a simple cold blooded murder and doesn't punish the the person responsible , that brutalty takes it as granted as if it's accepted.

          In my language there is a prverb that says "silence means acceptance" though it's not true always but seems by at large it is so.

          I am following your blog if that gives you courage , will continue to do so.
          By the way your writing skill is good :)
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          Jul 31 2011: Hi Kate
          You know , there is very strong law in my country against abuse like "rape". But girls / family of girls tend to keep quiet unless exposed soemway as , going to law may punish the culprit but the VICTIM will be victimized for life long by society.

          Once in court or exposed , another vulgarity starts. The lawyer of the culprit or people in favour of him, try to prove the girl had an illicit relation with the culprit for long as suddenly something didn't work the way she wanted, that's why she is now complaining about being raped. Sometimes they also try to prove that the victim actually a prostitute.....

          think of the extent..... more vulgarity starts as media jumps on those nasty lies makes more stories ........ so the victim & her family realize what is called HELL.......!!!

          That may be the reason of silence in these cases ......

          We need to really shake up mindset of the society as a whole

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