Vlad Fiscutean

Brand Designer & CEO, TEDx Timisoara


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What is the best advice you received in your life?

We like to give advices. We like to receive them, when they are good.
Advice is probably the most spread form of sharing knowledge directly from one person to another.

What is the best advice you received in your life?

  • Jul 11 2011: Take nothing personally.
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      May 30 2011: Jafia,
      That is a good one...thanks for sharing it:>)

      Facing death certainly can cause us to look at life differently. We ARE naked, until we pack on the burdens of external expectations, pride, fear of embarrassment of failure, etc. When we take off the protective masks, we realize they were only protecting us from knowing ourselves and what is important:>)
    • Jul 8 2011: I found it very useful in my life. At the end the most that will matter is not your job or money but people around you i.e. your family and friends.
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      Jul 9 2011: You are right, the quote is from Steve Jobs', June 12, 2005, commencement address at Stanford University.

      You can read the whole address here:

  • Jul 13 2011: The truth will set you free, but first it will really piss you off.
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    Jun 12 2011: > What is the best advice you received in your life?

    You have one mouth and two ears. Listen more than you talk.
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    Jul 21 2011: Be in the race, but with yourself only. Consider the world as a 5D movie, where everything may vanish in the blink of eye, compare yourself with yourself only on the basis of the every last day spent, and keep a daily check. everybody has to fight with himself and every fight is unique in a sense. Advices are based upon experiences, may or may not be applicable to every unique individual in the same way. Though most important thing, Do no harm to others.
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    Jul 12 2011: Even impossible has the word possible
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    May 31 2011: To answer the question, the best advice I have had in my life is, "Life is more of marathon than you think..." And in my mid-40s, I can only agree!
    To digress a little, I make no comment on the quality of advice, but broadly, this is what I have written for my teenage children:
    1. Never do nothing
    2. Sneaky is best - there are many ways to skin a cat
    3. Choose your battles - can't win don't try
    S. Never lie - not because bad, but because you'll always get caught
    6. Believe in karma. Do good, and good stuff will happen to you. Do bad stuff, and bad stuff will happen to you
    7. Work hard, and enjoy it, and make it lucrative. Whether studying or working for a living, you're going to have to do it...so enjoy it, and made it most lucrative and rewarding as you can in all ways
    8. Respect other people, but always put yourself first. Have the most time for your own opniion; try to accommodate others in your plans but give 51% of your love to yourself
    9. Never panic - anything is fixable, it's never as bad as you think, but, also, don't do nothing, act to fix things not let problem fester and get worse..harder to recover a crashing plane than one just wobbling a bit!
    10. Make a difference. Okay, maybe not to the World, but to the people around you. Do small things, be charitable, be conscious of people less well off than you. Try to make a small positive difference every day, even if just carrying bag for old lady
    11. Love. Don't be afraid to give love, or be loved, and tell people you love them
    12. Order some starters when you first arrive in a restaurant
    13. Go into the World with curipousity, be amazed by simple things - leaves, snowflakes. Be curious about how the world works
    14. Never look back with regret or nostalgia, never stay still in stasis. Do try to have a a different year each year, ie: when you're 50, have 30 years of experience not 30 years of one year repeated.
    15. Do what you want to do
    16. Live the life you have imagined. Go forward to fulfil your dreams
    • Jul 8 2011: Thank you for sharing many great advises like:

      "13. Go into the World with curipousity, be amazed by simple things - leaves, snowflakes. Be curious about how the world works"
      This is great advice!

      but I am curious about your reason for these:

      "S. Never lie - not because bad, but because you'll always get caught"

      Why not because it is the right thing to do?

      "8. Respect other people, but always put yourself first. Have the most time for your own opniion; try to accommodate others in your plans but give 51% of your love to yourself"

      That does not work well when you have kids =)

      "10. Make a difference. Okay, maybe not to the World, but to the people around you. "

      Why not to make a difference to a child in other country? I find it rewarding to help others in abroad that cannot satisfy their basic needs?

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    Jun 13 2011: The best advise I recieved in my life is.

