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What is the one thing that you wish you could do but are too afraid?

Every day we make choices - both to do and not to do. Why? What drives our decisions not to do something? Try something? Is it fear of failure? Fear of success? Or just plain fear?


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    Jun 26 2011: I have a fear of heights (not irrational ... just won't go too near edges of buildings, for example). I would love to fly (paraglider, ultralight, hang-glider) but because of this fear, I have so far not done it.

    However, I was amazed about two years ago when I went on a balloon flight (a present from my kids). Even at several hundred meters up in the air, I felt no vertigo whatsoever. At one stage, I even had the courage to lean out slightly and take a picture of the occupants of the balloon.

    It still puzzles me to this day why I did not feel the slightest bit of vertigo whilst in that balloon. It has encouraged me to now consider the possibility of flying ... just need the time and opportunity.
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      Jul 17 2011: Hi Pat,

      What you tell is a known phenomenon. Some altitude people (skydivers, paragliders, etc.) tell that they feel ok. while doing these high altitude sports although they get fear of heights if they stand near the edge of a building or look to the ground from the 10th floor for example. I think that it is about the quantity of reference objects and their physical relationships (volume and distance) to each other and to the subject. During free fall (skydiving, paragliding, etc. NOT BASE jumping) for example you can't even feel your real speed (which is approx 200km/h [130mph]) because there is nothing that your brain can compare your relative location to...

      So I think that you can do some of these activities...
    • Jul 18 2011: Hi Pat,

      I suffer from fear of heights too. Yet I had a career as aircrew. For me the fear was actually of falling, not the heights themselves. Anywhere I feel secure, like in a plane or even in the harness of a hangglider, the fear is usually absent and always manageable. I wonder if it's similar for you?


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