Karina García

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What about REAL LOVE?

True love is not the impoverishment of who love, its interior enrichment without depending on the other.
Believing that we can not be complete or be happy without a relationship is what is not healthy. We forget that we are not halves that can not be completed without a relationship, we have the ability to be happy for ourselves, cultivating our own growth at some point may be fortunate that can be shared with anyone else but without losing our essence.
Erich Fromm: "The paradox of love is that two become one and yet remain two."

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    Jul 10 2011: .
    I have another definition of love: the complete abandonement of onesself to the other, without asking anything in return. As in gift economics. Love is an unconditional potlatch.

    Everything else is limited, rational economics and prostitution.
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      Jul 10 2011: What do you do when you realise you have been used? Keep loving or "grab a gun" and start "shooting"?
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        Jul 11 2011: You have to have an understanding of psychological make up of the person who you think used you, to let ir go.Barring that you need to control your anger. Love is not an emotion, it is dedication to a principle of respecting and caring.for everyone including yourself.
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    Jul 11 2011: Love is both a miracle and a curse.That is just what it is.
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    Jul 10 2011: To be love it has to be reciprocated. Otherwise it is still not a real love.
  • Eva M

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    Jul 10 2011: How can you call it love, if there is even not enough TRUST there to depend on the other person for support?

    It is unhealthy if someone is attached to being romantically involved, but real love exists IN relationships to the others. How can you call it love if it has nothing to to with SOMEONE? I call it a self-pleasing illusion, as many that are popular today.

    Intimacy for a human being IS the water for a fish. It doesn't need to be man-woman relationship. Deep committed friendships would do it.

    It is sad that people get to believe in self-growth and think that it can replace relationships, that they can "be happy for oneself". It is trying to talk oneself out of a heartbreak of not having anyone to share the deep feelings, thoughs and together consider the challenges of life. The self-talk "I am whole by myself" is just a compensation for: "I feel empty." Going to self-growth seminars serves as an attempt to get to experience something that would soothe the pain. It works for the time of the seminar, but once you live the room, you are back on your own, Jack, and your heart aches.

    But what do I know, maybe that is what people want. It sells well. I would just say: "yes, what about real love?"
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      Jul 10 2011: Love and trust are together. Feed the love in you and the confidence will grow. With this confidence, loves the world. Real love always comes from within us.
      • Eva M

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        Jul 10 2011: Yes, love and trust go together, but I don't see any trust in this: "True love is not the impoverishment of who love, its interior enrichment without depending on the other." Without depending on the other??? Not depending on the others is distrusting and unloving. That is what I was referring to.
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    Jul 10 2011: LOVE Is nothing but the cultivation of our mind.
    the more u think of any thing,it seems more intresting...
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    Jul 10 2011: Is anything wrong with system? Why same post coming thrice!!!!
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      Jul 10 2011: The closing time of each is different. Which means it is intentionaly. I think so.