    Give back to the community
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    Jul 10 2011: I've heard many advises but the one that stuck with the most was the one my French teacher told us. She told us to "Don't take it personally" when someone insults you or talks down to you because you're different. She was one of the most eccentric persons I've ever met and simply a great person
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    Jun 8 2011: "Stand for something...or fall for anything"
    • Jun 8 2011: This reminds me of a quote by Martin Luther King Jr.

      "A man can't ride your back unless it's bent."
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        Jun 12 2011: Thats good
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        Jun 14 2011: Even though being similar to each other, I think "Stand for something...or fall for anything" and "A man can't ride your back unless it's bent." has quite different meanings.

        The first having to do with fighting internal temptation, while the second has to do with not allowing external opression.
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      Jun 15 2011: good one Baz
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    May 29 2011: From My Father.

    .always tell the truth, always seek the truth
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      Jun 3 2011: I read this and came to mind an advice from my mom -
      There is always just one truth, whereas there can be many lies. If you go on the path of lies, you sure at some point, will get confused, confounded and left astray to where to go next.
      Although I learned later that there are many ways to master the art of lying and coming clean out of it. :P
    • Jul 8 2011: Great this is something I have to tell my daughter as well =)
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    Jul 8 2011: -Responsibility means Response Ability, you're able to respond to anything however you want, responsibility is a burden.. and a privilege.
    -There is nothing noble about being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self.
    Just these were enough to open my eyes.
  • May 28 2011: i guess it would be: "our glory is not in never falling, but in rising up everytime we fall."
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    May 28 2011: Don't discuss religion or politics--- and I am stil ignoring it. why? why? why?
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      May 28 2011: it was pretty bad advise :)
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      May 28 2011: I think I will take that advice and run with it Debra.
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      May 29 2011: I'll also take that advice
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        May 30 2011: I really would like to see a better world! My heart is still beating and my head is still hungry so I guess it is likely that I will keep ignoring the burns!
    • Jul 8 2011: I think any topic should be discussed so we all learn to hear other opinions and views but there are times where such discussions are not convenient e.g. when having a b-day party =)
  • Jul 15 2011: “A pessimist sees only the dark side of the clouds, and mopes; a philosopher sees both sides, and shrugs; an optimist doesn’t see the clouds at all – he’s walking on them.” ~Leonard Louis Levinson
  • Jul 9 2011: A piece of simple advise I am operating from lately is this concept: People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care. Thus, I am seeking to take genuine interest in others and demonstrate caring which will hopefully allow me to mentor more people. I now believe that I need to know and care about all people that I hope to lead/mentor. Others must be confident that I have their best interests at heart.
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    Jul 1 2011: Back in 1969, in first grade school, the librarian lady said to me: "These books are here for you to read, no matter the language they are printed!"
    • Jul 11 2011: This is great. Reading is one of the best things anyone can do for themselves.
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    Jun 26 2011: What you are looking for is within you.
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    Jun 26 2011: "Nothing can be worse than possessing the brains and ability and not applying either of them"
  • Jun 23 2011: Love many, trust few. Always paddle your own canoe
  • Jun 18 2011: Love as you wish to be loved and treat others as you wish to be treated.
  • Jun 17 2011: Don't be hard and breakable and leniant and squeezable
  • Jun 14 2011: My favorite:

    "Do not repeat the tactics which have gained you one victory, but let your methods be regulated by the infinite variety of circumstances."
    - Sun Tzu

    and also:

    "Wealth does not bring about excellence, but excellence makes wealth and everything else good for men, both individually and collectively"
    - Socrates
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    May 31 2011: "For success aim high & stretch yourself , for happiness look downwards to yourself" something like this I heard as a kid from my father.
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    May 30 2011: Never give up. Although sometimes you must reevaluate your course of action don't be hesitant to change with insight from that evaluation.

