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What about REAL LOVE?

True love is not the impoverishment of who love, its interior enrichment without depending on the other.
Believing that we can not be complete or be happy without a relationship is what is not healthy. We forget that we are not halves that can not be completed without a relationship, we have the ability to be happy for ourselves, cultivating our own growth at some point may be fortunate that can be shared with anyone else but without losing our essence.
Erich Fromm: "The paradox of love is that two become one and yet remain two."

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  • Eva M

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    Jul 10 2011: How can you call it love, if there is even not enough TRUST there to depend on the other person for support?

    It is unhealthy if someone is attached to being romantically involved, but real love exists IN relationships to the others. How can you call it love if it has nothing to to with SOMEONE? I call it a self-pleasing illusion, as many that are popular today.

    Intimacy for a human being IS the water for a fish. It doesn't need to be man-woman relationship. Deep committed friendships would do it.

    It is sad that people get to believe in self-growth and think that it can replace relationships, that they can "be happy for oneself". It is trying to talk oneself out of a heartbreak of not having anyone to share the deep feelings, thoughs and together consider the challenges of life. The self-talk "I am whole by myself" is just a compensation for: "I feel empty." Going to self-growth seminars serves as an attempt to get to experience something that would soothe the pain. It works for the time of the seminar, but once you live the room, you are back on your own, Jack, and your heart aches.

    But what do I know, maybe that is what people want. It sells well. I would just say: "yes, what about real love?"
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      Jul 10 2011: Love and trust are together. Feed the love in you and the confidence will grow. With this confidence, loves the world. Real love always comes from within us.
      • Eva M

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        Jul 10 2011: Yes, love and trust go together, but I don't see any trust in this: "True love is not the impoverishment of who love, its interior enrichment without depending on the other." Without depending on the other??? Not depending on the others is distrusting and unloving. That is what I was referring to.

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