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Bank Pohtirak Saengsawang

Educator - Information Technology, St. Andrews International School - Green Valley

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Take a deep breath and smile when negativity arises

It's the simple practice i've been using to attain self-control in various kind of situations. With this practice, forgiveness, understanding, love, & compassion arise and radiate to all things including to ourselves :)

"Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing."
~Mother Teresa

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Topics: compassion forgiveness humanity love meditation moral psychology self-improvement
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    Summer Kim

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    Jun 23 2011: I agree with this.Of course it's hard to smile at someone who made me get angry but if once I start smiling and then relaxing my mind most anger goes away slowly and finally I can keep calm by myself. It is also important to show our feeling to others in order to express how we feel and give a notice not to be in the same situation, but normally just with small problems it would be better to avoid making trouble with acquaintances. For this, we can do smile, then we would be a patient person as well! But the important point is that we should follow this way of keeping calm when we have minor problems, because if we smile when we are furious, this will never work and maybe the problems will be bigger than before! x)
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    Kelwalin Dhanasarnsombut 100+

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    Jun 21 2011: Nice wisdom. I know it's hard to do sometime and people might not know what're you doing that for. Well, at least it's good for yourself.
    Having said about forgiveness, there's one said something like "To be angry is like you're holding hot stone in your hand. It's very uncomfortable to hold and you spontaneously throw it away from you; don't really care where it will go and whom is going to be hit. For this, you are likely to hurt someone near you, unintentionallly. But even befor that, you've already hurt yourself with that hot stone."
    So I think smile can make us calm and at least prevent the "hand-holding-hot-stone" situation. :D

  • Bob Shingles 10+

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    Jun 20 2011: Get mad when negativity arises! Take action!

    "When life gives you lemons don't make lemonade. Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don't want your damn lemons! What am I supposed to do with these?

    Demand to see life's manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I'm the man who's going to burn your house down! With the Lemons! I'm going to get my engineers to invent a combustible lemon that burns your house down!"

    -Cave Johnson
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