    Always listen to knowledge, no matter the source.
  • May 29 2011: Do good things and don't expect reimbursement.
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    May 28 2011: In my world you do not earn respect. That is something thatis due every man/woman/child because of the very fact that they are human. You cannot diss someone without dissing yourself. The advice about taking responsibility for yourself and your actions is wonderful and on target. I know some people who do not do that and they have a very hard time in life. (:>)
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    Jul 11 2011: "If you want the truth to stand clear before you, never be for or against. The struggle between for and against is the minds worst disease"
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    Jun 28 2011: The great Norwegian explorer Thor Heyerdahl once said: "Everything is possible, until the opposite is proven".
    Seeing a thousand white swans does not refute the existence of black swans...
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    Jun 18 2011: I don't know if this is the best I've got but this is certainly the funniest : EAT LIKE A PIG AND MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY!
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    Jun 3 2011: An advise from me to myself -
    I am not special because I don't have any special speciality that makes me any more special of all the possible special beings around me. But I am different.
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    May 31 2011: "Wait your turn, but when it IS your turn, take it."
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      Jun 1 2011: I like it. It sounds interesting and seems to imply many things.
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        Jun 1 2011: Well, I interpret it as "Don't be greedy or pushy but recognize that you are entitled to your share of (insert object or state that you desire)"...maybe it's best understood as a variant of the Golden Rule; "Don't diminish others' opportunities and don't let others diminish yours"
  • May 29 2011: *** Increase the Remembrance of Death ***

    prophet Muhammad (peace on him)
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    May 29 2011: "Don't wait for the right moment to come in the distant future when you finally can unleash your full potential and become what you allways have wanted to be. Take action now, make misstakes and learn from them!",

    in combination with

    "Compassion and Altruism Lead to Happiness".

    Actually, the person who gave me the first advice were also the one who told me about TED. And nowhere have I so rapidly absorbed useful "advices" as here. So he turned out to be invaluable.
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    May 28 2011: I recieved a lot of good advice from many different sources throughout my life. One thing that stands out in my mind and heart, and created a HUGE learning curve, is a book that was given to me by a very dear friend who was an insightful human being and just happened to be a psychologist:>) I say "was" because she died of ovarian cancer several years ago. She gave me a book called "Pulling Your Own Strings", by Wayne Dyer. It offers..." a technique for dealing with other people and living life as you choose". At a time in my life when I was depleting my energy in an attempt to help others feel more comfortable, the ideas presented in this book were appreciated:">)
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    May 28 2011: If you want to be an Actor you must approach it with a single-mindedness. I would say that applies to anything really.
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    May 28 2011: Take responsibility for your own actions and inaction, not until then can you expect anyone to truly respect you!
    [one of the most valuable lessons in my life, taught to me by my lovely host mother during my year in Bari, Italy at the age of 17]
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    May 28 2011: its kind of a hard question.. .. all my life I've been consuming advices but i think the best was
    "always look to the bright side"
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        May 29 2011: Thanks, Nichola - I will never see that ditty the same way again!
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        Jun 1 2011: Hey Nichola. Haven't we met somewhere before?
  • Jul 20 2011: Big time is where you're at.
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    Jul 5 2011: keep doing your work, don't worry about the result
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    Jun 29 2011: Jesus, "First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend's eye"
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      Jun 29 2011: Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye. – Matthew 7:5
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    Jun 21 2011: If someone doesn't pay your rent or buy your food, pay for or oversee your education, or fix you when you're ill, why do you care what they say or think about you?
  • Jun 19 2011: Courtesy of my dad - "If you can make a positive difference in someone else's life, do it."
    • Jul 8 2011: Excellent advice. There is so much we can do to help others esp. in difficult circumstances =)
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    Jun 14 2011: Learn to love!
  • Jun 8 2011: I always liked what my dad said about my grandfather; that he always knew how to learn from other people's mistakes.
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      Jun 3 2011: Form my father -
      Never judge someone from his behavior, try to figure his motivation first.
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    May 29 2011: "Trust no one" & ' Just have a little faith in yourself' !!
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      May 29 2011: Wow!
      I would advise my own kids to have faith in themselves but to trust wisely. Trusting no one leads to a lonely and isolated life, in my opinion. Trusting is a glorious freedom in a relationship. Sure you can get hurt but you also see so much more of the other's good side.
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        May 30 2011: I agree with you Debra but in some circumstances this trusting thing applies that's why i always keep this in my mind.
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          May 30 2011: Good for you Aseem! You are going to do just great!
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    May 29 2011: Do something good for the people before you die ?.