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What are the differences between love and lust?

I'd just like to hear what others have to say.

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    Jun 27 2011: Love I do for you.
    Lust I do for me.
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    Jun 25 2011: Love is a choice - not a feeling. If you are prepared to put someone else's welfare ahead of your needs and wants - it will come back to you like a boomerang. People lose track of their marriage wows and are not prepared to last the distance. But make so mistake - any relationship will be tested. Sex is the glue that keeps committed couples together. Lust like pornography is highly addictive and cause people to let go of long term goals for a short quick fix. Problem you're not young forever...
  • Jul 2 2011: Lust lacks commitment.
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    Jul 2 2011: Lust is an intense sexual desire or appetite. Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
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    Jun 29 2011: One got hopelessly mired in romance, the other does not wear those particular rose-coloured glasses.

    One is an ideal the other is material.
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    Jun 26 2011: Love is about the other person. One has to be ready emotionally to put someone else's ego as equals to theirs. When one lusts after someone then that person is merely a prop. The object of ones desire. This is not bad if you are honest about it, but it is still an exercise in narcissism.
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    Jun 25 2011: When you are in love, you at times will lust over your mate. However, when you are in lust, you just lust! ;-)

    BUT Debra is correct that Oxytocin plays a key role in bonding with one's partner...and that is why FWB may start out that way, but for the most part, the female will want more as she begins to the release of this hormone during sex.
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    Jun 25 2011: Oxytocin is a key element in differentiating love from lust. This hormone is one that creates bonding and nest building in people. Rushing into sex too soon creates dopamine highs in the brain that many people identify with being 'in love'. It is however, the oxytocin that creates bonding that is evident in longer term love.
  • Jun 25 2011: More often than not, "having sex" is the phrase used to describe sexual intercourse, an expression that strikes me as having more to do with lust fulfillment than consummation of love. This is not to say that love is devoid of passion. Far from it. Loving with passion is joyful, deeply fulfilling, and sustaining; passion without love is pleasurable, immediately satisfying, but teporary and often insatiable. "Making love" is far more preferable to simply "having sex."